Someone gave gluten to my gluten sensitive child

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here.

Thanks to those who came with helpful advice. I appreciate it.

I sent the teacher an email asking to talk. We talked the very next day and she explained to me that DC sits on a different table where all the allergic kids sit and they monitor them very very close.

She assured me DC did not eat anything besides whatever was in the lunch box and suggested it could be crumbs that were on the table. She said they will take extra care to wipe the table properly and avoid cross contamination.

Besides all the snark I hope this thread can be used as some sort of PSA to educate those who are not familiar with the seriousness of food intolerance.

Again, thanks to those who tried to help.

Perhaps this could also be a good learning experience for you to not immediate accuse teachers of feeding her something with the allergen in it. Accusations of harming your child are really not good for building collaborative relationships. I hope you apologized to them for that.

Apologize for what you moron? I never accused them. I thought about it, I wrote here about it but when I talked to them I ASKED about DC's snack time arrangements and routine. They explained how it is in detail and I mentioned DC was having a reaction and said that since our home is dairy and gluten free the exposure somehow happened at school. They right away came up with the possibilities, an apology and the solution for the problem. The conversation didn't take 15 minutes, in case you're curious.

I hope you meet in real life someone who will bully you and make you feel miserable just so you know how it feels to be on the other side.

Idiot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here.

Thanks to those who came with helpful advice. I appreciate it.

I sent the teacher an email asking to talk. We talked the very next day and she explained to me that DC sits on a different table where all the allergic kids sit and they monitor them very very close.

She assured me DC did not eat anything besides whatever was in the lunch box and suggested it could be crumbs that were on the table. She said they will take extra care to wipe the table properly and avoid cross contamination.

Besides all the snark I hope this thread can be used as some sort of PSA to educate those who are not familiar with the seriousness of food intolerance.

Again, thanks to those who tried to help.

Perhaps this could also be a good learning experience for you to not immediate accuse teachers of feeding her something with the allergen in it. Accusations of harming your child are really not good for building collaborative relationships. I hope you apologized to them for that.

Apologize for what you moron? I never accused them. I thought about it, I wrote here about it but when I talked to them I ASKED about DC's snack time arrangements and routine. They explained how it is in detail and I mentioned DC was having a reaction and said that since our home is dairy and gluten free the exposure somehow happened at school. They right away came up with the possibilities, an apology and the solution for the problem. The conversation didn't take 15 minutes, in case you're curious.

I hope you meet in real life someone who will bully you and make you feel miserable just so you know how it feels to be on the other side.

Idiot.

Really that is your definition of bullying? You are the one who said they fed your child dairy or gluten.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here.

Thanks to those who came with helpful advice. I appreciate it.

I sent the teacher an email asking to talk. We talked the very next day and she explained to me that DC sits on a different table where all the allergic kids sit and they monitor them very very close.

She assured me DC did not eat anything besides whatever was in the lunch box and suggested it could be crumbs that were on the table. She said they will take extra care to wipe the table properly and avoid cross contamination.

Besides all the snark I hope this thread can be used as some sort of PSA to educate those who are not familiar with the seriousness of food intolerance.

Again, thanks to those who tried to help.

Perhaps this could also be a good learning experience for you to not immediate accuse teachers of feeding her something with the allergen in it. Accusations of harming your child are really not good for building collaborative relationships. I hope you apologized to them for that.

Apologize for what you moron? I never accused them. I thought about it, I wrote here about it but when I talked to them I ASKED about DC's snack time arrangements and routine. They explained how it is in detail and I mentioned DC was having a reaction and said that since our home is dairy and gluten free the exposure somehow happened at school. They right away came up with the possibilities, an apology and the solution for the problem. The conversation didn't take 15 minutes, in case you're curious.

I hope you meet in real life someone who will bully you and make you feel miserable just so you know how it feels to be on the other side.

Idiot.

Really that is your definition of bullying? You are the one who said they fed your child dairy or gluten.

It's 12 pages of bullying. Just because I'm venting and voicing my concern.

[Anonymous]

I find it sad that moms have to attach each other. I've read over the OP's original post, and it really seems that she was just trying to tell us how she felt. Sure, she thought the teacher MAY have given her kid some gluten products (it was just her haunch), but she only shared that suspicion with the forum.

Will it ever be possible for a person to share their anxieties/feelings at the forum, yet NOT be so harshly judged by others? Gives DCUrbanMom such a bad rap...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I find it sad that moms have to attach each other. I've read over the OP's original post, and it really seems that she was just trying to tell us how she felt. Sure, she thought the teacher MAY have given her kid some gluten products (it was just her haunch), but she only shared that suspicion with the forum.

Will it ever be possible for a person to share their anxieties/feelings at the forum, yet NOT be so harshly judged by others? Gives DCUrbanMom such a bad rap...

Sorry for typo -- meant to say "...attack each other..." (not "... attach...")

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I find it sad that moms have to attach each other. I've read over the OP's original post, and it really seems that she was just trying to tell us how she felt. Sure, she thought the teacher MAY have given her kid some gluten products (it was just her haunch), but she only shared that suspicion with the forum.

Will it ever be possible for a person to share their anxieties/feelings at the forum, yet NOT be so harshly judged by others? Gives DCUrbanMom such a bad rap...

There are many different ways to vent and voice concerns. People react accordingly. Voicing an opinion that is different or challenging someone's position or actions is not attacking or bullying. And if you read the first post, she didn't say MAY, she says, I'M SURE and that is what people responded to.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I find it sad that moms have to attach each other. I've read over the OP's original post, and it really seems that she was just trying to tell us how she felt. Sure, she thought the teacher MAY have given her kid some gluten products (it was just her haunch), but she only shared that suspicion with the forum.

Will it ever be possible for a person to share their anxieties/feelings at the forum, yet NOT be so harshly judged by others? Gives DCUrbanMom such a bad rap...

There are many different ways to vent and voice concerns. People react accordingly. Voicing an opinion that is different or challenging someone's position or actions is not attacking or bullying. And if you read the first post, she didn't say MAY, she says, I'M SURE and that is what people responded to.

Yes, I see your point and apologize for not accurately reading the phrase "I'm sure." My fault. I also agree that it's definitely good to voice different opinions -- the beauty of living in the USA. But one can do so 'gently' and 'sympathetically', or in a snarky and hurtful way. I know it's a fine line. But I've seen too many spiteful comments in other posts to also realize that some, when voicing their differing opinions, seem more bent on hurting others than being helpful in anyway...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I find it sad that moms have to attach each other. I've read over the OP's original post, and it really seems that she was just trying to tell us how she felt. Sure, she thought the teacher MAY have given her kid some gluten products (it was just her haunch), but she only shared that suspicion with the forum.

Will it ever be possible for a person to share their anxieties/feelings at the forum, yet NOT be so harshly judged by others? Gives DCUrbanMom such a bad rap...

There are many different ways to vent and voice concerns. People react accordingly. Voicing an opinion that is different or challenging someone's position or actions is not attacking or bullying. And if you read the first post, she didn't say MAY, she says, I'M SURE and that is what people responded to.

The child is 2 not 10. It isn't like she is leaving that 2 year old by herself or in multiple locations. It was a safe assumption based on the facts that the OP gave, her daughter was with her at home and at school, that the exposure happened at school. The OP didn't say she was going to go in and let them know how they screwed up and were horrible. She actually asked how to proceed. Perhaps if your child had severe allergies you might understand. It is because my son had a severe milk allergy (thankfully now that he is older it is not as severe) that I can understand what the OP was saying and not feel the need to accuse of her things that were not in her original post.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I find it sad that moms have to attach each other. I've read over the OP's original post, and it really seems that she was just trying to tell us how she felt. Sure, she thought the teacher MAY have given her kid some gluten products (it was just her haunch), but she only shared that suspicion with the forum.

Will it ever be possible for a person to share their anxieties/feelings at the forum, yet NOT be so harshly judged by others? Gives DCUrbanMom such a bad rap...

There are many different ways to vent and voice concerns. People react accordingly. Voicing an opinion that is different or challenging someone's position or actions is not attacking or bullying. And if you read the first post, she didn't say MAY, she says, I'M SURE and that is what people responded to.

The child is 2 not 10. It isn't like she is leaving that 2 year old by herself or in multiple locations. It was a safe assumption based on the facts that the OP gave, her daughter was with her at home and at school, that the exposure happened at school. The OP didn't say she was going to go in and let them know how they screwed up and were horrible. She actually asked how to proceed. Perhaps if your child had severe allergies you might understand. It is because my son had a severe milk allergy (thankfully now that he is older it is not as severe) that I can understand what the OP was saying and not feel the need to accuse of her things that were not in her original post.

I have both food intolerances and severe food allergies so I am quite aware of the issues.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I find it sad that moms have to attach each other. I've read over the OP's original post, and it really seems that she was just trying to tell us how she felt. Sure, she thought the teacher MAY have given her kid some gluten products (it was just her haunch), but she only shared that suspicion with the forum.

Will it ever be possible for a person to share their anxieties/feelings at the forum, yet NOT be so harshly judged by others? Gives DCUrbanMom such a bad rap...

There are many different ways to vent and voice concerns. People react accordingly. Voicing an opinion that is different or challenging someone's position or actions is not attacking or bullying. And if you read the first post, she didn't say MAY, she says, I'M SURE and that is what people responded to.

The child is 2 not 10. It isn't like she is leaving that 2 year old by herself or in multiple locations. It was a safe assumption based on the facts that the OP gave, her daughter was with her at home and at school, that the exposure happened at school. The OP didn't say she was going to go in and let them know how they screwed up and were horrible. She actually asked how to proceed. Perhaps if your child had severe allergies you might understand. It is because my son had a severe milk allergy (thankfully now that he is older it is not as severe) that I can understand what the OP was saying and not feel the need to accuse of her things that were not in her original post.

I have both food intolerances and severe food allergies so I am quite aware of the issues.

Oh so that's why you're so nasty, huh?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I find it sad that moms have to attach each other. I've read over the OP's original post, and it really seems that she was just trying to tell us how she felt. Sure, she thought the teacher MAY have given her kid some gluten products (it was just her haunch), but she only shared that suspicion with the forum.

Will it ever be possible for a person to share their anxieties/feelings at the forum, yet NOT be so harshly judged by others? Gives DCUrbanMom such a bad rap...

There are many different ways to vent and voice concerns. People react accordingly. Voicing an opinion that is different or challenging someone's position or actions is not attacking or bullying. And if you read the first post, she didn't say MAY, she says, I'M SURE and that is what people responded to.

The child is 2 not 10. It isn't like she is leaving that 2 year old by herself or in multiple locations. It was a safe assumption based on the facts that the OP gave, her daughter was with her at home and at school, that the exposure happened at school. The OP didn't say she was going to go in and let them know how they screwed up and were horrible. She actually asked how to proceed. Perhaps if your child had severe allergies you might understand. It is because my son had a severe milk allergy (thankfully now that he is older it is not as severe) that I can understand what the OP was saying and not feel the need to accuse of her things that were not in her original post.

Thank you, PP, THANK YOU!

-OP

[Anonymous]

OMG OP, you are crazy town. I think you should home school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I find it sad that moms have to attach each other. I've read over the OP's original post, and it really seems that she was just trying to tell us how she felt. Sure, she thought the teacher MAY have given her kid some gluten products (it was just her haunch), but she only shared that suspicion with the forum.

Will it ever be possible for a person to share their anxieties/feelings at the forum, yet NOT be so harshly judged by others? Gives DCUrbanMom such a bad rap...

There are many different ways to vent and voice concerns. People react accordingly. Voicing an opinion that is different or challenging someone's position or actions is not attacking or bullying. And if you read the first post, she didn't say MAY, she says, I'M SURE and that is what people responded to.

The child is 2 not 10. It isn't like she is leaving that 2 year old by herself or in multiple locations. It was a safe assumption based on the facts that the OP gave, her daughter was with her at home and at school, that the exposure happened at school. The OP didn't say she was going to go in and let them know how they screwed up and were horrible. She actually asked how to proceed. Perhaps if your child had severe allergies you might understand. It is because my son had a severe milk allergy (thankfully now that he is older it is not as severe) that I can understand what the OP was saying and not feel the need to accuse of her things that were not in her original post.

I have both food intolerances and severe food allergies so I am quite aware of the issues.

Oh so that's why you're so nasty, huh?

??? How is this PP, who so eloquently summed up the situation w/o being judgmental or snarky, being nasty???

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OMG OP, you are crazy town. I think you should home school.

A perfect example of a comment that's meant to be hurtful rather than helpful. So sad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OMG OP, you are crazy town. I think you should home school.

OP here. Let me feed you, you sick troll.

My child is new in school, she gets exposed to something that makes her severely ill and I come here asking for suggestions on how to approach the teachers in a non combative way to figure out what happened and address the issue so it doesn't happen again.

How is this crazy?

You, OTOH, come here to post one line with no intent to be shed any light on the issue. You're being just plain rude and worthless. That is crazy in my book.