Another kid broke my son's jaw

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Former Res Life employee and have lawyers in the family. Just wanted to say that the PP who noted *proportionate reaction* is accurate. In other words, the kid who broke OP's son's jaw better lawyer up, because that kid clearly over reacted, and will more likely than not have to leave school for his outrageous temper and inability to control himself at an adult age (Preschool behavior, maybe. Adult? Absolutely not.). No college can afford to have a loose canon on campus. OP, definitely press charges and find out about the statute of limitations in that state. Good luck.

The idiocy defending the jaw breaker (literally) on some of the upthread posts is astounding.

Total bullshit. You don't know what is "clearly" true in this case because you do not know the facts. It is entirely possible that it was self defense, if the full circumstances were known.

[Anonymous]

I’d sure love to hear the real story on “touching his head”

Was her DS trying to make it look accidental?
Was it immature poking to torment?
Was it egging on to encourage the other guy to do something?
Was it a long touch misinterpreted as a romantic come-on?

Were they all really not drinking?
Are they known to horse around?
So many variables that could change intent for me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:^You are obviously not a lawyer and don’t know what the hell you are talking about.

X1000 and the article even explains it (pg4?)

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:^You are obviously not a lawyer and don’t know what the hell you are talking about.

He assaulted someone. He was told to stop and then he assaulted them again. The response was self defense. No one can argue with that, whether his jaw got broken or not.

You don’t know law and you won’t StFU. DEAD wrong. But there’s no stopping you

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Former Res Life employee and have lawyers in the family. Just wanted to say that the PP who noted *proportionate reaction* is accurate. In other words, the kid who broke OP's son's jaw better lawyer up, because that kid clearly over reacted, and will more likely than not have to leave school for his outrageous temper and inability to control himself at an adult age (Preschool behavior, maybe. Adult? Absolutely not.). No college can afford to have a loose canon on campus. OP, definitely press charges and find out about the statute of limitations in that state. Good luck.

The idiocy defending the jaw breaker (literally) on some of the upthread posts is astounding.

And, with any luck, the jaw breaker has documented harassment enough that he can sue the school for the toxic environment in the dorms and the failure to address bullying.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Wow. I'd be upset too but presumably you have health insurance so you're just on the hook for co-pays. It's not worth suing that kid or his family for co-pays. Forget the money. Get it fixed with the best medical attention and advise your son to stay away from this guy.

This is likely the route we will take. I appreciate the real advice. Not really thinking of suing but just upset. My son is 1000 miles away and I feel helpless.

Your son is, technically, an adult. If you've babied him this far, thats your fault. Time he learns how to look after himself.

By all means get in your helicopter and fly there and hover over him. how long do you plan to do this...? Til he's 25? 30?

He’s 18 with a very serious injury. That’s not helicoptering. Gimme a break.

My sister is 46 and I would go to her if she had a broken jaw. Same for my mom, who is 80. And they would come for me, though in all likelihood DH could handle it alone.

It's called being a family. I'm sorry if there is no one who would do that for you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Former Res Life employee and have lawyers in the family. Just wanted to say that the PP who noted *proportionate reaction* is accurate. In other words, the kid who broke OP's son's jaw better lawyer up, because that kid clearly over reacted, and will more likely than not have to leave school for his outrageous temper and inability to control himself at an adult age (Preschool behavior, maybe. Adult? Absolutely not.). No college can afford to have a loose canon on campus. OP, definitely press charges and find out about the statute of limitations in that state. Good luck.

The idiocy defending the jaw breaker (literally) on some of the upthread posts is astounding.

And, with any luck, the jaw breaker has documented harassment enough that he can sue the school for the toxic environment in the dorms and the failure to address bullying.

There is not much that would justify breaking someone's jaw, sorry to tell you. Your DC is prob much like the perp in this story, and/or has anger issues, but your DC is in for a long road. You are not helping. I am trying to tell you this nicely. Clearly you do not want to hear it, clearly this hits home for you, but you are doing your DC no favors.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Former Res Life employee and have lawyers in the family. Just wanted to say that the PP who noted *proportionate reaction* is accurate. In other words, the kid who broke OP's son's jaw better lawyer up, because that kid clearly over reacted, and will more likely than not have to leave school for his outrageous temper and inability to control himself at an adult age (Preschool behavior, maybe. Adult? Absolutely not.). No college can afford to have a loose canon on campus. OP, definitely press charges and find out about the statute of limitations in that state. Good luck.

The idiocy defending the jaw breaker (literally) on some of the upthread posts is astounding.

And, with any luck, the jaw breaker has documented harassment enough that he can sue the school for the toxic environment in the dorms and the failure to address bullying.

Or you know, we could all just get the F over it, make sure the kids heals and move on. I'm willing to bet that unless there are simmering issues, the guys involved are probably getting passed it as we speak. It got out of hand. Lesson learned. They probably both feel like shit.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:^You are obviously not a lawyer and don’t know what the hell you are talking about.

He assaulted someone. He was told to stop and then he assaulted them again. The response was self defense. No one can argue with that, whether his jaw got broken or not.

You don’t know law and you won’t StFU. DEAD wrong. But there’s no stopping you

You don't know shit, either. There are very definitely scenarios where this was self-defense. We don't know what the surrounding circumstances are - the OP hasn't told us, and may not know herself - but nevertheless people like you keep blathering about assault and disproportionate force. STFU yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’d fly out there. A college kid in good health has no experience hiring medical professionals and you want this repaired properly.

That matters more than who pays.

Yes be there, otherwise you DC may end up with unnecessary surgery by some predatory doctor. It almost happened to my DC at college.

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry this happened, OP. How is he doing?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Former Res Life employee and have lawyers in the family. Just wanted to say that the PP who noted *proportionate reaction* is accurate. In other words, the kid who broke OP's son's jaw better lawyer up, because that kid clearly over reacted, and will more likely than not have to leave school for his outrageous temper and inability to control himself at an adult age (Preschool behavior, maybe. Adult? Absolutely not.). No college can afford to have a loose canon on campus. OP, definitely press charges and find out about the statute of limitations in that state. Good luck.

The idiocy defending the jaw breaker (literally) on some of the upthread posts is astounding.

Total bullshit. You don't know what is "clearly" true in this case because you do not know the facts. It is entirely possible that it was self defense, if the full circumstances were known.

Exactly this. Proportionate reaction is not a legal concept. It's proportional force, which is intertwined with the concept of necessity. If the other kid was using the swing to get OP's kid off him, that very well could be proportional and necessary.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Every time I submit a health insurance claim the form asks me if it was a result of an accident or other injury. Isn’t this why?

If it's an accident, my insurance covers the first visit 100 percent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm sorry this happened, OP. How is he doing?

OP left days ago. It's just some nutty posters who keep bumping this thread up, insisting her injured kid is a menace to society.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm sorry this happened, OP. How is he doing?

OP left days ago. It's just some nutty posters who keep bumping this thread up, insisting her injured kid is a menace to society.

+1

I can't wait until this goes to court (University and local jurisdiction), and the kid that hit OPs kid gets thrown out of school. No more mommying him then, PPs - so you better step up and parent now.