Teen DS doesn't want to spend time with blended family

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've been divorced for a while, exDH remarried to a woman with 3 kids of her own. She is very keen on the whole blended family concept and tries to include DS in everything. The problem is - he doesn't want to. He is a teenager (17), her kids are much younger, he wants to spend more time with exDH, only the other 3 are constantly tagging along. He is never alone with his Dad, either her or her kids are always present, they get very offended if he even suggests to do something just him and his dad. ExDH is trying to appease his wife and include his stepkids, I get it, but our DS feels slighted. It's ridiculous but if she sees the two of them talking on the port for a minute, she insists on joining them with "so, what are you boys talking about?".

This weekend he just lost it at his Dad's house. He offered exDH to go fishing in the wee Sunday hours, only to have his stepmom say "oh that's lovely, Larlo/Jenny/Maggie will join too." DS just lost it there. He said a few things he shouldn't have said, used profanities, which led to a shouting match. He packed up his things despite exDH telling him to apologize and left.

He refuses to apologize, he blocked exDH and his stepmother everywhere possible. I got an earful from exDH last night, all with his wife bawling in the background. DS' reasoning: "this is possibly my last summer here, I am going to college next year, all I wanted to do is a fishing trip with my Dad. How hard is it for that woman to understand? What is she SO AFRAID of when we are together?"

DS did not have to blow out the way he did and certainly there was no need for profanities. I feel like I need to have a sitdown with the wife and try to get her to understand that there is nothing wrong with some father and son time. Is it up to me to repair father and son relationship?

And before anyone suggests it: no, I will not ground DS.

You ex is a moron and his wife is a witch. I would not make him apologize. If your ex is so stupid that he can't understand that all your son wanted was time spent alone with his father then there is nothing you can do. It's even worse that his current wife doesn't understand

[Anonymous]

Current wife does and wants to cut her stepkid out of the family mix so her kids are the only ones to get attention money and inheritance.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Current wife does and wants to cut her stepkid out of the family mix so her kids are the only ones to get attention money and inheritance.

Steper mom needs to dump those kids on their father .. Wherever he is .. Eh

[Anonymous]

OMFG OP - no, this is not your place. To sit down DH and his wife and tell them what to do! Nope. That's for your son, your DH, and stepmom to work out. WITHOUT you. Stay out of it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Let’s be honest… at the end of the day, this child is living between two homes, a broken family. He does not have a sense of belonging. His father now has a family of his own. They are trying to incorporate him into their life but he isn’t having it. He just wants to be a solo kid but guess what, he isn’t! He has siblings. He has to share his father. He isn’t entitled to one on one time with his dad.

We found a stepmom! No, he does not have a sibling. Not even half siblings! Unless they had these kids within one year. He does deserve one on one with his dad.