making friends

[Anonymous]

How does a married woman with kids in early thirties go about making other female friends?

Friends at work are not in the right age group (plus mostly live very far away).

Friends in mom's group are either nice (but not BFFs) or just the typical judgy moms.


I need good female friends so much- it's the biggest void in my life and i am having the toughest time figuring this out.

[Anonymous]

I feel you, it is tough and so very important.

I made some friends through Playgrounds USA where we just clicked. Other than that my friends almost all come from work which has fortunately worked out for me. I do feel I am missing something sometimes too.

Where do you live OP?

[Anonymous]

tell me about it, my only true friend moved away last summer and now I am lost. I want cynical mom friends.

[Anonymous]

Op here---PP i feel your pain all my BFFs are scattered over all corners of the globe.

23:49- i live in NOVA

[Anonymous]

OP, there is a post regarding this at least once every two months or so. I am not admonishing you, rather, reinforcing that you are not alone! I think this are is more conducive to pissing contests than making friends, unfortunately. At least that is what I have seen over the (too many) years. Do you think it would help if the administrator added a "mommy meet" thread? Just a thought.

[Anonymous]

PP- i think that sounds like a great idea...
it would be nice to have a mommy meet forum...

it's nice to know i am not alone and i would love to meet others who feel this way and maybe make some friends along the way.

[Anonymous]

There are no "typical judgy moms." Only real human and unique beings with foibles and insecurities like everyone else who put on a facade because they are afraid themselves of being judged.

But if you can't get past your broad brush stereotyping of people, you can pretty much forget about making friends, because true friendship requires that get beyond the social masks we all wear.