two opposite ends of the surprise spectrum

[Anonymous]

I was thinking last night about how much infertility has affected me mentally. I never in ten million years expected this and I guess there is still a lot of shock on my part that this is real and actually happening to me. Sometimes just the thought of it catches me off guard. Yet, at the same time, every time I meet a pg person my mind automatically asks "but HOW is it possible??? HOW did she get pregnant?" Like deep down the idea of pregnancy is such a far off dream to me that the fact that others are doing it so easily is just a mystery.

It's weird how intellectually I of course know the answers, but deep down still can't stop the automatic thoughts in my brain..

[Anonymous]

I've felt this all way along in the last 4-plus years of ttc and infertility that included 5 failed IUIs and 5 failed IVFs.
I've told myself countless times--all this and still nothing.
I believe getting pregnant and having a healthy baby is truly a mirace, which many just take for granted.

[Anonymous]

I know. I am 43 today. No children. Single, and doing this on my own. TTC 2+ years. I had a retrieval yesterday (empty follicles, no eggs.) Not including this one, I have had 4 IUI's/3 other IVF's (all BFN.) Would you consider adoption? I would. No matter how I get a baby. that baby will be mine, and I will love it so much.

[Anonymous]

PP,Happy Birthday! (I am the OP from the Not Sure if I'll be Back Thread). I hope your feeling better today and that you get some nice news in your 43rd year.

[Anonymous]

DH and I were told we both were infertile, so we adopted; she is the second love of my life. And then in the greatest shock of my life, I got pregnant quite by accident 3 months after DD came home. My sister and I were adopted as babies so it's very neat to be a parent through birth and adoption. Good luck to all of you.

[Anonymous]

Thanks, PP !!! I appreciate your good wishes!

Congratulations on your happy ending. How old is dd? When are you due? Very exciting! What was the adoption process like for you? Being that you are adopted yourself, there is a lot of significance there for you on both ends. Good luck with everything...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Thanks, PP !!! I appreciate your good wishes!

Congratulations on your happy ending. How old is dd? When are you due? Very exciting! What was the adoption process like for you? Being that you are adopted yourself, there is a lot of significance there for you on both ends. Good luck with everything...

Thanks! DD will be three in a couple of weeks and DS actually just turned 1 in April. I still lurk in this forum to see if there's anything I can contribute.

The adoption process was actually very easy for us, most likely because we were already very comfortable with the idea of adoption. An unwillingness to adopt was a dealbreaker for me when I was dating so my husband always knew that we would someday adopt. And, I don't mean to trivialize anyone else's pain but again, b/c we already had planned on adopting, our infertility didn't really affect us or have much negative emotional impact as it does for so many people. We adopted internationally from the same country I am from and from start to bringing her home took us 14 months. We met another couple for whom it only took 9 months, which is crazy.

Again, good luck to you and may a child come into your life soon!