Normalizing period stains?

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Anonymous wrote:I love this new generation. I love that they aren't saddled with the weight of all the sexist expectations that I grew up with.

Even the weirdo upset about having a pad simply sitting on a desk and getting bent out of shape about it - I'm so glad they don't have to deal with those losers!

I love that they are living for themselves and embracing their bodies and not letting people tell them they are defective or gross or dirty for perfectly natural things.

You're lumping it all into one thing and it's not. I love that girls are not hiding their pads and tampons and dont feel shamed about a perfectly natural thing. Period stains happen. They are normal. It's not normal to walk around with blood stains, though. Clean that shit up.

It's also not ok to walk around with pee stains or poop stains. All natural things.

We're talking about girls who are walking around their own homes in clothes with some period stains.

The comparison to "pee and poop stains" doesn't make sense to me. Those don't stain the way period blood does. I guarantee you there are tons of people walking around right now in clothes they got pee or even poop on at some point, and then washed. They don't have visible stains because those substances don't leave visible stains on the exterior or your clothes after washing. I don't have boys but many of my friends do and they've told me all about their battles with streaky underwear and getting their sons to wipe properly. None of them are throwing this underwear out -- it's just being washed and reworn despite the poor hygiene. And these boys aren't just wearing it around their own home, they are wearing it all the time.

So tell me again why a girl with a period blood stain (a stain, not actually blood) on some pajamas she's wearing at home is an unacceptable situation that must be addressed?

Period blood doesn’t stain either unless you leave it to set rather than soaking it. I find it stranger that people don’t take off and soak their clothes / sheets if they get blood on three, they just leave them to dry and stain.

It depends on when you discover it. Teenage girls are more likely to get stains because they have irregular cycles and less experience with preventing or addressing stains. I don't find it surprising at all that a teen might have a period stain on a pair of pajamas or on her sheets, and not have known how to remove it completely.

I will also note that there are certain fabrics where you are never going to get rid of the faint stain even if you soak it. This is why sometimes I have to give up on a white t-shirt and just replace it, because certain stains on a fabric like that are never going to look like new, especially if you don't catch them and treat immediately. White sheets or light colored pajama pants are the same. Freaking out that someone has a very faint blood stain on a white sheet they use on their own bed (it's not a hotel) is really precious.

Walking around house in stained pants with company there is not at all the same as a faint stain on a bed sheet.

"Company" in this case = a teenage brothers friend who is spending the night. You aren't hosting a dignitary or even an elderly relative here. Sibling's friends don't really count as company IMO. If those boys are upset by this they are welcome to not spend the night in a house where a teen girl lives, since apparently it's just too much for them.

So ok for a teen boy to look at but not an elderly relative? Why not? Since it's so normal and not a big deal.

Your precious baby boy can learn about periods. It's not taboo anymore! Some girls and women are even allowed to leave the house when having theirs!

So can your precious elderly relative, but you're too chicken shit to do it in front of them. Wonder why, keyboard warrior. Please tell us why your 70-year-old uncle cant handle it.

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Anonymous wrote:I love this new generation. I love that they aren't saddled with the weight of all the sexist expectations that I grew up with.

Even the weirdo upset about having a pad simply sitting on a desk and getting bent out of shape about it - I'm so glad they don't have to deal with those losers!

I love that they are living for themselves and embracing their bodies and not letting people tell them they are defective or gross or dirty for perfectly natural things.

You're lumping it all into one thing and it's not. I love that girls are not hiding their pads and tampons and dont feel shamed about a perfectly natural thing. Period stains happen. They are normal. It's not normal to walk around with blood stains, though. Clean that shit up.

It's also not ok to walk around with pee stains or poop stains. All natural things.

We're talking about girls who are walking around their own homes in clothes with some period stains.

The comparison to "pee and poop stains" doesn't make sense to me. Those don't stain the way period blood does. I guarantee you there are tons of people walking around right now in clothes they got pee or even poop on at some point, and then washed. They don't have visible stains because those substances don't leave visible stains on the exterior or your clothes after washing. I don't have boys but many of my friends do and they've told me all about their battles with streaky underwear and getting their sons to wipe properly. None of them are throwing this underwear out -- it's just being washed and reworn despite the poor hygiene. And these boys aren't just wearing it around their own home, they are wearing it all the time.

So tell me again why a girl with a period blood stain (a stain, not actually blood) on some pajamas she's wearing at home is an unacceptable situation that must be addressed?

Period blood doesn’t stain either unless you leave it to set rather than soaking it. I find it stranger that people don’t take off and soak their clothes / sheets if they get blood on three, they just leave them to dry and stain.

It depends on when you discover it. Teenage girls are more likely to get stains because they have irregular cycles and less experience with preventing or addressing stains. I don't find it surprising at all that a teen might have a period stain on a pair of pajamas or on her sheets, and not have known how to remove it completely.

I will also note that there are certain fabrics where you are never going to get rid of the faint stain even if you soak it. This is why sometimes I have to give up on a white t-shirt and just replace it, because certain stains on a fabric like that are never going to look like new, especially if you don't catch them and treat immediately. White sheets or light colored pajama pants are the same. Freaking out that someone has a very faint blood stain on a white sheet they use on their own bed (it's not a hotel) is really precious.

Walking around house in stained pants with company there is not at all the same as a faint stain on a bed sheet.

"Company" in this case = a teenage brothers friend who is spending the night. You aren't hosting a dignitary or even an elderly relative here. Sibling's friends don't really count as company IMO. If those boys are upset by this they are welcome to not spend the night in a house where a teen girl lives, since apparently it's just too much for them.

I think OP is more upset that "boys may have seen a period related notion" rather than her daughter being a slob. She discusses how "mortifying" it would be, like back in the day you'd be embarrassed that anyone even knew you were on your period. It just isn't the same anymore.

PP here and I agree, this is the implication -- that it is somehow upsetting or weird for a boy to see evidence of a girl having menstruated. I think it's actually healthy for boys to know and acclimatize to the idea that their female peers menstruate. It's not a big deal and a teenage boy who is scandalized by it has some maturing to do.

So do a lot of posters in this thread, apparently.

Absolutely! Some of the pps are likely the men who won't grab a box of tampons at the grocery store. Or married to them.

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Anonymous wrote:I love this new generation. I love that they aren't saddled with the weight of all the sexist expectations that I grew up with.

Even the weirdo upset about having a pad simply sitting on a desk and getting bent out of shape about it - I'm so glad they don't have to deal with those losers!

I love that they are living for themselves and embracing their bodies and not letting people tell them they are defective or gross or dirty for perfectly natural things.

You're lumping it all into one thing and it's not. I love that girls are not hiding their pads and tampons and dont feel shamed about a perfectly natural thing. Period stains happen. They are normal. It's not normal to walk around with blood stains, though. Clean that shit up.

It's also not ok to walk around with pee stains or poop stains. All natural things.

We're talking about girls who are walking around their own homes in clothes with some period stains.

The comparison to "pee and poop stains" doesn't make sense to me. Those don't stain the way period blood does. I guarantee you there are tons of people walking around right now in clothes they got pee or even poop on at some point, and then washed. They don't have visible stains because those substances don't leave visible stains on the exterior or your clothes after washing. I don't have boys but many of my friends do and they've told me all about their battles with streaky underwear and getting their sons to wipe properly. None of them are throwing this underwear out -- it's just being washed and reworn despite the poor hygiene. And these boys aren't just wearing it around their own home, they are wearing it all the time.

So tell me again why a girl with a period blood stain (a stain, not actually blood) on some pajamas she's wearing at home is an unacceptable situation that must be addressed?

Period blood doesn’t stain either unless you leave it to set rather than soaking it. I find it stranger that people don’t take off and soak their clothes / sheets if they get blood on three, they just leave them to dry and stain.

It depends on when you discover it. Teenage girls are more likely to get stains because they have irregular cycles and less experience with preventing or addressing stains. I don't find it surprising at all that a teen might have a period stain on a pair of pajamas or on her sheets, and not have known how to remove it completely.

I will also note that there are certain fabrics where you are never going to get rid of the faint stain even if you soak it. This is why sometimes I have to give up on a white t-shirt and just replace it, because certain stains on a fabric like that are never going to look like new, especially if you don't catch them and treat immediately. White sheets or light colored pajama pants are the same. Freaking out that someone has a very faint blood stain on a white sheet they use on their own bed (it's not a hotel) is really precious.

Walking around house in stained pants with company there is not at all the same as a faint stain on a bed sheet.

Company = her family and a friend. You are overreacting about what a girl chose to wear in her own home, around people she feels comfortable with. You do not need to police young girls' bodies anymore. It's creepy.

Oh FFS, some of you are really, really, really dumb. OF COURSE I will police what my daughter does. It's my job to teach her about what is and isn't acceptable. Stained clothing is non-negotiable in my house. I will not be normalizing it. For boys OR girls.

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Anonymous wrote:I love this new generation. I love that they aren't saddled with the weight of all the sexist expectations that I grew up with.

Even the weirdo upset about having a pad simply sitting on a desk and getting bent out of shape about it - I'm so glad they don't have to deal with those losers!

I love that they are living for themselves and embracing their bodies and not letting people tell them they are defective or gross or dirty for perfectly natural things.

You're lumping it all into one thing and it's not. I love that girls are not hiding their pads and tampons and dont feel shamed about a perfectly natural thing. Period stains happen. They are normal. It's not normal to walk around with blood stains, though. Clean that shit up.

It's also not ok to walk around with pee stains or poop stains. All natural things.

Why does it specifically bother you that girls don't care if some old PJs have period stains? How does it affect you?

If I am raising a daughter of course it affects me. I am responsible for teaching her how to navigate the world.

Are you raising OPs kid? How does someone elses child, wearing some old PJs with period stains, affect you? Be specific.

I am. It sure why you are reducing Ops post to some old pjs with stains. OPs post was about about normalizing this. Making it normal to have blood stains on your clothes. No where does she say the stain was old, it could have been fresh blood. Nor does she say it was old pjs. But her point was about normalizing stains - not about pjs.

You are raising OPs kid? Bizarre, I bet that's news to her!

And it is being normalized. Not by you, with your imaginary children, but by the children themselves. They don't GAF about your tired old sexist notions. And good for them.

It's being normalized because they have morons like you for parents who failed to teach them basic hygiene. Nothing to be proud of.

Stained PJs =/= bad hygiene.

Don't you know the difference? Yikes, feel bad for you and your kids.

Likewise, I feel bad that you failed your daughter entirely by making her think it's ok to walk around in bloody clothing.

A period stain is not bloody. No one is walking around in clothing with actual blood in it. People are sometimes wearing pajamas or underwear with faint stains from period leaks that happened in the past.

There is nothing unhygienic about wearing stained clothing, it's just unsightly. But that's not really relevant if you are just wearing it at home.

OP NEVER said if it was fresh. For all we know it could have just happend. I guess I was unaware before just how many of you are total lazy slobs at home. This is why I refuse to eat at potluck events.

If it's fresh, it's not a stain. If it's fresh, OP would have said the girl had period blood on her pajamas or period blood on her sheets. She said it was a stain.

Most of us are not confused about this. A stain indicates it's been laundered but that blood that *was* there left a stain behind. It's only a few of you I think who are either confused or seem to think stains are, themselves, dirty.

I don't host potlucks because I know how to host properly, but I am fine with you declining my invites, I don't think we'd get along at all.

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Anonymous wrote:I love this new generation. I love that they aren't saddled with the weight of all the sexist expectations that I grew up with.

Even the weirdo upset about having a pad simply sitting on a desk and getting bent out of shape about it - I'm so glad they don't have to deal with those losers!

I love that they are living for themselves and embracing their bodies and not letting people tell them they are defective or gross or dirty for perfectly natural things.

You're lumping it all into one thing and it's not. I love that girls are not hiding their pads and tampons and dont feel shamed about a perfectly natural thing. Period stains happen. They are normal. It's not normal to walk around with blood stains, though. Clean that shit up.

It's also not ok to walk around with pee stains or poop stains. All natural things.

We're talking about girls who are walking around their own homes in clothes with some period stains.

The comparison to "pee and poop stains" doesn't make sense to me. Those don't stain the way period blood does. I guarantee you there are tons of people walking around right now in clothes they got pee or even poop on at some point, and then washed. They don't have visible stains because those substances don't leave visible stains on the exterior or your clothes after washing. I don't have boys but many of my friends do and they've told me all about their battles with streaky underwear and getting their sons to wipe properly. None of them are throwing this underwear out -- it's just being washed and reworn despite the poor hygiene. And these boys aren't just wearing it around their own home, they are wearing it all the time.

So tell me again why a girl with a period blood stain (a stain, not actually blood) on some pajamas she's wearing at home is an unacceptable situation that must be addressed?

Period blood doesn’t stain either unless you leave it to set rather than soaking it. I find it stranger that people don’t take off and soak their clothes / sheets if they get blood on three, they just leave them to dry and stain.

It depends on when you discover it. Teenage girls are more likely to get stains because they have irregular cycles and less experience with preventing or addressing stains. I don't find it surprising at all that a teen might have a period stain on a pair of pajamas or on her sheets, and not have known how to remove it completely.

I will also note that there are certain fabrics where you are never going to get rid of the faint stain even if you soak it. This is why sometimes I have to give up on a white t-shirt and just replace it, because certain stains on a fabric like that are never going to look like new, especially if you don't catch them and treat immediately. White sheets or light colored pajama pants are the same. Freaking out that someone has a very faint blood stain on a white sheet they use on their own bed (it's not a hotel) is really precious.

Walking around house in stained pants with company there is not at all the same as a faint stain on a bed sheet.

"Company" in this case = a teenage brothers friend who is spending the night. You aren't hosting a dignitary or even an elderly relative here. Sibling's friends don't really count as company IMO. If those boys are upset by this they are welcome to not spend the night in a house where a teen girl lives, since apparently it's just too much for them.

So ok for a teen boy to look at but not an elderly relative? Why not? Since it's so normal and not a big deal.

Your precious baby boy can learn about periods. It's not taboo anymore! Some girls and women are even allowed to leave the house when having theirs!

So can your precious elderly relative, but you're too chicken shit to do it in front of them. Wonder why, keyboard warrior. Please tell us why your 70-year-old uncle cant handle it.

I'm sure he'd sound exactly like you, since that's who you are apparently.

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Anonymous wrote:I love this new generation. I love that they aren't saddled with the weight of all the sexist expectations that I grew up with.

Even the weirdo upset about having a pad simply sitting on a desk and getting bent out of shape about it - I'm so glad they don't have to deal with those losers!

I love that they are living for themselves and embracing their bodies and not letting people tell them they are defective or gross or dirty for perfectly natural things.

You're lumping it all into one thing and it's not. I love that girls are not hiding their pads and tampons and dont feel shamed about a perfectly natural thing. Period stains happen. They are normal. It's not normal to walk around with blood stains, though. Clean that shit up.

It's also not ok to walk around with pee stains or poop stains. All natural things.

We're talking about girls who are walking around their own homes in clothes with some period stains.

The comparison to "pee and poop stains" doesn't make sense to me. Those don't stain the way period blood does. I guarantee you there are tons of people walking around right now in clothes they got pee or even poop on at some point, and then washed. They don't have visible stains because those substances don't leave visible stains on the exterior or your clothes after washing. I don't have boys but many of my friends do and they've told me all about their battles with streaky underwear and getting their sons to wipe properly. None of them are throwing this underwear out -- it's just being washed and reworn despite the poor hygiene. And these boys aren't just wearing it around their own home, they are wearing it all the time.

So tell me again why a girl with a period blood stain (a stain, not actually blood) on some pajamas she's wearing at home is an unacceptable situation that must be addressed?

Period blood doesn’t stain either unless you leave it to set rather than soaking it. I find it stranger that people don’t take off and soak their clothes / sheets if they get blood on three, they just leave them to dry and stain.

It depends on when you discover it. Teenage girls are more likely to get stains because they have irregular cycles and less experience with preventing or addressing stains. I don't find it surprising at all that a teen might have a period stain on a pair of pajamas or on her sheets, and not have known how to remove it completely.

I will also note that there are certain fabrics where you are never going to get rid of the faint stain even if you soak it. This is why sometimes I have to give up on a white t-shirt and just replace it, because certain stains on a fabric like that are never going to look like new, especially if you don't catch them and treat immediately. White sheets or light colored pajama pants are the same. Freaking out that someone has a very faint blood stain on a white sheet they use on their own bed (it's not a hotel) is really precious.

Walking around house in stained pants with company there is not at all the same as a faint stain on a bed sheet.

Company = her family and a friend. You are overreacting about what a girl chose to wear in her own home, around people she feels comfortable with. You do not need to police young girls' bodies anymore. It's creepy.

Oh FFS, some of you are really, really, really dumb. OF COURSE I will police what my daughter does. It's my job to teach her about what is and isn't acceptable. Stained clothing is non-negotiable in my house. I will not be normalizing it. For boys OR girls.

Ok, good for you. Hope that works out for you. Other children may feel differently and continue on with their life, not thinking another thought of you and your pearl clutching.

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Anonymous wrote:I love this new generation. I love that they aren't saddled with the weight of all the sexist expectations that I grew up with.

Even the weirdo upset about having a pad simply sitting on a desk and getting bent out of shape about it - I'm so glad they don't have to deal with those losers!

I love that they are living for themselves and embracing their bodies and not letting people tell them they are defective or gross or dirty for perfectly natural things.

You're lumping it all into one thing and it's not. I love that girls are not hiding their pads and tampons and dont feel shamed about a perfectly natural thing. Period stains happen. They are normal. It's not normal to walk around with blood stains, though. Clean that shit up.

It's also not ok to walk around with pee stains or poop stains. All natural things.

Why does it specifically bother you that girls don't care if some old PJs have period stains? How does it affect you?

If I am raising a daughter of course it affects me. I am responsible for teaching her how to navigate the world.

Are you raising OPs kid? How does someone elses child, wearing some old PJs with period stains, affect you? Be specific.

I am. It sure why you are reducing Ops post to some old pjs with stains. OPs post was about about normalizing this. Making it normal to have blood stains on your clothes. No where does she say the stain was old, it could have been fresh blood. Nor does she say it was old pjs. But her point was about normalizing stains - not about pjs.

You are raising OPs kid? Bizarre, I bet that's news to her!

And it is being normalized. Not by you, with your imaginary children, but by the children themselves. They don't GAF about your tired old sexist notions. And good for them.

It's being normalized because they have morons like you for parents who failed to teach them basic hygiene. Nothing to be proud of.

Stained PJs =/= bad hygiene.

Don't you know the difference? Yikes, feel bad for you and your kids.

Likewise, I feel bad that you failed your daughter entirely by making her think it's ok to walk around in bloody clothing.

A period stain is not bloody. No one is walking around in clothing with actual blood in it. People are sometimes wearing pajamas or underwear with faint stains from period leaks that happened in the past.

There is nothing unhygienic about wearing stained clothing, it's just unsightly. But that's not really relevant if you are just wearing it at home.

OP NEVER said if it was fresh. For all we know it could have just happend. I guess I was unaware before just how many of you are total lazy slobs at home. This is why I refuse to eat at potluck events.

If it's fresh, it's not a stain. If it's fresh, OP would have said the girl had period blood on her pajamas or period blood on her sheets. She said it was a stain.

Most of us are not confused about this. A stain indicates it's been laundered but that blood that *was* there left a stain behind. It's only a few of you I think who are either confused or seem to think stains are, themselves, dirty.

I don't host potlucks because I know how to host properly, but I am fine with you declining my invites, I don't think we'd get along at all.

What do you call fresh period blood on clothing, genius?

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Anonymous wrote:I love this new generation. I love that they aren't saddled with the weight of all the sexist expectations that I grew up with.

Even the weirdo upset about having a pad simply sitting on a desk and getting bent out of shape about it - I'm so glad they don't have to deal with those losers!

I love that they are living for themselves and embracing their bodies and not letting people tell them they are defective or gross or dirty for perfectly natural things.

You're lumping it all into one thing and it's not. I love that girls are not hiding their pads and tampons and dont feel shamed about a perfectly natural thing. Period stains happen. They are normal. It's not normal to walk around with blood stains, though. Clean that shit up.

It's also not ok to walk around with pee stains or poop stains. All natural things.

We're talking about girls who are walking around their own homes in clothes with some period stains.

The comparison to "pee and poop stains" doesn't make sense to me. Those don't stain the way period blood does. I guarantee you there are tons of people walking around right now in clothes they got pee or even poop on at some point, and then washed. They don't have visible stains because those substances don't leave visible stains on the exterior or your clothes after washing. I don't have boys but many of my friends do and they've told me all about their battles with streaky underwear and getting their sons to wipe properly. None of them are throwing this underwear out -- it's just being washed and reworn despite the poor hygiene. And these boys aren't just wearing it around their own home, they are wearing it all the time.

So tell me again why a girl with a period blood stain (a stain, not actually blood) on some pajamas she's wearing at home is an unacceptable situation that must be addressed?

Period blood doesn’t stain either unless you leave it to set rather than soaking it. I find it stranger that people don’t take off and soak their clothes / sheets if they get blood on three, they just leave them to dry and stain.

It depends on when you discover it. Teenage girls are more likely to get stains because they have irregular cycles and less experience with preventing or addressing stains. I don't find it surprising at all that a teen might have a period stain on a pair of pajamas or on her sheets, and not have known how to remove it completely.

I will also note that there are certain fabrics where you are never going to get rid of the faint stain even if you soak it. This is why sometimes I have to give up on a white t-shirt and just replace it, because certain stains on a fabric like that are never going to look like new, especially if you don't catch them and treat immediately. White sheets or light colored pajama pants are the same. Freaking out that someone has a very faint blood stain on a white sheet they use on their own bed (it's not a hotel) is really precious.

Walking around house in stained pants with company there is not at all the same as a faint stain on a bed sheet.

Company = her family and a friend. You are overreacting about what a girl chose to wear in her own home, around people she feels comfortable with. You do not need to police young girls' bodies anymore. It's creepy.

Oh FFS, some of you are really, really, really dumb. OF COURSE I will police what my daughter does. It's my job to teach her about what is and isn't acceptable. Stained clothing is non-negotiable in my house. I will not be normalizing it. For boys OR girls.

Well you are an extreme outlier. When your kids start having anxiety attacks, I hope you will provide therapy with the same zeal you currently focus on the very faint stains that people sometimes have on clothes they wear around their homes.

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Anonymous wrote:I love this new generation. I love that they aren't saddled with the weight of all the sexist expectations that I grew up with.

Even the weirdo upset about having a pad simply sitting on a desk and getting bent out of shape about it - I'm so glad they don't have to deal with those losers!

I love that they are living for themselves and embracing their bodies and not letting people tell them they are defective or gross or dirty for perfectly natural things.

You're lumping it all into one thing and it's not. I love that girls are not hiding their pads and tampons and dont feel shamed about a perfectly natural thing. Period stains happen. They are normal. It's not normal to walk around with blood stains, though. Clean that shit up.

It's also not ok to walk around with pee stains or poop stains. All natural things.

We're talking about girls who are walking around their own homes in clothes with some period stains.

The comparison to "pee and poop stains" doesn't make sense to me. Those don't stain the way period blood does. I guarantee you there are tons of people walking around right now in clothes they got pee or even poop on at some point, and then washed. They don't have visible stains because those substances don't leave visible stains on the exterior or your clothes after washing. I don't have boys but many of my friends do and they've told me all about their battles with streaky underwear and getting their sons to wipe properly. None of them are throwing this underwear out -- it's just being washed and reworn despite the poor hygiene. And these boys aren't just wearing it around their own home, they are wearing it all the time.

So tell me again why a girl with a period blood stain (a stain, not actually blood) on some pajamas she's wearing at home is an unacceptable situation that must be addressed?

Period blood doesn’t stain either unless you leave it to set rather than soaking it. I find it stranger that people don’t take off and soak their clothes / sheets if they get blood on three, they just leave them to dry and stain.

It depends on when you discover it. Teenage girls are more likely to get stains because they have irregular cycles and less experience with preventing or addressing stains. I don't find it surprising at all that a teen might have a period stain on a pair of pajamas or on her sheets, and not have known how to remove it completely.

I will also note that there are certain fabrics where you are never going to get rid of the faint stain even if you soak it. This is why sometimes I have to give up on a white t-shirt and just replace it, because certain stains on a fabric like that are never going to look like new, especially if you don't catch them and treat immediately. White sheets or light colored pajama pants are the same. Freaking out that someone has a very faint blood stain on a white sheet they use on their own bed (it's not a hotel) is really precious.

Walking around house in stained pants with company there is not at all the same as a faint stain on a bed sheet.

Company = her family and a friend. You are overreacting about what a girl chose to wear in her own home, around people she feels comfortable with. You do not need to police young girls' bodies anymore. It's creepy.

Oh FFS, some of you are really, really, really dumb. OF COURSE I will police what my daughter does. It's my job to teach her about what is and isn't acceptable. Stained clothing is non-negotiable in my house. I will not be normalizing it. For boys OR girls.

Ok, good for you. Hope that works out for you. Other children may feel differently and continue on with their life, not thinking another thought of you and your pearl clutching.

It IS possible to raise a child who is body positive and NOT a slob. You should try it.

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Anonymous wrote:I love this new generation. I love that they aren't saddled with the weight of all the sexist expectations that I grew up with.

Even the weirdo upset about having a pad simply sitting on a desk and getting bent out of shape about it - I'm so glad they don't have to deal with those losers!

I love that they are living for themselves and embracing their bodies and not letting people tell them they are defective or gross or dirty for perfectly natural things.

You're lumping it all into one thing and it's not. I love that girls are not hiding their pads and tampons and dont feel shamed about a perfectly natural thing. Period stains happen. They are normal. It's not normal to walk around with blood stains, though. Clean that shit up.

It's also not ok to walk around with pee stains or poop stains. All natural things.

Why does it specifically bother you that girls don't care if some old PJs have period stains? How does it affect you?

If I am raising a daughter of course it affects me. I am responsible for teaching her how to navigate the world.

Are you raising OPs kid? How does someone elses child, wearing some old PJs with period stains, affect you? Be specific.

I am. It sure why you are reducing Ops post to some old pjs with stains. OPs post was about about normalizing this. Making it normal to have blood stains on your clothes. No where does she say the stain was old, it could have been fresh blood. Nor does she say it was old pjs. But her point was about normalizing stains - not about pjs.

You are raising OPs kid? Bizarre, I bet that's news to her!

And it is being normalized. Not by you, with your imaginary children, but by the children themselves. They don't GAF about your tired old sexist notions. And good for them.

It's being normalized because they have morons like you for parents who failed to teach them basic hygiene. Nothing to be proud of.

Stained PJs =/= bad hygiene.

Don't you know the difference? Yikes, feel bad for you and your kids.

Likewise, I feel bad that you failed your daughter entirely by making her think it's ok to walk around in bloody clothing.

A period stain is not bloody. No one is walking around in clothing with actual blood in it. People are sometimes wearing pajamas or underwear with faint stains from period leaks that happened in the past.

There is nothing unhygienic about wearing stained clothing, it's just unsightly. But that's not really relevant if you are just wearing it at home.

OP NEVER said if it was fresh. For all we know it could have just happend. I guess I was unaware before just how many of you are total lazy slobs at home. This is why I refuse to eat at potluck events.

If it's fresh, it's not a stain. If it's fresh, OP would have said the girl had period blood on her pajamas or period blood on her sheets. She said it was a stain.

Most of us are not confused about this. A stain indicates it's been laundered but that blood that *was* there left a stain behind. It's only a few of you I think who are either confused or seem to think stains are, themselves, dirty.

I don't host potlucks because I know how to host properly, but I am fine with you declining my invites, I don't think we'd get along at all.

What do you call fresh period blood on clothing, genius?

Blood.

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Anonymous wrote:I love this new generation. I love that they aren't saddled with the weight of all the sexist expectations that I grew up with.

Even the weirdo upset about having a pad simply sitting on a desk and getting bent out of shape about it - I'm so glad they don't have to deal with those losers!

I love that they are living for themselves and embracing their bodies and not letting people tell them they are defective or gross or dirty for perfectly natural things.

You're lumping it all into one thing and it's not. I love that girls are not hiding their pads and tampons and dont feel shamed about a perfectly natural thing. Period stains happen. They are normal. It's not normal to walk around with blood stains, though. Clean that shit up.

It's also not ok to walk around with pee stains or poop stains. All natural things.

We're talking about girls who are walking around their own homes in clothes with some period stains.

The comparison to "pee and poop stains" doesn't make sense to me. Those don't stain the way period blood does. I guarantee you there are tons of people walking around right now in clothes they got pee or even poop on at some point, and then washed. They don't have visible stains because those substances don't leave visible stains on the exterior or your clothes after washing. I don't have boys but many of my friends do and they've told me all about their battles with streaky underwear and getting their sons to wipe properly. None of them are throwing this underwear out -- it's just being washed and reworn despite the poor hygiene. And these boys aren't just wearing it around their own home, they are wearing it all the time.

So tell me again why a girl with a period blood stain (a stain, not actually blood) on some pajamas she's wearing at home is an unacceptable situation that must be addressed?

Period blood doesn’t stain either unless you leave it to set rather than soaking it. I find it stranger that people don’t take off and soak their clothes / sheets if they get blood on three, they just leave them to dry and stain.

It depends on when you discover it. Teenage girls are more likely to get stains because they have irregular cycles and less experience with preventing or addressing stains. I don't find it surprising at all that a teen might have a period stain on a pair of pajamas or on her sheets, and not have known how to remove it completely.

I will also note that there are certain fabrics where you are never going to get rid of the faint stain even if you soak it. This is why sometimes I have to give up on a white t-shirt and just replace it, because certain stains on a fabric like that are never going to look like new, especially if you don't catch them and treat immediately. White sheets or light colored pajama pants are the same. Freaking out that someone has a very faint blood stain on a white sheet they use on their own bed (it's not a hotel) is really precious.

Walking around house in stained pants with company there is not at all the same as a faint stain on a bed sheet.

Company = her family and a friend. You are overreacting about what a girl chose to wear in her own home, around people she feels comfortable with. You do not need to police young girls' bodies anymore. It's creepy.

Oh FFS, some of you are really, really, really dumb. OF COURSE I will police what my daughter does. It's my job to teach her about what is and isn't acceptable. Stained clothing is non-negotiable in my house. I will not be normalizing it. For boys OR girls.

Well you are an extreme outlier. When your kids start having anxiety attacks, I hope you will provide therapy with the same zeal you currently focus on the very faint stains that people sometimes have on clothes they wear around their homes.

Honey, your kid is much more likely to have an anxiety attack when she goes to college and forgets she is walking around in her stained PJS all over campus and gets made fun of.

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Anonymous wrote:I love this new generation. I love that they aren't saddled with the weight of all the sexist expectations that I grew up with.

Even the weirdo upset about having a pad simply sitting on a desk and getting bent out of shape about it - I'm so glad they don't have to deal with those losers!

I love that they are living for themselves and embracing their bodies and not letting people tell them they are defective or gross or dirty for perfectly natural things.

You're lumping it all into one thing and it's not. I love that girls are not hiding their pads and tampons and dont feel shamed about a perfectly natural thing. Period stains happen. They are normal. It's not normal to walk around with blood stains, though. Clean that shit up.

It's also not ok to walk around with pee stains or poop stains. All natural things.

Why does it specifically bother you that girls don't care if some old PJs have period stains? How does it affect you?

If I am raising a daughter of course it affects me. I am responsible for teaching her how to navigate the world.

Are you raising OPs kid? How does someone elses child, wearing some old PJs with period stains, affect you? Be specific.

I am. It sure why you are reducing Ops post to some old pjs with stains. OPs post was about about normalizing this. Making it normal to have blood stains on your clothes. No where does she say the stain was old, it could have been fresh blood. Nor does she say it was old pjs. But her point was about normalizing stains - not about pjs.

You are raising OPs kid? Bizarre, I bet that's news to her!

And it is being normalized. Not by you, with your imaginary children, but by the children themselves. They don't GAF about your tired old sexist notions. And good for them.

It's being normalized because they have morons like you for parents who failed to teach them basic hygiene. Nothing to be proud of.

Stained PJs =/= bad hygiene.

Don't you know the difference? Yikes, feel bad for you and your kids.

Likewise, I feel bad that you failed your daughter entirely by making her think it's ok to walk around in bloody clothing.

A period stain is not bloody. No one is walking around in clothing with actual blood in it. People are sometimes wearing pajamas or underwear with faint stains from period leaks that happened in the past.

There is nothing unhygienic about wearing stained clothing, it's just unsightly. But that's not really relevant if you are just wearing it at home.

OP NEVER said if it was fresh. For all we know it could have just happend. I guess I was unaware before just how many of you are total lazy slobs at home. This is why I refuse to eat at potluck events.

Do you not understand what a stain is? It is not a fresh free bleeding event. Trying to admonish other posters while you are using made up hyperbole is not a good look. You are so caught up in trying to argue with everyone that you are missing the plot.

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Anonymous wrote:I love this new generation. I love that they aren't saddled with the weight of all the sexist expectations that I grew up with.

Even the weirdo upset about having a pad simply sitting on a desk and getting bent out of shape about it - I'm so glad they don't have to deal with those losers!

I love that they are living for themselves and embracing their bodies and not letting people tell them they are defective or gross or dirty for perfectly natural things.

You're lumping it all into one thing and it's not. I love that girls are not hiding their pads and tampons and dont feel shamed about a perfectly natural thing. Period stains happen. They are normal. It's not normal to walk around with blood stains, though. Clean that shit up.

It's also not ok to walk around with pee stains or poop stains. All natural things.

We're talking about girls who are walking around their own homes in clothes with some period stains.

The comparison to "pee and poop stains" doesn't make sense to me. Those don't stain the way period blood does. I guarantee you there are tons of people walking around right now in clothes they got pee or even poop on at some point, and then washed. They don't have visible stains because those substances don't leave visible stains on the exterior or your clothes after washing. I don't have boys but many of my friends do and they've told me all about their battles with streaky underwear and getting their sons to wipe properly. None of them are throwing this underwear out -- it's just being washed and reworn despite the poor hygiene. And these boys aren't just wearing it around their own home, they are wearing it all the time.

So tell me again why a girl with a period blood stain (a stain, not actually blood) on some pajamas she's wearing at home is an unacceptable situation that must be addressed?

Period blood doesn’t stain either unless you leave it to set rather than soaking it. I find it stranger that people don’t take off and soak their clothes / sheets if they get blood on three, they just leave them to dry and stain.

It depends on when you discover it. Teenage girls are more likely to get stains because they have irregular cycles and less experience with preventing or addressing stains. I don't find it surprising at all that a teen might have a period stain on a pair of pajamas or on her sheets, and not have known how to remove it completely.

I will also note that there are certain fabrics where you are never going to get rid of the faint stain even if you soak it. This is why sometimes I have to give up on a white t-shirt and just replace it, because certain stains on a fabric like that are never going to look like new, especially if you don't catch them and treat immediately. White sheets or light colored pajama pants are the same. Freaking out that someone has a very faint blood stain on a white sheet they use on their own bed (it's not a hotel) is really precious.

Walking around house in stained pants with company there is not at all the same as a faint stain on a bed sheet.

Company = her family and a friend. You are overreacting about what a girl chose to wear in her own home, around people she feels comfortable with. You do not need to police young girls' bodies anymore. It's creepy.

Oh FFS, some of you are really, really, really dumb. OF COURSE I will police what my daughter does. It's my job to teach her about what is and isn't acceptable. Stained clothing is non-negotiable in my house. I will not be normalizing it. For boys OR girls.

Ok, good for you. Hope that works out for you. Other children may feel differently and continue on with their life, not thinking another thought of you and your pearl clutching.

It IS possible to raise a child who is body positive and NOT a slob. You should try it.

I didn't mention body positive. Who are you arguing with?

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Anonymous wrote:I love this new generation. I love that they aren't saddled with the weight of all the sexist expectations that I grew up with.

Even the weirdo upset about having a pad simply sitting on a desk and getting bent out of shape about it - I'm so glad they don't have to deal with those losers!

I love that they are living for themselves and embracing their bodies and not letting people tell them they are defective or gross or dirty for perfectly natural things.

You're lumping it all into one thing and it's not. I love that girls are not hiding their pads and tampons and dont feel shamed about a perfectly natural thing. Period stains happen. They are normal. It's not normal to walk around with blood stains, though. Clean that shit up.

It's also not ok to walk around with pee stains or poop stains. All natural things.

Why does it specifically bother you that girls don't care if some old PJs have period stains? How does it affect you?

If I am raising a daughter of course it affects me. I am responsible for teaching her how to navigate the world.

Are you raising OPs kid? How does someone elses child, wearing some old PJs with period stains, affect you? Be specific.

I am. It sure why you are reducing Ops post to some old pjs with stains. OPs post was about about normalizing this. Making it normal to have blood stains on your clothes. No where does she say the stain was old, it could have been fresh blood. Nor does she say it was old pjs. But her point was about normalizing stains - not about pjs.

You are raising OPs kid? Bizarre, I bet that's news to her!

And it is being normalized. Not by you, with your imaginary children, but by the children themselves. They don't GAF about your tired old sexist notions. And good for them.

It's being normalized because they have morons like you for parents who failed to teach them basic hygiene. Nothing to be proud of.

Stained PJs =/= bad hygiene.

Don't you know the difference? Yikes, feel bad for you and your kids.

Likewise, I feel bad that you failed your daughter entirely by making her think it's ok to walk around in bloody clothing.

A period stain is not bloody. No one is walking around in clothing with actual blood in it. People are sometimes wearing pajamas or underwear with faint stains from period leaks that happened in the past.

There is nothing unhygienic about wearing stained clothing, it's just unsightly. But that's not really relevant if you are just wearing it at home.

OP NEVER said if it was fresh. For all we know it could have just happend. I guess I was unaware before just how many of you are total lazy slobs at home. This is why I refuse to eat at potluck events.

If it's fresh, it's not a stain. If it's fresh, OP would have said the girl had period blood on her pajamas or period blood on her sheets. She said it was a stain.

Most of us are not confused about this. A stain indicates it's been laundered but that blood that *was* there left a stain behind. It's only a few of you I think who are either confused or seem to think stains are, themselves, dirty.

I don't host potlucks because I know how to host properly, but I am fine with you declining my invites, I don't think we'd get along at all.

What do you call fresh period blood on clothing, genius?

Blood.

No, blood is called blood. How do you describe the visual effect of fresh period blood on clothing?

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Anonymous wrote:I love this new generation. I love that they aren't saddled with the weight of all the sexist expectations that I grew up with.

Even the weirdo upset about having a pad simply sitting on a desk and getting bent out of shape about it - I'm so glad they don't have to deal with those losers!

I love that they are living for themselves and embracing their bodies and not letting people tell them they are defective or gross or dirty for perfectly natural things.

You're lumping it all into one thing and it's not. I love that girls are not hiding their pads and tampons and dont feel shamed about a perfectly natural thing. Period stains happen. They are normal. It's not normal to walk around with blood stains, though. Clean that shit up.

It's also not ok to walk around with pee stains or poop stains. All natural things.

We're talking about girls who are walking around their own homes in clothes with some period stains.

The comparison to "pee and poop stains" doesn't make sense to me. Those don't stain the way period blood does. I guarantee you there are tons of people walking around right now in clothes they got pee or even poop on at some point, and then washed. They don't have visible stains because those substances don't leave visible stains on the exterior or your clothes after washing. I don't have boys but many of my friends do and they've told me all about their battles with streaky underwear and getting their sons to wipe properly. None of them are throwing this underwear out -- it's just being washed and reworn despite the poor hygiene. And these boys aren't just wearing it around their own home, they are wearing it all the time.

So tell me again why a girl with a period blood stain (a stain, not actually blood) on some pajamas she's wearing at home is an unacceptable situation that must be addressed?

Period blood doesn’t stain either unless you leave it to set rather than soaking it. I find it stranger that people don’t take off and soak their clothes / sheets if they get blood on three, they just leave them to dry and stain.

It depends on when you discover it. Teenage girls are more likely to get stains because they have irregular cycles and less experience with preventing or addressing stains. I don't find it surprising at all that a teen might have a period stain on a pair of pajamas or on her sheets, and not have known how to remove it completely.

I will also note that there are certain fabrics where you are never going to get rid of the faint stain even if you soak it. This is why sometimes I have to give up on a white t-shirt and just replace it, because certain stains on a fabric like that are never going to look like new, especially if you don't catch them and treat immediately. White sheets or light colored pajama pants are the same. Freaking out that someone has a very faint blood stain on a white sheet they use on their own bed (it's not a hotel) is really precious.

Walking around house in stained pants with company there is not at all the same as a faint stain on a bed sheet.

"Company" in this case = a teenage brothers friend who is spending the night. You aren't hosting a dignitary or even an elderly relative here. Sibling's friends don't really count as company IMO. If those boys are upset by this they are welcome to not spend the night in a house where a teen girl lives, since apparently it's just too much for them.

I think OP is more upset that "boys may have seen a period related notion" rather than her daughter being a slob. She discusses how "mortifying" it would be, like back in the day you'd be embarrassed that anyone even knew you were on your period. It just isn't the same anymore.

PP here and I agree, this is the implication -- that it is somehow upsetting or weird for a boy to see evidence of a girl having menstruated. I think it's actually healthy for boys to know and acclimatize to the idea that their female peers menstruate. It's not a big deal and a teenage boy who is scandalized by it has some maturing to do.

So do a lot of posters in this thread, apparently.

Absolutely! Some of the pps are likely the men who won't grab a box of tampons at the grocery store. Or married to them.

100%. These boards always have a low level of incels and other men who patrol Recent Topics for any thread where a woman might be existing outside their narrow expectations. Maybe it's Brunch Granny, maybe it's Tucker Carlson, maybe it's just someone who thinks the same way. It freaks them out when women are human or do things not for the express pleasure or satisfaction of men. Periods are, of course, terrifying, and to be denied and hidden at all costs.