I second being genuinely yourself. I was given some advice my first year: rule the classroom with an iron fist and don’t show any weakness. This came from an experienced teacher who was well-respected in the school. She had a drill instructor style that worked for her and was authentically the way she cared for the kids. They loved her because of these rigid expectations for behavior. She created a safe space because they knew her clear expectations. I tried to imitate it and failed. Her style was not my style, and I wasn’t being ME. It came across as forced and fearful. I’ve found my style since then. It’s quieter and more motherly, and it works equally well. I can now hold students to the same high expectations, but in a manner that is authentic and genuinely me. |
I am aware of what I said. I *am* the OP. Try to keep up, lol. 😝 Someone was talking about how one of their children are entering middle school in the Fall. |
I so wish I could duplicate that exact moment of my complete cluelessness, during my soup experience, but just would not be the same because I would be totally faking it. I’m sure there will be other opportunities for us all to learn from my foibles. |
You have to spend a lot of time explaining expectations, then practicing them, then reviewing them. How you react depends on the degree to which the kid is being rude or disruptive, and also whether they are a habitual offender. Normally I start by pulling the kid aside and talking to them privately, maybe assigning detention, then calling or emailing home after school. Some teachers will pull the kid into the hall and call their parents right then and put them on speaker phone to explain what just happened. Some teachers have a deal with a neighboring teacher where they can send a student to the other room to complete a reflection worksheet before returning to class. Sometimes it is not personal and what the kid really needs is a pass to their counselor to discuss another situation. The important thing is not to make a scene, because then the kid won’t back down. And if the kid is already making a scene, don’t escalate. Do not lose your temper. If they are cussing you out or throwing chairs, just call security and write the referral. |
I would never have thought to make such an arrangement with another teacher. I will tuck that in my toolbox. TY |
You sound very naive for someone who has been teaching for 12 years. Maybe YOU don’t have a spouse/partner or family support, but plenty of teachers do. And that’s how they afford a mortgage in this area. I know 2 teachers who got free houses from their family (yes, FREE). Most teachers are also married to higher income spouses because a ton of jobs around here pay more than teaching. They can easily afford a mortgage when their incomes are combined. A few single teachers received family support to buy their homes on a teacher salary- I’ve seen at least 3 people from my school who did that. Now if you don’t have any of those advantages, it is very difficult to buy a house on a single income around here. But that goes for a lot of single income people, not just teachers. |
I’m naive? Lol. Most people don’t have family money so nobody is going to be gifting them anything. There are plenty of single teachers and single parent teachers. Heck, even married couples complain on DCUMs how hard it is to make ends meet in this area.
The OP is obviously not your usual new college grad. If she bought a house and doesn’t have a mortgage, she’s not your usual new grad. Most new grads owe in student loans too making it even more difficult to live in this area. Only on DCUMs would I be the naive one. Lol. I have a kid and I’m the only one paying for us to live in this area on a teacher’s salary. Naive? This website never ceases to amaze me. |
Why do you care about her financial situation? And so what if she is not a usual new college grad? What does that have to do with anything? She didn’t ask how to survive living on 1 single teacher’s income. If you or other teachers don’t have any family support that’s not her problem. If you are a single mom that’s not her issue either. I called you naive because you assume just because YOU cannot afford any mortgage in this area, that the OP must also be financially struggling. People are very secretive about those things but anyone who has been reading threads around this forum knows there is a ton of wealth in this area that’s not visible. |
This is great advice. I have partnered with neighboring teachers before, especially during a phase when our admin refused to discipline students. We would allow other teachers’ students to sit in the back of our classrooms to cool off after outbreaks or altercations. I usually had a stack of notebooks/markers back there so the student could draw or write. It worked well. It would have been better if administration helped so we could continue teaching without further interruption, but we can’t control what admin does (or doesn’t do). That’s another thing: don’t be surprised when the bulk of work falls on you. If there’s a duty that needs covering, it’s going to be assigned to a teacher and not a staff member. Be ready to do more with less, and then to be asked to do even more. |
Chill PP. Most college grads are broke and owe money. I’m just giving her advice like everyone else. Here’s my teaching advice. Try it for a year and see how it goes. You don’t know until you try. We have teachers start with zero experience and background and turn out just fine. |
I’m the pp. I work in a neighboring district, but I’m pretty sure FCPS also has a live grade book, where whatever the teacher has put in is visible to the parents and students in real time. There is an expectation that you will update regularly. (For us it’s at least every 2 weeks.) You may not get a lot of say over grading policies and deadlines. In an effort to make it impossible to fail, most districts around here have made it so that kids can turn in assignments late without penalty. You’ll have to check with your school for specifics. |
One of my neighbors recently moved. I have not seen a for sale sign yet, but I can keep a look out if you like. |
I was wondering why reading scores are so low, yet students are still graduating. What is the point precisely of making it impossible to fail?That seems like a huge disservice to the children, but what can you do in that situation? It sounds like teachers are pretty powerless or maybe I have the wrong impression from folks here? |
That is my plan. |
I thought I saw somewhere that FCPS teachers are only obligated to take on one outside of the classroom duty? I mean not including meeting with staff/students/parents, but more like monitoring the lunchroom. If you say ‘no’ to taking on more, can you be fired? |