
We held out but there were no friends to just hang out with on the weekends. Most were in sports, dance or music, and others were off on vacation bc OMG we can’t just stay home on a weekend. When our oldest expressed interest in trying out for the all-star team we said sure thinking it was just that extra post season time. Nope — the all-star team tryouts required commitment for the travel season. It does require quite a bit of time but it is chill. Our other kids also plays this sport but didn’t make a travel team until later. They are in HS and are still connected with those friends even though they are at different schools and not everyone is still playing. Their teams are extensions of the rec programs and it has been kind of nice especially since the staying to socialize plan failed. Truly, it’s a ghost town bc all the kids are in some program. In ES everyone except us had their kids at SACC / day care until dinner and then they’d go to bed. |
It’s been popular since the 70s in the northeast. Probably all our Canadian relatives brought it with the. It’s a really fun sport but so much safety equipment now, like hockey. There’s no high school team to play on? |
There's really no shades of gray. The world seen through American lenses: good and evil. |
There's a difference between the need to invest $1000s in an elite child trying to be a spelling bee champion (or an elite young athlete that can realistically be a D1 athlete/pro/Olympian/or the sports equivalent) vs investing $1000s to participate in local spelling bees (which doesn't occur). The bar for entry into relatively compelling spelling bees is extremely low. The bar for entry into competitive sports is unreasonably higher. It makes sense to pay $1000s and dedicate hundreds of hours on a kid that can be a national champion in any activity. It doesn't make sense to pay $1000s for an average child to play soccer, baseball, basketball against other average kids |
It's not just team sports (which seems to be the focus of this thread). Someone mentioned spelling kids, I know a family that travels WAY more than we do with travel baseball for Robotics, there's also individual sports like gymnastics, there's dance, etc.
We do a travel sport for our older kid, but didn't start it til 13. There was a lot of pressure to start earlier, but we held out with rec until middle school and he is just as good as the other kids on his travel team who have been playing travel since age 8 or 9. We do the travel sport because our son wants to play on the high school team and it's insanely competitive. He (and we) don't think he'd learn the skills he needs from the rec option. My younger child is really into music and while it's less travel, the schedule is just as intense with school music plus a community orchestra, private lessons, and very expensive summer camps. My point is that all "extra curriculars" have become monetized. It's America, people! Colleges want to see these things so UMC parents are willing to pay. The really sad thing is that it shuts out a lot of kids who don't have parental support - both in terms of time and money. And none of those kids are getting on free(ish) public school teams or auditioned bands/orchestras because they aren't getting the extra learning outside of school. |
John Delony is not a medical doctor or licensed therapist, he’s someone who cosplays a physician to spout opinions base on his political inclinations. Much of what he says - at least about anxiety — is directly contrary to the findings of actual research done by real doctors. But even a stoped clock is right twice a day. |
It is pretty much everything. We dropped scouting because we kept hearing from other parents in the troop: “Eagle Scout is pretty much the only thing from your youth that you can put on a resume.” They acted accordingly.
Everything starts with noble intentions. But eventually that which is good can and will be corrupted as people try to exploit and optimize it. FOMO is the other part. Many parents will do travel sports (dance, music, robotics, spelling, etc…) because they wish they had experienced that kind of investment as children. But your kid won’t appreciate it because they never knew not having it. Indeed, they may instead grow up shunning it because they want their eventual kids to have what they did not have: a laid back childhood. We have one in travel and one on a local club team. We’ve tried to respond to their specific needs and situations, but ultimately they may choose a different path for their own children someday. |
Only one will win and there's no predicting who will win in the beginning. So, no, it doesn't make "sense" you've just decided that some expenses align with your personal values and some don't. Because we don't actually know who will go all the way but plenty of people are willing to shoot their shot be it in sports, spelling bees, music, dance, singing, etc. |
That’s a good point. I sometimes wonder whether the pendulum will swing the other way when the current generation grows up and has kids of their own. Maybe local rec sports and unstructured pickup games will become more popular. It’s interesting how many Olympic and pro athletes say they aren’t going to push their kids to do their sport (unless they want to). |
I can't read this whole thread. Do middle schools have sports teams? That's what we did, and what fed into hs. |
Many do. However, the seasons are short and (for many sports) those wishing to make the high school teams also play travel/club. |
Also interesting how many athletes have athletic kids. Maybe they don't always play the same sport, but goes to show there are inherited aspects. Famous children of athletes: Nastia Liukin, the Peyton and Eli Manning, Patrick Mahomes, Bronny James, Steph Curry, and on and on. Nobody is going back to unstructured pick up games any more than we're going back to latch key kids. The kids aren't allowed to be unstructured or unsupervised like the good old days. So having your kids just sit out and be bored at home on weekends with nothing to do isn't going to change any minds. |
Football is not an easy sport and let’s face it, men are awe of players like Tom Brady and wish they could do that. |
Some parents in my town started a pickup sports program recently. It’s lightly supervised, but the kids show up and organize their own games. So far it’s been successful and popular. |
Well, you just need to convince enough parents that their kids have no chance to make the high school team without club experience, and they are willing to throw 1000s of dollars at the clubs. And yes, you can predict that most of the kids are not going to get a college scholarships and / or go to the Olympics. After one season, you can likely predict who is not even going to make the high school teams. But it's too tempting to milk the parents and maintain ther belief that Billy can become special if they spend more money on this hobby. |