Is it wrong to get a new wedding band?

[Anonymous]

When it came time to choose wedding bands a few years ago, I initially ordered a shared-prong diamond eternity ring with tiny diamonds in platinum. Due to some financial issues before the wedding, I decided to cancel that order and go with a plain platinum band. I feel really silly about this, and I know it's trivial, but now I'm finding myself wishing I had the more blingy band. So, I'm thinking of asking for it in the future. But, that's not the ring I wore when I got married. So... I feel somehow wrong "replacing" the band that I wore to marry my wonderful DH. Am I being silly?

[Anonymous]

Can you stack them? Lots of people add a fancier anniversary band later on, but also keep the original wedding band.

[Anonymous]

I have a friend who has a very blingy engagement ring/wedding band combo which she only wears for work, going out, etc - once she gets home or for sports she switches to just a plain gold wedding band (less heavy, doesn't scratch the baby). So, maybe you could keep your plain band for certain occasions but have a fancier band as well.

[Anonymous]

I often have trouble getting my band on, and in the winter my hands get really dry (aka need lotion frequently), so I'm planning to get a wider band to wear at times when I need to get my rings on and off frequently.

[Anonymous]

I got a new band when I was pregnant.. I'm back to my other one now, but I did get and wear a new one then.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Can you stack them? Lots of people add a fancier anniversary band later on, but also keep the original wedding band.

Agree with this poster. I have two bands (original wedding band on bottom, then engagement ring, then anniversary band on top). I see people do this a fair bit, especially if the wedding band is a little plainer. I wear all three every day.

[Anonymous]

I have about 5 rings I keep in rotation as my wedding band. I like choices though I would never be able to give up my original wedding ring.

[Anonymous]

No, I don't think so. During a certain era (20's, 30s), women were bought multiple wedding bands as their husbands prospered. My grandmother owned several -- her "everyday," her "special occasion," etc. I inherited and am wearing her 2nd one, which has small rubies in it.

We tend to think of the engagement ring + wedding band as the natural way wedding bands are worn, but that is really a relatively modern tradition from the last fifty years.

[Anonymous]

No, it's not wrong. Who cares. It's a wedding band, a "thing" -- it doesn't capture the soul or meaning of your relationship. Basically, you want a flashier piece of jewelry, not a new husband. Fine.

Just make sure that $$$ wouldn't be put to better use.

Personally, I'd feel really badly about spending big money on a ring. I don't know, it's just not my thing. A house: okay. A ring... as I understand it, they lose a great deal of value the moment you drive them off the lot.

[Anonymous]

I can't imagine "trading up" in rings. I have a very simple gold band and no engagement ring, so no bling whatsoever (we got married young, so neither of us had money for the bling). To me the ring he put on my finger the day we got married is the ring I will be wearing until the day I die (assuming no divorce, of course). We have been married for over a decade. Full disclosure though, we still don't have so much money that I would ever see myself spending it on bling - I can think of too many things to do with it. If money was no objection, maybe I would get an anniversary band or something to stack with my wedding band, but personally I don't see myself not wearing the ring he gave me on our wedding day.

[Anonymous]

Married 18 yrs. I wear a different wedding band and engagement ring versus those from when I was married. "upgraded" at different times. Feels fine to me, although I do keep my original wedding band in a box with sentimental keepsakes.

[Anonymous]

OP, if you get the new band as a gift on a milestone anniversary, it is sweet and charming. If you demand it as an upgrade, the only attached sentiment is greed. How long have you been married?

[Anonymous]

Don't you have seven other fingers to 'bling' up?

[Anonymous]

Just move your old wedding ring to your right hand.

Also, you'll never get a consensus- people will either think you're greedy and materialistic or they don't think it's a big deal at all and that it's the man you married, not the ring.

[Anonymous]

There is no right or wrong answer. It's a personal choice based on the value the band holds to you. My husband has lost two wedding bands and currently wears nothing. Doesn't bother me at all.