how to talk to friends TTC (for over a year) about my baby

[Anonymous]

I have three friends who have been TTC for over a year, maybe even two years in each case. one of them started trying at the same time as I did. now, I have a baby, and she's still trying.

I don't know whether it's rude or insensitive to talk about my baby to them. I'm so proud and happy about my little boy, but I know they're all struggling.

should I not even bring up DS and talk about other things? on the other hand, DS is so much a part of my life right now that by NOT talking about him I'm shutting my friends out of what's really going on with me.

I hope I'm not offending anyone with this post. I just really don't know what to do.

Thanks you.

[Anonymous]

Hmm, if you are close to your friends, I would ask them (separately). It's important to show you're being sensitive and acknowledge what their going through (that's how I felt) and I'm sure they're trying hard to be there for you as well, obviously they love babies and kids themselves otherwise they wouldn't be trying. The hard part is that it's always a reminder of course of what they're longing to have.

So maybe ask them, it might help to have that open conversation. But regardless, just be sensitive, talk about the baby but not incessantly, your friendship after all started on something other than babies.

[Anonymous]

I agree with PP. If they are good friends you should be able to ask.

I am going through the lengthy TTC process right now, and it is exciting to see friends get pregnant and have babies, but hard at the same time. BUT, at the same time, I would not want to hear about their baby ALL the time. There are other things to talk about too.

Congratulations on your son!!!!!!!!

[Anonymous]

OP here... Thanks for the advice. I see if I can summon the courage to talk to them about this.