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Finding offensive heavy metal and rap on my kid's iPod...
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| I'm not sure how I feel about this. Even some of the band names are pretty bad, let alone the lyrics or the music. Once band was even named "Copstabber". I didn't even have to listen to know that this band was not exactly what I'd like for my kids to listen to. Disgusting. How much do you regulate what your teen can or cannot listen to? Should I delete these from his iPod, or is that going too far? |
dedicateddad
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| I would listen to it with them. When I see them cringing because they know that something they don't want me to hear is about to come out I ask them why they feel the need to listen to that kind of trash. If they know it is contrary to the lessons I try to teach them then I ask them why? I looked up that band Copstabber and they are really offensive but I hate to admit it....if you can get past the screaming vocals and the horrible lyrics they are pretty catchy for a "punk" band. I miss the Clash. |
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| The answer is usually "They're funny" "Or it's just a joke image thing" and I hate that answer though. |
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| I would talk with them about it, why they like these bands, what they think about the lyrics. |
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| I used to monitor everything and make my son read the lyrics on the web with me. But he is 15 now, and I have given up. I think he is making better choices now because we and his school have exposed him to better music. |
dedicateddad
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| 16:55 has it right...just try to show your kid what good stuff is musically and you won't have to worry about them when they get into the mid-older teens. If they are growing up right then you can start trusting them to make right decisions and to stay away from all the sex songs and the cop killing and the gangsta rap. |
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But what if your music collection is wall to walll Clash, Cure, Smiths, Joy Division, Hüsker DU, Funkadelic, George Clinton, The Commodores, Ohio Players, Talking Heads, George Duke, De La Soul, a huge chunk of Grunge and then I gave up --because, wtf--Justin Bieber? There is no comparable music that I can listen to with them.
Kids today...I tellya, I don't even know... |
dedicateddad
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| My kids (at 9 or so) started to get really interested in music which I thought was great...until I started to think about a lot of the stuff I had in my collection....Yeah I love Black Sabbath and Alice Cooper but I had to think twice about letting them listen to some of those songs until they were older. But when my 12 year old (at the time) twins came in and sang "I love the Dead" by Alice Cooper complete with funny zombie facepaint and their eyes rolled up in their heads....I had to laugh no matter how inappropriate that song is. I don't think they really got EXACTLY what Mr. Cooper was getting at with that song....fortunately. |
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| 17:17 your music collection is pretty well stocked! |
Anonymous
| We told DD that she can download anything she wants as long as it is marked CLEAN and not EXPLICIT. Not sure how late into the teens this will work for, but we are at 13 now and it works... |
Anonymous
| Controlling what a kid wants to listen to today is impossible. Does your kid have an ipod? A computer? Friends at school? Why bother wasting your time trying to control an aspect of your childs life that has no impact on how they develop as a person? Get real. |
dedicateddad
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| 11:36 I feel that way to an extent...but I think once they are like my kids age 13-14 it is no longer worth fighting. They are pretty much going to know what is right and wrong by then...but for 9 year olds into their early teens I think monitoring the media they are taking in is really important to making sure their heads are screwed on right. The argument I don't get parents making is with their kids hairstyle choices and (up to a point) their wardrobe choices. Now I am not talking about revealing clothing or clothing with obscene or satanic messages but if my kid wants to shave a stupid mohawk into his hair and dye it purple who cares. Sure he will look like a retarded dipshit for awhile but that's his choice...not worth the fight IMO.... |
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| 11:36 here. I am against the control of music choice in any form DedicatedDad. Clothing is slightly different IMO. But a nine year old does not have a job and choose their own attire anyway. As for the hair, I tell my kids to do what they want with it. If it is that bad I can always cut it down to a normal look, and it will grow back! Unless your child becomes prematurely bald, which would be most unfortunate. |
dedicateddad
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| @ 11:36: So going back to the OP, if your kid was listening to the band that the first person found on their kids Ipod...you would be OK with the messages they were receiving? I listened to the songs I could find on their site and Youtube because I found the musical aspects of the band to be quite good if you care for very heavy music (This is heavier than what I normally listen too myself)...but the singer and the words he is singing are horrible. I don't want my kid listening to songs about how good cocaine is and using abortions for birth control... |