Petty Vents

[Anonymous]

I feel like grocery shopping at Trader Joe's is like the meeting point for the world's most awful drivers, judging by the way people move their cards and stop in the middle of aisles.

[Anonymous]

The word “littles”.

When moms refer to themselves and other moms as “mommas”.

I find these petty, and I roll my eyes at myself for thinking they’re petty, but here we are.

[Anonymous]

Posters that say [blank] “is your friend.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The word “littles”.

When moms refer to themselves and other moms as “mommas”.

I find these petty, and I roll my eyes at myself for thinking they’re petty, but here we are.

Mine is more specific than this. I don't mind these terms when people are actually with their kids, or if I'm speaking directly to someone and they refer to their kid as their "little" or "little one" or themselves as "mommas." Like if it's just a term of endearment and part of their interaction with their kid, it doesn't bother me at all, it can even be sweet.

But I hate hate hate when people do this on DCUM or on our neighborhood list serve, like "We are selling a pair of size 10T natives in light blue/navy -- my little loved these last summer but is getting so big so fast! -- Kaitlynn's Momma." You sound like an idiot. Not that I think men set the standard for how to talk, but can you imagine a dad addressing other dads with that kind of speech? No. Because if you are an adult speaking to other adults, you need stop using the toddler-speak and terms of endearment and whatever and just use normal speech.

Also hate use of "hubby" and "hubs" in the same way. Totally fine if that's your terms of endearment for your husband, I won't judge, but I find it super weird if you text me with "what should we bring on Saturday -- the hubs and I will be running late after the littles' swim class!" His name is David. Those are your children. Just stop.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Honestly I don’t think group chats belong on text messages but rather on WhatsApp or some such but I know I am too trendy for most people lol

What's the benefit of Whatsapp?

Messages in WhatsApp are totally optional to view and do not require a response. If a group wants to yammer all day and share photos of their lunch (looking at you, college friends), then you can safely ignore the app altogether unless you want to see what the group is chatting about.

A group text is more like, hey college friends, I want to plan a trip; or hey college friends, big news, we’re moving to LA. Group texts are still texts, so they require more attention and more response than just people incessantly talking about nothing on WhatsApp.

It doesn't matter. You can mute a conversation in text. I have group chats on both platforms and unless we are actively planning an immediate activity, I keep them on mute either way so that I don't get 40 alerts on Friday morning when I'm trying to work with joke gifs about farting unicorns or whatever weird inside joke people are engaged in. I can enjoy the farting unicorns later.

Just learn to use the settings on your phones, folks. If an alert on your phone is disrupting or annoying you, it's 100% in your control, and not the fault of whoever sent you the message.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The word “littles”.

When moms refer to themselves and other moms as “mommas”.

I find these petty, and I roll my eyes at myself for thinking they’re petty, but here we are.

Mine is more specific than this. I don't mind these terms when people are actually with their kids, or if I'm speaking directly to someone and they refer to their kid as their "little" or "little one" or themselves as "mommas." Like if it's just a term of endearment and part of their interaction with their kid, it doesn't bother me at all, it can even be sweet.

But I hate hate hate when people do this on DCUM or on our neighborhood list serve, like "We are selling a pair of size 10T natives in light blue/navy -- my little loved these last summer but is getting so big so fast! -- Kaitlynn's Momma." You sound like an idiot. Not that I think men set the standard for how to talk, but can you imagine a dad addressing other dads with that kind of speech? No. Because if you are an adult speaking to other adults, you need stop using the toddler-speak and terms of endearment and whatever and just use normal speech.

Also hate use of "hubby" and "hubs" in the same way. Totally fine if that's your terms of endearment for your husband, I won't judge, but I find it super weird if you text me with "what should we bring on Saturday -- the hubs and I will be running late after the littles' swim class!" His name is David. Those are your children. Just stop.

I hate all of it. It makes them sound so low IQ.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I get so annoyed when I stop at a stop sign and yield to walking pedestrians and they don't offer up a quick wave of acknowledgment. Same for cars who I let cut in front of me.

Why should you get a reward for doing literally the only right and legal thing?! Waves are for “you didn’t have to let me merge or change lanes, but you did, so thank you.” Do you also wave at everyone who stops at a red light? Do you wave at everyone who stops for a school bus? A wave is not for “you obeyed the law and the rules of the road,” a wave is for when you did something you didn’t HAVE to do. Unbelievable.

+1 - I get annoyed at drivers who think they deserve thanks for following the law and not running pedestrians over.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I get so annoyed when I stop at a stop sign and yield to walking pedestrians and they don't offer up a quick wave of acknowledgment. Same for cars who I let cut in front of me.

+1 pedestrians around here are kinda jerky esp. the slow walkers on their phone that give you side eye while you wait for them to cross

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The word “littles”.

When moms refer to themselves and other moms as “mommas”.

I find these petty, and I roll my eyes at myself for thinking they’re petty, but here we are.

Mine is more specific than this. I don't mind these terms when people are actually with their kids, or if I'm speaking directly to someone and they refer to their kid as their "little" or "little one" or themselves as "mommas." Like if it's just a term of endearment and part of their interaction with their kid, it doesn't bother me at all, it can even be sweet.

But I hate hate hate when people do this on DCUM or on our neighborhood list serve, like "We are selling a pair of size 10T natives in light blue/navy -- my little loved these last summer but is getting so big so fast! -- Kaitlynn's Momma." You sound like an idiot. Not that I think men set the standard for how to talk, but can you imagine a dad addressing other dads with that kind of speech? No. Because if you are an adult speaking to other adults, you need stop using the toddler-speak and terms of endearment and whatever and just use normal speech.

Also hate use of "hubby" and "hubs" in the same way. Totally fine if that's your terms of endearment for your husband, I won't judge, but I find it super weird if you text me with "what should we bring on Saturday -- the hubs and I will be running late after the littles' swim class!" His name is David. Those are your children. Just stop.

I am the PP and you nailed it. That’s how I feel as well. We should go find a porch, drink some margaritas, and be grumpy together.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The word “littles”.

When moms refer to themselves and other moms as “mommas”.

I find these petty, and I roll my eyes at myself for thinking they’re petty, but here we are.

Mine is more specific than this. I don't mind these terms when people are actually with their kids, or if I'm speaking directly to someone and they refer to their kid as their "little" or "little one" or themselves as "mommas." Like if it's just a term of endearment and part of their interaction with their kid, it doesn't bother me at all, it can even be sweet.

But I hate hate hate when people do this on DCUM or on our neighborhood list serve, like "We are selling a pair of size 10T natives in light blue/navy -- my little loved these last summer but is getting so big so fast! -- Kaitlynn's Momma." You sound like an idiot. Not that I think men set the standard for how to talk, but can you imagine a dad addressing other dads with that kind of speech? No. Because if you are an adult speaking to other adults, you need stop using the toddler-speak and terms of endearment and whatever and just use normal speech.

Also hate use of "hubby" and "hubs" in the same way. Totally fine if that's your terms of endearment for your husband, I won't judge, but I find it super weird if you text me with "what should we bring on Saturday -- the hubs and I will be running late after the littles' swim class!" His name is David. Those are your children. Just stop.

I am the PP and you nailed it. That’s how I feel as well. We should go find a porch, drink some margaritas, and be grumpy together.

I'd love it. I cannot take anymore grown women making baby talk!

[Anonymous]

People. That's my vent. I hate people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People. That's my vent. I hate people.

I think that’s where I’m headed too, with some limited exceptions.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The word “littles”.

When moms refer to themselves and other moms as “mommas”.

I find these petty, and I roll my eyes at myself for thinking they’re petty, but here we are.

I think it’s cute and I love it. Me and my girls talk like this and don’t have any issues with it.

[Anonymous]

The douchey private trainer at my gym (not employed by the gym, but employed by gym clients) who literally hogs every piece of equipment by marking them with used towels making it almost impossible for me to get my full workout done. I hate confrontation so while I should say something to him instead I've changed my workout schedule so as to avoid him, Problem is, he just about lives there and is there what seems to be 24/7. Now I'm getting more pissed about it because I'm going to the gym today and I know he's going to be there.

He literally looks all three of these dbags.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The douchey private trainer at my gym (not employed by the gym, but employed by gym clients) who literally hogs every piece of equipment by marking them with used towels making it almost impossible for me to get my full workout done. I hate confrontation so while I should say something to him instead I've changed my workout schedule so as to avoid him, Problem is, he just about lives there and is there what seems to be 24/7. Now I'm getting more pissed about it because I'm going to the gym today and I know he's going to be there.

He literally looks all three of these dbags.

Report him to the gym or find another one.
This is why I work out at home!!