Class mom communicates with her law firm work email but forgets to inform teacher's birthday

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Anonymous wrote:To sum up for those who are curious but time-constrained or lazy:

OP - Effing room mom emails from her work account and didn't celebrate the teacher's birthday. My take: room mom sucks. Discuss.

Other people - Since when is it a thing that you celebrate the teacher's birthday??

OP - It's totally a thing. Everyone knows this.

Other people - Never heard of it.

OP - Yes, totally a thing. You probably suck as much as room mom.

Other people - Wait, where are your kids in school? What is the crazy school where this is normal?

OP - You know, lots of places.

Other people - More specific, please.

OP - Fine! Arizona.

Other people - Just spitballing here but maybe your problem is that people in Arizona appear to have different expectations of room parents than people in DC.

OP - Why would I care what DC moms think? Why do you think I have to be DC-based?

Other people - Scroll up to the top of the page and read the URL.

OP - Stop making stuff up.

OP never came back to this thread as far as I can see. All the "OP" talk is other people. OP is a likely troll who used "lawyer" to suck people in and boy, did it work!

1/2 the parents in the DC metro area are either Feds or lawyers (or federal lawyers). It’s not a flex or troll point here. I’m a federal lawyer and people could not be less interested in or impressed by my job. This is why stating you are not in the DMV matters. Lawyer may be impressive in BF nowhere. Here, we are a dine a dozen and no one cares.

It should have been obvious to people that OP is probably not local, referencing a foreign practice (acknowledging teacher birthdays) and being hung up on work email for personal use. It's a wonder anyone responded at all, in that case.

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Anonymous wrote:Room parent at a public elementary in Bethesda - we gave the teacher a $50 gift card for her birthday out of the funds we collected from parents at the beginning of the year. We also asked parents to have their kids draw cards. It is a thing. We sent a survey asking about her favorite restaurants, stores, flowers, when her birthday is, etc at the beginning of the year.

You must be making all that up. Because if posters here didn't have it happen to them, it never happened. I guess the rest of us are imagining the emails in our inbox.

The question is not whether it ever happens. The question is whether is is typical enough to be a clear expectation. The question is whether law partner mom is a lousy class mom or OP is being unreasonable in her reaction to the bday and the use of the work email address.

Or, whether OP should direct her anger at lawyer mom into something positive and productive. In the time she spent being angry on here, she could have sent the “unlikeable” parent an email and said: “I appreciate the time you put into being room mom this year. I noticed the teachers birthday is coming up. If you haven’t already made plans, I’d be glad to take care of it.” You know, like adults do.

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Anonymous wrote:Our school celebrates teacher’s birthdays. The kids are encouraged to make handmade cards for the teacher. I’m not sure why everyone is hung up on that bit. I’m sure it varies by school.

I have never heard of this. Ever.

Name your school, troll!

NP. That’s silly my school does it too. Both my preschooler and my kindergartener. Just because it is not done at your school doesn’t mean other schools don’t do this.

Again. Name your school.

Private schools in Los Angeles and Arizona. You should get out more. You sound sheltered and clueless thinking everyone does it like your tiny little bubble.

This is the DC Urban Board. It’s right there in the the title. Thus the focus on the DMV. If you want to discuss customs in Floria, go to the fascists unite board.

I'm the originally quoted pp on this post, and I'm in Fairfax. It's the custom in our school right here in the DMV to acknowledge the teacher's birthday and have kids make the teacher a card, especially in the K-5 grades. It's not some outlandish idea only done in the hinterlands.

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I am from FCPS. And my kids went to an affluent ES with a lot of SAHMs. And they organized holiday gifts (parents buying from the teachers preference list, and not just send $10). Spirit week, an elaborate Dr. Seuss’s birthday celebration, Th als giving meal with a signup genius, Valentine’s Day with your kid bringing a shoebox they decorated at home, teacher appreciation WEEK, with something specific to being each day— a single red rose to make a bouquet, a handwritten letter, cranberry sauce, etc and an end of school party (signup genius) with a teacher gift.

So, I spent all my time tracking down a single red rose or a solid blue shirt or whatever. I was just ridiculous, and had nothing to do with my kid actually getting an education. Glad to contribute at the beginning of the year so room parent can buy a bouquet. Glad to buy a Christmas gift certificate and have my kid write a note for teacher appreciation. Cannot ingrained adding a birthday to that— which would make 4 gifts my kid did during the year (since a $25 gift certificate was expected for Christmas, the last day of Teacher Appreciation week and end of schools.

Yes, I appreciate teachers. But they aren’t volunteers. And since I work, time I spend looking for a rose is time I don’t spend overseeing homework or reading with my kid.