Will RTO be relaxed ever?

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Anonymous wrote:Stop signing your kids up for all of these activities. It’s overkill and it makes you all grumpy and tired. Go to work and do your job and stop acting like divas.

You sound selfish. Some kids thrive with activities and being busy.

Kids thrive when they have time to spend with their families.

Who are away in the office and then commuting for hours.

The OP wrote an hour and 20 minutes. That is not an unusual amount of time to commute. Well, maybe it is for all of the people whose commute has been 20 seconds from the kitchen to the basement for the last few years.

That's almost 3 hours a day not at home with their kids anymore. We should be better than that.

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Anonymous wrote:Feds are lucky if its being relaxed as it isn't in private.

I have friends in banking and fintech, and they are all teleworking 2-3 days per week. Don't go based off what companies are saying publicly; the reality is very different (and more lenient) than the public pronouncements.

That's one company. My spouse is with a big tech company and they are 5 days a week in person even if people were work from home before covid. And, a 2-3 hour round trip commute, plus work at home nights and weekends.

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Anonymous wrote:Stop signing your kids up for all of these activities. It’s overkill and it makes you all grumpy and tired. Go to work and do your job and stop acting like divas.

You sound selfish. Some kids thrive with activities and being busy.

Kids thrive when they have time to spend with their families.

Well RTO certainly isn’t helping with that either.

Sure it is. Everyone I know who works in person comes home from work, makes dinner and eats it with their family. Just like many generations before us. What has changed is wealthy families overscheduling their kids in the hope it will get them into better colleges. No wonder so many of them are anxious/depressed.

Its not overscheduling to have yoru kids in activities and its not just wealthy. There is financial help. Many families like us make it work. My parents were like you and very selfish. Everything revolved around them and their interests, not ours. I will not do that to my kids. It was boring and lonely. They didn't spend time with us. We ate dinner together but that was it. Then we all went to our seperate rooms.

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Anonymous wrote:Stop signing your kids up for all of these activities. It’s overkill and it makes you all grumpy and tired. Go to work and do your job and stop acting like divas.

You sound selfish. Some kids thrive with activities and being busy.

Kids thrive when they have time to spend with their families.

Well RTO certainly isn’t helping with that either.

Sure it is. Everyone I know who works in person comes home from work, makes dinner and eats it with their family. Just like many generations before us. What has changed is wealthy families overscheduling their kids in the hope it will get them into better colleges. No wonder so many of them are anxious/depressed.

Its not overscheduling to have yoru kids in activities and its not just wealthy. There is financial help. Many families like us make it work. My parents were like you and very selfish. Everything revolved around them and their interests, not ours. I will not do that to my kids. It was boring and lonely. They didn't spend time with us. We ate dinner together but that was it. Then we all went to our seperate rooms.

This is not the topic of the thread or the board.

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Yes RTO is being relaxed. New WH policy calls for telework to allow people to do daily prayers or get ready for Sabbath or other religious holidays.

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Anonymous wrote:Stop signing your kids up for all of these activities. It’s overkill and it makes you all grumpy and tired. Go to work and do your job and stop acting like divas.

You sound selfish. Some kids thrive with activities and being busy.

Kids thrive when they have time to spend with their families.

Well RTO certainly isn’t helping with that either.

Sure it is. Everyone I know who works in person comes home from work, makes dinner and eats it with their family. Just like many generations before us. What has changed is wealthy families overscheduling their kids in the hope it will get them into better colleges. No wonder so many of them are anxious/depressed.

Its not overscheduling to have yoru kids in activities and its not just wealthy. There is financial help. Many families like us make it work. My parents were like you and very selfish. Everything revolved around them and their interests, not ours. I will not do that to my kids. It was boring and lonely. They didn't spend time with us. We ate dinner together but that was it. Then we all went to our seperate rooms.

So wanting to eat dinner every night with my kids is selfish? Wanting to hear about their day and talking to them is selfish? That’s really messed up in a big way.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes RTO is being relaxed. New WH policy calls for telework to allow people to do daily prayers or get ready for Sabbath or other religious holidays.

Thanks for posting this useful information.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes RTO is being relaxed. New WH policy calls for telework to allow people to do daily prayers or get ready for Sabbath or other religious holidays.

we had this my old job. We let them make up the time on Sunday. No remote.

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Anonymous wrote:Stop signing your kids up for all of these activities. It’s overkill and it makes you all grumpy and tired. Go to work and do your job and stop acting like divas.

You sound selfish. Some kids thrive with activities and being busy.

Kids thrive when they have time to spend with their families.

Well RTO certainly isn’t helping with that either.

Sure it is. Everyone I know who works in person comes home from work, makes dinner and eats it with their family. Just like many generations before us. What has changed is wealthy families overscheduling their kids in the hope it will get them into better colleges. No wonder so many of them are anxious/depressed.

Its not overscheduling to have yoru kids in activities and its not just wealthy. There is financial help. Many families like us make it work. My parents were like you and very selfish. Everything revolved around them and their interests, not ours. I will not do that to my kids. It was boring and lonely. They didn't spend time with us. We ate dinner together but that was it. Then we all went to our seperate rooms.

Yes that’s me too. I really wanted to join swim team or dance team but my parents didn’t want to lift a finger to pick me up from school. My kids can stay home all they want, but they choose to do their hobbies twice a week, which is no where near ”over scheduling”.

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Anonymous wrote:No one cares about whether kids at overscheduled. This discussion is a distraction. It seems deliberate.

There are some posters who haven’t worked since 2002 posting here.

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Anonymous wrote:Stop signing your kids up for all of these activities. It’s overkill and it makes you all grumpy and tired. Go to work and do your job and stop acting like divas.

Nowadays It’s harder to meet friends if you aren’t in some kind of activities. I live on a block of 40 kids and you can’t schedule a single one of them to play, they all have multiple activities.

That's just an UMC thing. Come on over to the MC where kids might do one activity but that's it. My kids have chores, jobs, etc. They meet plenty of people at school, summer jobs, in the neighborhood, etc.

8-15 years can work? I would encourage babysitting or cat sitting around age 14, that still leaves a few years you need to plan their social schedule.

A lot of town sports teams are pretty affordable like $120 for the semester.

I had a paper route at age 12 and walked neighbors dog in middle of day after school while she worked. Kids should be working starting at 12.

ok so what about 8-12?

Actually the paper route at 12 was first job on the books with working papers and paycheck. My first job was at 5 myself and 7 year old brother has a shoe shine business. We set up outside and Irish Bar in NYC after happy hour to do “free shoeshines” and drunk business guys in suits always tipped well. Sadly I aged out by 7 and onto grocery bag helping and dog walking till got working papers at 12. I also did car washing and briefly worked for a Fence selling stolen stuff at a flea market. He did not steal it but people sell home the stuff cheap and he resell. Mainly Hubcaps and Car Rims. That I left quickly,

I work on Wall Street now, all our guys age 45 or below wear sneakers.

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Anonymous wrote:Stop signing your kids up for all of these activities. It’s overkill and it makes you all grumpy and tired. Go to work and do your job and stop acting like divas.

You sound selfish. Some kids thrive with activities and being busy.

Kids thrive when they have time to spend with their families.

Well RTO certainly isn’t helping with that either.

Sure it is. Everyone I know who works in person comes home from work, makes dinner and eats it with their family. Just like many generations before us. What has changed is wealthy families overscheduling their kids in the hope it will get them into better colleges. No wonder so many of them are anxious/depressed.

Its not overscheduling to have yoru kids in activities and its not just wealthy. There is financial help. Many families like us make it work. My parents were like you and very selfish. Everything revolved around them and their interests, not ours. I will not do that to my kids. It was boring and lonely. They didn't spend time with us. We ate dinner together but that was it. Then we all went to our seperate rooms.

Yes that’s me too. I really wanted to join swim team or dance team but my parents didn’t want to lift a finger to pick me up from school. My kids can stay home all they want, but they choose to do their hobbies twice a week, which is no where near ”over scheduling”.

I was in the same boat, zero after school activities because my parents were both at work. We did eat dinner together and watch TV together and that was it because they were exhausted.

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Anonymous wrote:Stop signing your kids up for all of these activities. It’s overkill and it makes you all grumpy and tired. Go to work and do your job and stop acting like divas.

You sound selfish. Some kids thrive with activities and being busy.

Kids thrive when they have time to spend with their families.

Well RTO certainly isn’t helping with that either.

Sure it is. Everyone I know who works in person comes home from work, makes dinner and eats it with their family. Just like many generations before us. What has changed is wealthy families overscheduling their kids in the hope it will get them into better colleges. No wonder so many of them are anxious/depressed.

Its not overscheduling to have yoru kids in activities and its not just wealthy. There is financial help. Many families like us make it work. My parents were like you and very selfish. Everything revolved around them and their interests, not ours. I will not do that to my kids. It was boring and lonely. They didn't spend time with us. We ate dinner together but that was it. Then we all went to our seperate rooms.

Yes that’s me too. I really wanted to join swim team or dance team but my parents didn’t want to lift a finger to pick me up from school. My kids can stay home all they want, but they choose to do their hobbies twice a week, which is no where near ”over scheduling”.

My mom never put me in rec sports or activities and always acted like it was such a burden to pick me up from activities and sports once I got to middle and high school. She rarely came to my sports events. I grew up in a small town/city with no traffic and she had a ten minute commute. My high school was half way between her job and our house. She was just selfish.

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Anonymous wrote:Feds are lucky if its being relaxed as it isn't in private.

I have friends in banking and fintech, and they are all teleworking 2-3 days per week. Don't go based off what companies are saying publicly; the reality is very different (and more lenient) than the public pronouncements.

That's one company. My spouse is with a big tech company and they are 5 days a week in person even if people were work from home before covid. And, a 2-3 hour round trip commute, plus work at home nights and weekends.

Amazon is the only Big Tech doing that.

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Anonymous wrote:Feds are lucky if its being relaxed as it isn't in private.

I have friends in banking and fintech, and they are all teleworking 2-3 days per week. Don't go based off what companies are saying publicly; the reality is very different (and more lenient) than the public pronouncements.

That's one company. My spouse is with a big tech company and they are 5 days a week in person even if people were work from home before covid. And, a 2-3 hour round trip commute, plus work at home nights and weekends.

I bet your spouse makes more than a fed though. Like substantially more. That’s the trade off. These people signed up for lower pay in exchange for certain flexibilities that have been the norm at many agencies for for at least 30 years.