MY husband is concerned that my 2.5 favorite color is pink/purple -I know ridiculous posting:)

[Anonymous]

My 2.5 year old is at this stage where he is obsessing over colors and is always picking out things that are pick and purple. My son is a bit sensitive natured but also loves a lot sports/balls etc. I keep telling my husband it is a phase but he is quite sensitive because he has a gay brother in his family. He is not prejudice and acknowledges that there is nothing he can do about it if he has a son/daughter that is gay and I l know he will love him know matter what but he always says that his brother who is gay struggled so much internally and went through a difficult time in high school. Just curious wondering if this is a phase.

[Anonymous]

Phase -- doesn't mean anything one way or another. My son loved pink, purple, Barbies, princesses etc. at that age. He is 8 now and would sooner die than be seen playing with a Barbie. (But he'll still wear his "cool" pink shirt sometimes).

[Anonymous]

Justin Bieber wears purple all the time and he seems to be doing okay with the girls.

[Anonymous]

My son loves the colors pink and purple (he is 4 yrs old). But he hates dolls, plays sports, at least tries and is obsessed with trains/cars. I have friends who have daughters who loves dolls and trucks, etc. Liking a color (or gendered toys) doesn't determine future sexuality.

[Anonymous]

Tell your husband that at age 2.5 he doesn't know that pink and purple represent "female" colors. He just knows they are bright and cheerful. He is not choosing "girl" colors, he is just noticing nice colors. It has nothing to do with his gender identitiy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My 2.5 year old is at this stage where he is obsessing over colors and is always picking out things that are pick and purple. My son is a bit sensitive natured but also loves a lot sports/balls etc. I keep telling my husband it is a phase but he is quite sensitive because he has a gay brother in his family. He is not prejudice and acknowledges that there is nothing he can do about it if he has a son/daughter that is gay and I l know he will love him know matter what but he always says that his brother who is gay struggled so much internally and went through a difficult time in high school. Just curious wondering if this is a phase.

Why, then, with a 2.5 yr. old is he so sensitive about DS choice of colors. Sounds to me like DH is a closet bigot.

[Anonymous]

Pink and purple are only girl colors because we say they are. Little kids don't know all these "rules" yet and like what they like. No biggie.

[Anonymous]

Could be worse . . . he could grow up to be a republican.

[Anonymous]

Kids have no idea of gender stereotypes and roles yet. He's choosing the colors because he likes them, not because they are typically female colors.

Our oldest loved the color pink for a while around that age. We just let it go.

BTW - it's also perfectly normal for little boys to want to play with toy kitchens, play with baby dolls, and put a dress on and pretend to put on lipstick. They are mimicking what they see and role playing - once again it has nothing to do with gender roles.

Maybe your son will be gay, and maybe not. Either way - there's no reason to be worrying about it.

[Anonymous]

My 3 year old son loves pink and purple and stuffed animals and tv shows like my little pony and strawberry shortcake. And Barbie movies. And all his sister's jewelry and "girl toys." He also likes trains, cars, trucks, dirt, sand, etc. I figure if he's gay, he's gay already, and who cares anyway? If hugging a giant pink pony makes him happy right now, great.

[Anonymous]

My 3 year old loves pink and purple as well. I think it has a lot to do with all his girl friends at daycare and his love of Dora. I have no issue with it but I did prevent him from getting a pretty girlie pink bike(with streamers and a white basket) just because he has a younger brother and it will be used by boys for many, many years. I have no issue with him getting pink/purple items that are cheaper. He has a pink dora backpack that I think is so cute when he carries it around.

[Anonymous]

When DS was 3 his favorite game was Pretty Pretty Princess, played with his cousins. He's 16 and clearly straight - now I worry about premature sex and teen pregnancy.

[Anonymous]

for most guys, the idea of a gay son is about the scariest thought out there. so he is scared and in this case he is being silly. that doesn't mean you wouldnt love your gay son, but it would be very disappointing. just speaking straight here.

[Anonymous]

Could be worse. He could grow up to be a Democrat.

[Anonymous]

DS's favorite color at that age was pink. He was very disappointed when I had to clue him in to the fact that pink was considered a "girl" color before he went to pre-school. This is really normal, OP, so your DH should relax.

Now he's 11 and still likes pink - uses that and lots of other colors in his art, but doesn't dress in it. But he does wear orange, yellow, green and red. DS has very few dark clothes. He does have a red and purple character backpack that he's had since 2nd grade. Only newer kids ask about it, but no one teases him since they recognize he's a big fan. It's about to wear out and he picked out a red one to replace it.

Your DH is worried, but you have a long time to go before one gets to teenage stage of how to deal with one's sexual orientation.