I think they see it and don't care. This stuff is deeply engrained in our culture. |
Men have a talent of not seeing, hearing, or noticing anything. I could never snore the way he does it 8 am and not knowing that the baby is up because of his snoring.
Most of this not seeing or noticing anything happens at work place also. Women notice that a customer needs help and proceed to help them. Men show up when customer is good and wonder what the fuss is all about. I envy them and the blinders they have on. |
All men are exactly the same. |
I have two exes. One didn't have to do anything for the kid, but to keep them alive. Hasn't paid child support, provided insurance required by courts, and has kept the kid home from school which simply makes his life easier.
When he needed any documents, he expected me to have them, but then again, that's how he handles his own life. The other one was on top of it all and kept me away from anything to do with the kid. I couldn't have copies or original of any documents without him wondering why I need them. Seems to me like a lot of extremes among men which complicates life for everyone. Both were guided by their special needs which they take as NT. |
Have to agree. If a poster said the same sorts of things about all women, they would be eviscerated. |
Why would we bar women from the workplace? The conversation is about women’s happiness and the resentment of doing his-and-her job while he does his. We have protections for women like alimony and child support (which - surprise! - as corporations get more powerful, the movement towards divorce reforms in favor of the working spouse accelerate). Every. single. force vector in this country today is designed in favor of the market and consumer, NOT in favor of families. Every article, think piece and “feminist” politician will try to convince women to work more hours for less (“a seat at the table!” “a lucrative title!”), and when you cry that you’re tired and you want to see your kid and not work two jobs, one at home and one at your desk - the option is NEVER to blame the company, it is always “maybe your husband just needs to step it up!” |
+1 I feel the same way. I actually ENJOY the work and what I do on a day to day basis for my children and family. I do NOT enjoy the attitude and saw it seeping into my children . That's why it has to change. |
So, in other words, most people have an "expense" issue and not really a "problem". |
Oh just stop. There are zero versions of feminism that do not address the unpaid/exploitative nature of women’s domestic labor. There may be feminists who have differing opinions on whether women “should” work outside the home, but they will all agree that women’s labor should not be exploited. So yes, that boils down to financial matters like a woman without a job being allowed to get credit, co-own property, be financially protected in a divorce, not be discriminated against if she goes back to work, getting some public benefits in recognition of contributions to the economy, etc. |
Men make horrible husbands. |
I criticize gifts for family members or my children that I did not plan, buy, or wrap for being too expensive, inappropriate, or otherwise the wrong choice.
This one got to me. I did not think a husband acting like a boss providing feedback on a wife's decision was so common. In my family, I do all the research and other labor for camps, gifts, trips, etc., and DH gets to criticize if he does not like it or not acknowledge it at all if he does. Drives me nuts and makes me feel as if I am his subordinate. |
No, that's some derivative post-feminist bullshit by people who've co-opted the original goals. True feminists would say not all choices are valid (including "choosing" to stay at home and be subservient to a man, economically speaking). "Choice feminism" is a thing, sure. But's kind of like "cafeteria Catholics." |
I hear this. When we go on vacation I often feel trapped-- DH will complain if he thinks the accommodations aren't nice enough or our flights aren't direct or whatever, but if I spend enough to make him happy he'll say "you spent HOW much?!" like this money was spent on something frivolous just for me and not a vacation I planned on his behalf. |
Same. I called my DH out on it and he didnt even realize he was doing it. But it was about shoes and sports equipment. For example, bought x type of pants for a sport and he was like why did you buy those? because they are x sport pants and on amazon and got here in 2 days. Or why did we sign up for this program? Uh because its cheap and accessible. The worst part is I have said hey look over the amazon list and see if you want to make any adjustments we need to order equipment for the upcoming season. Nope nada. Again, feel free to take over any of this AT ANY TIME. But he can barely take care of himself sooooooo. Also, camps drive me mad. I made camp in January. He - yet again- questions the decisions months after. I sent links to the camps, told you we needed to make decisions at sign up time or we would miss it and you know who would end up being home with a rising 1st grader while trying to work FT....me because he works in a SCIF. "Why didnt we look for wrestling camps? - You said you would do that. "Why arent the camps all day?" - Thats how most camps work. "Why do they cost so much?" - they all cost on average 350-450 per week. Thats what camps cost. And you would know that if you did any research into camps. I provided receipts- in January- and they STILL HAVENT BEEN SUBMITTED FOR REIMBURSEMENT. |
This sounds like my husband! And he is always accusing me of spending money on Amazon. I’m like “Look at the account history! It’s pull ups, it’s socks for the kids, it’s drawing pads, it’s groceries from WF, it’s wipes.” |