Stupid Facebook stalker question

[Anonymous]

I will admit to loving the fact that an old boyfriend has for some reason left his wall open to the public. I do not want to friend him, but he has a common name, so I have a hard time finding him when I get an urge to read his posts (probably a sign I shouldn't be reading them, I know). Is there any way to bookmark him or something? We no longer have any common friends on FB, and he's not searchable by city.

[Anonymous]

Maybe it is for the best he's not easy to find. I'd leave it alone and move forward. It is ancient history.

[Anonymous]

Yes, just add the URL to your favorites. Every FB page has it's own URL.

[Anonymous]

Ditto what 10:10 said. And it's absolutely NOT wierd at all to be interested in what your old boyfriend is up to. We all think about these things from time to time. I think that's 90% of the point of facebook anyway.

[Anonymous]

once you reach the age 21, take a pledge to start acting like an adult and move on with the rest of your life. you know he has. jesus, you're just a sex memory for him and any chance to reconnect is really an opportunity for quick roll in the hay.

[Anonymous]

You should friend him

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You should friend him

That's great. I'm sure you would love your husband friending his old flame.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ditto what 10:10 said. And it's absolutely NOT wierd at all to be interested in what your old boyfriend is up to. We all think about these things from time to time. I think that's 90% of the point of facebook anyway.

If you define weird by what everyone else is doing then I guess it's not "weird". After all, many American adults are still children with childish thoughts, childish actions, and no desire to grow up. I don't know about other countries because this is where I live.

But everyone does not sit around thinking about exes and looking at their FB page. Some of us are happily married and too busy with our current lives to worry about the past.

[Anonymous]

yes, by all means, grow up. because being a grown-up means you get to be an intolerable self-righteous BORE who likes to tell other people to grow up. come on, people, why the attack on OP? at least she's being honest about something she recognizes is pretty silly and non-constructive. it's not like it has taken over her life or anything. but like other pps have noted, most people - esp women - do this, or at least wonder about our exes. boo on all you grown-ups. you guys sound like a bunch of boring losers.

[Anonymous]

There is a difference between idly checking up on an ex out of curiosity, and wanting to follow their daily life. If you need to bookmark the page, it sounds like it is not so much on the healthy side.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:yes, by all means, grow up. because being a grown-up means you get to be an intolerable self-righteous BORE who likes to tell other people to grow up. come on, people, why the attack on OP? at least she's being honest about something she recognizes is pretty silly and non-constructive. it's not like it has taken over her life or anything. but like other pps have noted, most people - esp women - do this, or at least wonder about our exes. boo on all you grown-ups. you guys sound like a bunch of boring losers.

You are so right. I love the excitement of failed marriages, affairs, and marital counseling. I mean because no one has ever had any problems from looking up an ex on facebook. That's silly! What harm has Facebook ever caused? We need to stop being so boring and chase that fun!

[Anonymous]

I don't think it's unusual or sinister to be curious about what people from your past are doing, whether it's an old boyfriend or an old roommate, etc. It's like seeing two movies from a trilogy and wanting to see the third one so you know how things turned out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:yes, by all means, grow up. because being a grown-up means you get to be an intolerable self-righteous BORE who likes to tell other people to grow up. come on, people, why the attack on OP? at least she's being honest about something she recognizes is pretty silly and non-constructive. it's not like it has taken over her life or anything. but like other pps have noted, most people - esp women - do this, or at least wonder about our exes. boo on all you grown-ups. you guys sound like a bunch of boring losers.

You are so right. I love the excitement of failed marriages, affairs, and marital counseling. I mean because no one has ever had any problems from looking up an ex on facebook. That's silly! What harm has Facebook ever caused? We need to stop being so boring and chase that fun!

You people are seriously not on good terms with any of your exes? Your spouses are SO threatened by a past relationship that it causes the marriage to fail? If that's the case, the marriage will fail anyway. I'm friends with several ex boyfriends from various times in my life. They all know my husband and child. My husband is likewise friends with a couple of ex girlfriends. It does not bother me at all because I have no concern that he will run off with one of them. Those relationships ended for a reason, a long time ago, and we have a great relationship now. Sounds like the "grow up" squad need a taste of mature relationships rather than self-righteousness.

[Anonymous]

It looks like someone has their head buried in the sand.

http://www.telegraph.co.uk/technology/facebook/6857918/Facebook-fuelling-divorce-research-claims.html

http://www.foxnews.com/scitech/2010/04/12/facebook-blame-divorce-boom/

Do you think people intend for these things to happen? No, they don't. But when life gets a little tough, people start thinking and fantasizing and then the next thing you know it's just a FB friend request that leads to a phone call that leads to an emotional attachment, that leads to meeting up the next time you are in town, that leads to something else.

It shouldn't be too hard to imagine. Look at all the whiny posts on here about how women are so bored with their husbands and they fantasize about the swim teacher and random people on the street.

I hate to be rude, but WAKE UP BITCH.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:yes, by all means, grow up. because being a grown-up means you get to be an intolerable self-righteous BORE who likes to tell other people to grow up. come on, people, why the attack on OP? at least she's being honest about something she recognizes is pretty silly and non-constructive. it's not like it has taken over her life or anything. but like other pps have noted, most people - esp women - do this, or at least wonder about our exes. boo on all you grown-ups. you guys sound like a bunch of boring losers.

You are so right. I love the excitement of failed marriages, affairs, and marital counseling. I mean because no one has ever had any problems from looking up an ex on facebook. That's silly! What harm has Facebook ever caused? We need to stop being so boring and chase that fun!

You people are seriously not on good terms with any of your exes? Your spouses are SO threatened by a past relationship that it causes the marriage to fail? If that's the case, the marriage will fail anyway. I'm friends with several ex boyfriends from various times in my life. They all know my husband and child. My husband is likewise friends with a couple of ex girlfriends. It does not bother me at all because I have no concern that he will run off with one of them. Those relationships ended for a reason, a long time ago, and we have a great relationship now. Sounds like the "grow up" squad need a taste of mature relationships rather than self-righteousness.

Yes, I'm friends, but it is in the open. I don't "stalk" them. What the OP is talking about is not open.