| If she tries some stupid old wives tale remedy, it will come back. Be a better parent. |
It doesn’t have to go very far in (a few centimeters and she could do less if she’s not comfortable). She could also try using her fingers to push it in if there’s no way she’ll even try the applicator. Please just get her to try, it’ll make her feel so much better. |
| OP, is your daughter a sexual abuse survivor? I think she needs therapy. An 18 year old should be able to insert a vaginal suppository or the cream through the applicator (that one is my preference). You aren’t taking any of this seriously enough. This is a significant mental health issue whether you recognize it or not. |
This was my first thought as well. I’m concerned that something may have happened to make her this uncomfortable with her own body. I get it - it’s weird and icky and new for her. She’s not used to showing it to a doctor or discussing it or putting something in there. But it’s important to get the right diagnosis and treatment, as well as routine preventative care. |
If that is the case, she needs an oral med. With an infection of this duration, it will take two single-dose pills of Diflucan to eliminate it. I don't know what you are doing dithering about home remedies when this is available. Call the doctor and get it. |
The doctor isn’t an option. At first she didn’t want to go because it’s too far and doesn’t like appointments, but now she knows that yeast infections are diagnosed with pelvic exams or visual screenings, which makes her uncomfortable. Her doctor is male, so that’s not an option, and she wouldn’t feel comfortable with a woman either. Her only option now is telehealth that doesn’t involve video calls, because she doesn’t want to talk to anyone about this. The issue is she needs a liquid medication, and not many telehealth companies offer that. Also, she’s not sure which telehealth services are reliable, and provide uncontaminated medication. Thanks—any suggestions for which telehealth service to use that’s safe and trustworthy? |
They won't be diagnosing this via telehealth with any kind of accuracy. They probably need to take a sample and verify whats happening. They can't do this without talking to her, and doing an exam. She's 18 - she needs to see a gyn about this. If she's not comfortable with a male doctor, schedule with a woman. Perhaps she would be more comfortable with a midwife? Most do well woman care in additional to pre-natal care. If she calls and says she's nervous, a provider should be willing to have a conversation with her and explain everything they're going to do, BEFORE she changes into a gown. Look up trauma informed providers near you (I have no recommendations, sorry). |
Any telehealth will prescribe her diflucan if she reports classic yeast infection symptoms. Most in person urgent cares will do the same, without an internal or even an external exam, if she has classic yeast infection symptoms- it is possible they'll ask for a urine test but that does not involve anyone examining her vaginal area. She just has to pee, in private, in the bathroom. They send the medication electronically into whatever pharmacy you ask them to. It's no different, medication wise, than having your regular doctor send it in electronically. And they can write her for liquid just as easily as they can write her for pills, it just may take 2-3 days to fill if the pharmacy doesn't have it in stock. Some of these responses from you make me wonder how medically literate you yourself are? You can't help your daughter become more comfortable with doctors if you yourself don't know much about how doctors visits and pharmacies work. Paranoia about CVS giving you a different or fake medication just because Doc A writes it instead of Doc B isn't normal. |
To be fair, if she does a telehealth service video call and just says she has classic yeast infection symptoms and requests diflucan, and denies urinary or abdominal symptoms, and denies sexual activity or chance of UTI, they'll just write her for diflucan and instruct her to follow up with her PCP if her symptoms don't resolve with the diflucan. Telehealth services exist for people to be able to get simple meds (diflucan, eye drops for pink eye, etc) without an in person doctor's visit and they aren't going to be all that thorough. Signed, someone who used to moonlight by doing telemedicine for a few hours after the kids went to bed but ended up stopping because I didn't like the type of medicine they expected me to practice (aka, just giving people diflucan if they'd never had a yeast infection before when they say it burns "down there". Now giving diflucan to a 30 year old woman who had had 5 yeast infections in the past, just got back from the beach, and reports 2 days if intense itching and cottage cheese discharge, no fever no abd pain no urinary symptoms no chance of pregnancy, most docs would be very comfortable treating from a virtual visit) |
She has no trauma history. She’s just nervous about something going up there because that has never happened, and she’s very private person. She didn’t like going to the doctor for past infections like ear infections, and even colds. She’s not willing to do any internal exams, even if she’s the one putting something up there, so Telehealth is her only option. She’ll use one now. |
She 100% needs mental health counseling. It is insane that you do not recognize that she has SN. The only teens I know with this level of health anxiety are either trauma survivors or on the autism spectrum or have very severe anxiety disorder. This probably won’t be the thing that kills her. But her life and health is at extreme risk if this is her level of medical anxiety. I asked before if she is going to college. That’s so scary that she would be away from home and so utterly incapable of taking care of herself. |
| I’m starting to wonder if it’s the teen posting, not the mom. The lack of inquiry into why the teen is acting this way makes me think it is the teen herself. |
| She needs a doctor for the infection and a therapist for rest. This is not normal. |
+1 The "mom" is basically saying that her daughter's reproductive/urinary system will NEVER be examined and this is of no concern to her? Very troubling. |
| You said she needs liquid medicine - is she able to swallow pills? |