Freaked out by my teen- what to do next

[Anonymous]

Use some common sense you don’t need a UV light to know if there’s something dried on the swim suit. Absent that very crucial detail from the OP, it’s safe to assume it doesn’t exist. Posters here just want to rush to vilify any male. The pathological need to see every man or boy as a future or current sex criminal is really something odd.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, first off I’m so sorry.

Here is my suggestion..

Let DD know you miraculously found her swimsuit and that it must have slipped behind some furniture when you were folding clothes.

Do not mention it to DS at all.
Don’t make eye contact when you announce that you found it, don’t let on at all that this is a thing. Just happy news that you found it. That’s all. The end.

DS will know that this isn’t the whole story but he won’t acknowledge it or confess because the truth is beyond embarrassing. And honestly you don’t want to know and don’t need to know the entire story.

The good news (if there is any in this) is that it likely does NOT have anything to do sexually with your DD.
The two possible explanations are that he grabbed the closets garment in a hamper or off a drying rack to use as a “helper” to
Pleasure himself and it just happened to be that expensive thing and he didn’t want to confess to that.
And second possibility is that he is trying on the swimsuit for himself and is feeding a body dysmorphic fantasy utilizing this piece of clothing.

Either way—he isn’t likely to want to share that with you and it’s nothing to “confront” so just celebrate that you found the lost item and move on.

If he wants to confess at some point, he will. But I wouldn’t make this a hill to die on. It’s too volatile and unnecessarily embarrassing for everyone.

Ewww either way that swimsuit is covered in jizz. You want the mom just to give it back to the daughter to wear? Like nothing happened? 🤮

It washes out.

[Anonymous]

I have never heard of a bathing suit fetish as such.

Brothers "borrowing" their sister's p*nties? Happens all the time; it's just unspoken. Of course a sibling stealing clothing from another sibling without consent is a violation of privacy.

Wash the suit. Give it back to daughter. Tell her you found it but not where you found it.

Each child should have a long talk about consent and healthy boundaries and privacy. If brother/DS violates it again, additional intervention is required.

DD should have her own laundry basket in her room and should do all her own laundry at this point.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I consulted my husband about whether finding a swimsuit in a bed wrapped up in a lube bottle suggests he jerked into it and he scoffed and said "It's f*----- obvious!". Take that gaslighters

Did you specify it’s his sister’s?

DP. Did you specify that OP didn’t say she saw semen? Did you specify that some posters think OP was too shocked to see it or it would require UV light? Did you tell him the other discussion is that whether this entire post was made up?

Why don't you offer the OP to come over and taste the stains and report back. For science, of course.

OP did not report stains. That’s the whole point. If the boy was using it as sex-thing, it would be obvious and not from the lube. Is this thread full of children and nuns?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have never heard of a bathing suit fetish as such.

Brothers "borrowing" their sister's p*nties? Happens all the time; it's just unspoken. Of course a sibling stealing clothing from another sibling without consent is a violation of privacy.

Wash the suit. Give it back to daughter. Tell her you found it but not where you found it.

Each child should have a long talk about consent and healthy boundaries and privacy. If brother/DS violates it again, additional intervention is required.

DD should have her own laundry basket in her room and should do all her own laundry at this point.

Absolutely disgusting. You do not give a young girl a garment her brother defiled to wear, and you don’t let the “where you found it” leave an impression she’s still being blamed for her brothers theft.

You tell DD her brother took her swimsuit and will be replacing it this weekend with his own money. The specifics of what he was doing with it she absolutely does not need to know.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, first off I’m so sorry.

Here is my suggestion..

Let DD know you miraculously found her swimsuit and that it must have slipped behind some furniture when you were folding clothes.

Do not mention it to DS at all.
Don’t make eye contact when you announce that you found it, don’t let on at all that this is a thing. Just happy news that you found it. That’s all. The end.

DS will know that this isn’t the whole story but he won’t acknowledge it or confess because the truth is beyond embarrassing. And honestly you don’t want to know and don’t need to know the entire story.

The good news (if there is any in this) is that it likely does NOT have anything to do sexually with your DD.
The two possible explanations are that he grabbed the closets garment in a hamper or off a drying rack to use as a “helper” to
Pleasure himself and it just happened to be that expensive thing and he didn’t want to confess to that.
And second possibility is that he is trying on the swimsuit for himself and is feeding a body dysmorphic fantasy utilizing this piece of clothing.

Either way—he isn’t likely to want to share that with you and it’s nothing to “confront” so just celebrate that you found the lost item and move on.

If he wants to confess at some point, he will. But I wouldn’t make this a hill to die on. It’s too volatile and unnecessarily embarrassing for everyone.

Ewww either way that swimsuit is covered in jizz. You want the mom just to give it back to the daughter to wear? Like nothing happened? 🤮

HAVE YOU EVER HEARD OF A WASHING MACHINE????

[Anonymous]

Just wash the goddamn suit, OP. You don't need to throw it away. Wash it in hot water, dry it in the dryer on the highest setting.

[Anonymous]

OP didn't even say if the suit was soiled, she just said she found a bottle of lubricant wrapped inside it. What if her son is just an idiot and was using it to hide the lube?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just wash the goddamn suit, OP. You don't need to throw it away. Wash it in hot water, dry it in the dryer on the highest setting.

So…OPs daughter gets a suit that’s been soiled and damaged (that’s not how you take care of bathing suits…) and blamed for losing it, all to protect her brother from consequences for theft.

Have the BoyMoms entered the chat or something?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just wash the goddamn suit, OP. You don't need to throw it away. Wash it in hot water, dry it in the dryer on the highest setting.

So…OPs daughter gets a suit that’s been soiled and damaged (that’s not how you take care of bathing suits…) and blamed for losing it, all to protect her brother from consequences for theft.

Have the BoyMoms entered the chat or something?

Wait… the OP said nothing about the soiled but now we are adding DAMAGED to the list of things we are inventing that happened to this poor swim suit? What? You’re going to act like it also didn’t get dropped out of a plane? What about the time it was trampled by a herd of wildebeests???

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just wash the goddamn suit, OP. You don't need to throw it away. Wash it in hot water, dry it in the dryer on the highest setting.

So…OPs daughter gets a suit that’s been soiled and damaged (that’s not how you take care of bathing suits…) and blamed for losing it, all to protect her brother from consequences for theft.

Have the BoyMoms entered the chat or something?

Wait… the OP said nothing about the soiled but now we are adding DAMAGED to the list of things we are inventing that happened to this poor swim suit? What? You’re going to act like it also didn’t get dropped out of a plane? What about the time it was trampled by a herd of wildebeests???

If you dry a good swimsuit in a hot dryer, you’re damaging it.

You’re taking a new swimsuit, accusing her of losing it, damaging it in the dryer and giving it back to her in that state…so her brother doesn’t have to face consequences for stealing? Make it make sense.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just wash the goddamn suit, OP. You don't need to throw it away. Wash it in hot water, dry it in the dryer on the highest setting.

So…OPs daughter gets a suit that’s been soiled and damaged (that’s not how you take care of bathing suits…) and blamed for losing it, all to protect her brother from consequences for theft.

Have the BoyMoms entered the chat or something?

Wait… the OP said nothing about the soiled but now we are adding DAMAGED to the list of things we are inventing that happened to this poor swim suit? What? You’re going to act like it also didn’t get dropped out of a plane? What about the time it was trampled by a herd of wildebeests???

If you dry a good swimsuit in a hot dryer, you’re damaging it.

You’re taking a new swimsuit, accusing her of losing it, damaging it in the dryer and giving it back to her in that state…so her brother doesn’t have to face consequences for stealing? Make it make sense.

So don’t dry it in a hot dryer?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just wash the goddamn suit, OP. You don't need to throw it away. Wash it in hot water, dry it in the dryer on the highest setting.

So…OPs daughter gets a suit that’s been soiled and damaged (that’s not how you take care of bathing suits…) and blamed for losing it, all to protect her brother from consequences for theft.

Have the BoyMoms entered the chat or something?

Wait… the OP said nothing about the soiled but now we are adding DAMAGED to the list of things we are inventing that happened to this poor swim suit? What? You’re going to act like it also didn’t get dropped out of a plane? What about the time it was trampled by a herd of wildebeests???

If you dry a good swimsuit in a hot dryer, you’re damaging it.

You’re taking a new swimsuit, accusing her of losing it, damaging it in the dryer and giving it back to her in that state…so her brother doesn’t have to face consequences for stealing? Make it make sense.

So don’t dry it in a hot dryer?

I’m literally responding to the person who said wash it and dry it in a hot dryer.

Why do you think DD should get all the consequences here and DS none?

[Anonymous]

Just have a discreet talk to him and suggest he do it into tissues and discard them. It will be embarrassing for both of you, but it’s probably needed. I did something similar with one of my cousin’s panties after I moved in with them and had to share a room with my youngest cousins. It went unnoticed for a while, until my aunt questioned me. She didn’t exactly say she knew what I was doing but the context of the discussion made it clear she knew. It was rather embarrassing, but I got over it.

[Anonymous]

Can we stop this obvious troll thread, please? It’s pathetic.