Ways you upped your game in life

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This will be more philosophical, but it's an attitude shift that has changed my life. I've let go of fear. Fear of failure, fear of embarrassment, fear of impostor syndrome. All of it. Maybe it's a 40s thing, or maybe it's a reaction to playing by all the rules and still losing my job. Now I just go for it. Don't like me? No problem. I probably am not meant to attract you as a friend anyway. I am attracting a higher quality group of people who are not threatened or competitive. Women who support each other -- no holds barred. It's like living at a different frequency. I went into business for myself, and I am 1,000 times more successful than the bozos who fired me. Life is peaceful. I am happy. No time for negativity; too much good stuff to do.

Just turned 40 and agree with everything you said. One thing I've learned is that no one cares if you've played by the rules and did everything nicely. It won't get you promoted. It won't save you from layoffs. There's no loyalties. That's the reality of the corporate world we all work in. You want something, you need to go for it. Who cares what others think.

[Anonymous]

1) Accepted that sometimes you have to do crappy things or unpleasant things for awhile to set yourself up for something better. But realized that it is key to move on to something better and not let yourself get stuck. Movement is life. Gotta keep going until you find a happy place

2) Fully embraced a philosophy of gratitude. When it rains I am thankful to be sheltered, when I cook I'm thankful for the food, when my dryer dies I'm thankful I can replace it.

3) Respect myself and refuse to allow anyone to walk all over me, but generally try to be kind and generous when at all possible.

4) Don't bother with any person who I don't need to bother with who doesn't bring positivity to my life or my kid's lives in some way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This will be more philosophical, but it's an attitude shift that has changed my life. I've let go of fear. Fear of failure, fear of embarrassment, fear of impostor syndrome. All of it. Maybe it's a 40s thing, or maybe it's a reaction to playing by all the rules and still losing my job. Now I just go for it. Don't like me? No problem. I probably am not meant to attract you as a friend anyway. I am attracting a higher quality group of people who are not threatened or competitive. Women who support each other -- no holds barred. It's like living at a different frequency. I went into business for myself, and I am 1,000 times more successful than the bozos who fired me. Life is peaceful. I am happy. No time for negativity; too much good stuff to do.

Just turned 40 and agree with everything you said. One thing I've learned is that no one cares if you've played by the rules and did everything nicely. It won't get you promoted. It won't save you from layoffs. There's no loyalties. That's the reality of the corporate world we all work in. You want something, you need to go for it. Who cares what others think.

Are either of you POC? I’m a woman of color and would love to embrace that attitude.

Except I’d get the pink slip so fast I wouldn’t know what hit me.

[Anonymous]

I get my groceries delivered from a farm and Wegmans. Total game changer. I bought another rental property and hired a firm to manage it.

[Anonymous]

I get happy ending massages every Friday at lunchtime

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This will be more philosophical, but it's an attitude shift that has changed my life. I've let go of fear. Fear of failure, fear of embarrassment, fear of impostor syndrome. All of it. Maybe it's a 40s thing, or maybe it's a reaction to playing by all the rules and still losing my job. Now I just go for it. Don't like me? No problem. I probably am not meant to attract you as a friend anyway. I am attracting a higher quality group of people who are not threatened or competitive. Women who support each other -- no holds barred. It's like living at a different frequency. I went into business for myself, and I am 1,000 times more successful than the bozos who fired me. Life is peaceful. I am happy. No time for negativity; too much good stuff to do.

Just turned 40 and agree with everything you said. One thing I've learned is that no one cares if you've played by the rules and did everything nicely. It won't get you promoted. It won't save you from layoffs. There's no loyalties. That's the reality of the corporate world we all work in. You want something, you need to go for it. Who cares what others think.

Are either of you POC? I’m a woman of color and would love to embrace that attitude.

Except I’d get the pink slip so fast I wouldn’t know what hit me.

As would anyone regardless of their race. Stop with the race crap. This is about WOMEN.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This will be more philosophical, but it's an attitude shift that has changed my life. I've let go of fear. Fear of failure, fear of embarrassment, fear of impostor syndrome. All of it. Maybe it's a 40s thing, or maybe it's a reaction to playing by all the rules and still losing my job. Now I just go for it. Don't like me? No problem. I probably am not meant to attract you as a friend anyway. I am attracting a higher quality group of people who are not threatened or competitive. Women who support each other -- no holds barred. It's like living at a different frequency. I went into business for myself, and I am 1,000 times more successful than the bozos who fired me. Life is peaceful. I am happy. No time for negativity; too much good stuff to do.

Just turned 40 and agree with everything you said. One thing I've learned is that no one cares if you've played by the rules and did everything nicely. It won't get you promoted. It won't save you from layoffs. There's no loyalties. That's the reality of the corporate world we all work in. You want something, you need to go for it. Who cares what others think.

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I stopped being flaky and stopped being late.

I started investing in my friendships more. I live overseas and my friends are all scattered around (my closest friends live in NYC, DC, SF, London, and Shanghai) and these long-term friendships are really important to me. I make a point to reach out and see how everyone's doing regularly.

I raised my standard of cleanliness for my home. By keeping the house neater, my mood tends to be better overall and I have more energy (I'm not kidding).

I'm already pretty minimalist, but now I regularly get rid of things rather than doing a big purge. More manageable.

I refuse to engage in drama with anyone, ever.

I stopped being self-deprecating. It's not to say I act like a cocky a**hole, I just started to realize my value and worth and no longer present myself that way.

If I don't feel it, I don't do it. Friendships, undertakings, books, whatever - life is too short.

See, I never understood this, seems very D.C. to me to be full of oneself, and value yourself more than you should. The most successful (truly) people I know are self deprecating, because they can afford to be.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This will be more philosophical, but it's an attitude shift that has changed my life. I've let go of fear. Fear of failure, fear of embarrassment, fear of impostor syndrome. All of it. Maybe it's a 40s thing, or maybe it's a reaction to playing by all the rules and still losing my job. Now I just go for it. Don't like me? No problem. I probably am not meant to attract you as a friend anyway. I am attracting a higher quality group of people who are not threatened or competitive. Women who support each other -- no holds barred. It's like living at a different frequency. I went into business for myself, and I am 1,000 times more successful than the bozos who fired me. Life is peaceful. I am happy. No time for negativity; too much good stuff to do.

Just turned 40 and agree with everything you said. One thing I've learned is that no one cares if you've played by the rules and did everything nicely. It won't get you promoted. It won't save you from layoffs. There's no loyalties. That's the reality of the corporate world we all work in. You want something, you need to go for it. Who cares what others think.

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+3

You don't have to eff with other people to get ahead, just stay in your lane, MYOB, and concentrate on your own efforts (efforts that don't include time wasters and detrimental behavior like gossip). Find strong women who are most like you, who have their own accomplishments, and they will raise you up - not waste your time on petty BS.

[Anonymous]

Viagra. Didn’t believe I needed it. At 53 I realized it really upped my game.

[Anonymous]

Removing all expectations from other people, to support being less judgmental, and still honoring my dignity.

Raising higher expectations for myself and staying encouraged in the journey of my meeting those expectations.

Listening to music.

Wearing lipstick and moisturizing everything; deep conditioning my hair.

Enjoying a nice bottle of wine.

Cuddling more with my child.

[Anonymous]

Only eat good quality food
Grow a garden
Family fun time
Daily exercise

Want to:
Set and keep a consistent bedtime
Related: get more work done efficiently during the day instead of after the kids are in bed (e.g. knock out some work when waiting for a meeting host to arrive instead of surfing, ooops)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This will be more philosophical, but it's an attitude shift that has changed my life. I've let go of fear. Fear of failure, fear of embarrassment, fear of impostor syndrome. All of it. Maybe it's a 40s thing, or maybe it's a reaction to playing by all the rules and still losing my job. Now I just go for it. Don't like me? No problem. I probably am not meant to attract you as a friend anyway. I am attracting a higher quality group of people who are not threatened or competitive. Women who support each other -- no holds barred. It's like living at a different frequency. I went into business for myself, and I am 1,000 times more successful than the bozos who fired me. Life is peaceful. I am happy. No time for negativity; too much good stuff to do.

Just turned 40 and agree with everything you said. One thing I've learned is that no one cares if you've played by the rules and did everything nicely. It won't get you promoted. It won't save you from layoffs. There's no loyalties. That's the reality of the corporate world we all work in. You want something, you need to go for it. Who cares what others think.

Yaaaas I love this!!! I want to be this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Only eat good quality food
Grow a garden
Family fun time
Daily exercise

Want to:
Set and keep a consistent bedtime
Related: get more work done efficiently during the day instead of after the kids are in bed (e.g. knock out some work when waiting for a meeting host to arrive instead of surfing, ooops)

These are really hard for me! kudos to you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Removing all expectations from other people, to support being less judgmental, and still honoring my dignity.

Raising higher expectations for myself and staying encouraged in the journey of my meeting those expectations.

Listening to music.

Wearing lipstick and moisturizing everything; deep conditioning my hair.

Enjoying a nice bottle of wine.

Cuddling more with my child.

If you remove all expectations from other people, how do you get your emotional needs met?