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Yea…this doesn’t happen. Parents form cliques and are less welcoming than the players to new and better talent. Which, in turn, causes their players to be unwelcoming. My DD plays up a year on her ECNL team, and is any given day the best girl on the field. All she gets is resentment and jealousy from parents and teammates alike. They are grateful for the winning due to her, but will organize team events and intentionally leave her out - small stuff like attending a Spirit match, a movie or haunted hayride. The behavior is so shortsighted too. If is a college coach on the sideline watching, or if it’s eval season, they’ll literally be closed down, turn to find the pass and see that she is there waiting and calling, doing all the off ball work to help, and they’ll turn back into the defender and lose the ball rather than make the pass to her - they don’t want the highlight real of their amazing pass or assist to have her scoring - and that is 80% due to the parents giving their kids crap and the kid doesn’t want to hear it. Ironically it’s actually worse in middle tier teams, DPL, classic, etc. |
Most likely this will be the case IMO for girls. Elite starter level ECNL/GA players born 9/1-12/31 will be able to go make almost any ECNL team. Subs from ECNL GA team will knock off the current subs from ECNL teams of similar ranking the year below maybe slightly better. Some RL girls will sneak into the lower level ECNL teams and get various spots as a role player. It won’t be a complete take over majority of ECNL team but you will see 40-50% turnover on ECNL teams next year. If your kid is a bench player with a Jan to Aug bday they are definitely going RL or GA |
My kids team had a clique that would do this. The ringleader parent got all their buddies together and put together a package deal to a different club. After changing clubs the package deal fell apart and most of the kids quit. The only one left was ringleader and his kid. We played their team about 1.5 years later and ringleader had no friends on the new team. His kid quit shortly after our team beat them. I felt bad for the guy because his kid quitting was 100% because of his actions. But not enough to do or say anything about it. The guy was toxic to be around. |
That's way too naive. Kids aren't motivated to train or train harder or keep playing when there told there are not that good compared to the older kids and stuck on the second or lower and are stuck at the less glamorous positions. So other sports find them and they quit soccer or keep it as gig work. Team just demoted all 5 Q4s for next year. (Club is run by morons who have gone in the opposite direction to prepare for the age change.) You think that fosters love for the game? |
It REALLY depends on the club/team. There are some toxic parents everywhere but also some people who are realistic about youth soccer that can keep it all in perspective. Those are the best to be around! |
Regardless of the age, if you are bench player, you are ALREADY looking for a new club. Just saw this happen during THIS tryout season with players coming/going. Yes, with the age change, there'll be MORE turnover than usual, but a lot of this youth soccer trash talk is just that. |
Imagine if MLSNext and ECNL have different age cutoffs… the system will be overrun with clubhopping every year as kids and parents chase their kids growth spurts for that extra advantage until it catches up to them. Less continuity for teams/clubs and less focus on development. Way to go US Soccer! |
50 pounds difference between a January and December kid? |
Absolutely for girls U12 (and playing U13s a lot for 11 v11) |
I’ve seen this too, even in the same age group some girls are through puberty and some girls haven’t even started. Moving up to 11v11 this early only requires athletic ability. The field is so big in relation to the girls that technical ability and a good first touch really isn’t needed and fast/can kick far is preferred by many coaches. Many smaller more technical girls are dropped around this age because coaches prefer attributes that will win games. |
My daughter grew 6 inches and put on 40 pounds in 8th grade, right after she hit puberty (late). |
RAE is real and 2026 is going to be a crazy tryout season with q3/4 switching clubs and getting looks from second teams |
We have had the "best" few players sub up from 2013, a team ranked best in our state, to 2012. I've seen them play among 2013 and they are faster, stronger, and bigger than almost everyone on the field. They get out-ran and tossed around with 2012. It's very apparent they are younger. They still make good passes, but they can no longer dribble by anyone, and they lose 50/50s consistently. You can see that they have developed a good soccer IQ from dominating their own age group on a good team, but the things they're trying just aren't very effective due to the physical disadvantage. They'd still be A team players at most clubs in 2012, but if they were at one of the top clubs in our state, they would be B teamers with a birthday just 1-2 months earlier. The size and speed changes each year are massive in middle school. But some grow a lot and get worse, so it's not a rapid improvement for everyone. |
Yep, I'm the poster you're responding to and the middle school years are crazy. Everything you said matches what I've seen this spring of playing 11 v 11 as U12s (NA pre-ECNL) and playing U13 at tournaments. |