The lady didn't say it. Some guy said it to her to heckle her as she walked to the back of the plane. Then she replied, "why don't you go sit there?" to him. This is actually not about race, it's about size. This lady would've been just as perturbed and obnoxious if this obese pair had been white and from rural West Virginia. It doesn't matter. There's no evidence of racism going on here. Prejudice against big people, definitely. |
+1 My elderly parents are vegan, walk 5 miles a day and are still obese. They are short, and their metabolisms don't work that well because they are old. Doesn't give anyone the right to shame them. |
Why did you feel compelled to share that you are Asian? Do you have a weight bias against non-Asians? Fat Asians do exist, pp. |
I agree. And if they have to pay for the seats, so be it. Or perhaps thin people who just want more space. |
Also why is your petite size relevant? Should smaller people be rewarded for their size by not having to sit next to large people? |
Actually, what's much more clear is prejudice against small people. |
+1. You buy a seat, not a seat and a half. |
My DH and I do that when we travel. (We are a little overweight, not obese). If someone shows up for the middle seat we re-evaluate but it’s good to have options or even a whole row to ourselves. |
Actually a big part of really is diet and exercise. We can make excuses all we want w/ genetics and health issues which do play a small role but the fact that America is so much more obese than our ancestors were says something. We eat too much. Period. That being said, I agree with you, this lady was beyond obnoxious and says something about her character more than anything. We are all inconvenienced at different times in life and just have to deal with it. I feel bad for the people that had to fly with me when I had toddlers. I actually had a man yell at us because my daughter was crying too long on the plane one time but anyway that's another thread. |
What's wrong with a premise that if you do not fit in the width of the seat provided, you need to make accommodations for that - either buy a second seat, first class, whatever. It is not shaming you or your weight to say that you do not have the right to encroach on another paying customer's seat. So just like you have the right to buy whatever seat you want (aisle, window, etc), the person next to you has a right to the entire space that they purchased.
I realize that several PPs mentioned that the airlines keep taking back these extra seats - but if we didn't have this intense fear of fat shaming, maybe they would change that practice. I'd love to believe that most people are the like the PPs coworker and dad who do pay for extra seats, but at the very least, the folks in this article did not. And I do not see why they feel that they're entitled to any space that they did not attempt to pay for. |
You should not judge. You aren’t perfect. ![]() I’ll take the two in this article over you. |
For breakfast today I had a banana and a snack pack of nuts (peanuts, cashews, almonds). Then I'll have salad for lunch. Then I'll have the mandarin I brought for a snack. Then for dinner I'm going to have leftover chinese food from last night - chicken and broccoli with brown rice. Tomorrow for breakfast I'll have an apple and yogurt for breakfast. Salad for lunch. For dinner I'll stirfry vegetables, rice and shrimp (maybe toss in an egg?) kind of like a homemade shrimp fried rice thing. I eat pretty well. The last time I had a sweet was last week - a colleague offered me a piece of a chocolate bar and I broke off what amounted to a big crumb. |
+100 |
I have demanded to be reseated twice in my life. Once on a flight with a very overweight woman. The arm rest could not go down so that was a no go for me.
The 2nd time was when a man was falling down drunk. The airlines inability to accomidate their guests (large seats ect) does not become my responsibility. |
I've never flown first class. I have heard that it is A LOT more roomy, though. The coach seats are small, they aren't too comfy but they do accommodate a normal or even a mildly to moderately obese sized person. If my body was literally encroaching on my neighbor's seat to the point that they were squished I would fork over the money and fly first class or I would buy myself two seats. The passengers in that video should have bought the middle seat. And they were rude for not offering to trade her the aisle seat when they could see with their own eyes how badly she was being squished between them. I can't imagine doing that to some random stranger. The woman said that she was having a hard time breathing before she blew her top about it. |