Normal to feel like you’re dying after birth?

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Anonymous wrote:Not normal. Could be birth trauma/postpartum PTSD, anxiety, sleep deprivation, sepsis, or preeclampsia. Go see your OB immediately, and get a full work up. Also get a referral
To a perinatal psychiatrist. The shakiness and pelvic floor injuries make me lean to postpartum PTSD (I had this - could not sleep also) but you want to rule out medical issues first.

All lined up. I will say the shakiness has all but left. Now mostly exhaustion and nausea.

OP, please make sure that they run a full thyroid panel on you. I went hypothyroid after the birth of my first DD. It is often overlooked, but thyroid issues after pregnancy/delivery are common.

I recently was evaluated for anxiety. The psychiatrist tested TSH, vit B12, vit D, and ferritin. 3/4 were abnormal. The ferritin was extremely low. I complained to numerous OBs and family doctors about heavy menstrual bleeding and all I got was iT's NoRmAl!!!!!

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Anonymous wrote:I know this is no longer relevant but I am 2 years and 5 years postpartum and feel like I’m dying everyday …parenting while working full time with no support is misery. I am so, so tired.

Parenting is difficult. Especially with a full time job and life.

I’m not convinced many women even have PPD. I think it’s that having a baby sucks. You gained a significant amount of weight and can no longer fit in your clothes, you have a baby on your boob for hours a day, can’t do anything social, can’t have sex, can’t go to work….I could go on. Of course many women are miserable under these conditions!

Western society is downright abusive to pre- peri- and post-partum women. No wonder the birth rates are tanking.

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Anonymous wrote:I know this is no longer relevant but I am 2 years and 5 years postpartum and feel like I’m dying everyday …parenting while working full time with no support is misery. I am so, so tired.

Parenting is difficult. Especially with a full time job and life.

I’m not convinced many women even have PPD. I think it’s that having a baby sucks. You gained a significant amount of weight and can no longer fit in your clothes, you have a baby on your boob for hours a day, can’t do anything social, can’t have sex, can’t go to work….I could go on. Of course many women are miserable under these conditions!

Western society is downright abusive to pre- peri- and post-partum women. No wonder the birth rates are tanking.

Both of my kids were relatively skinny at birth and seemingly needed to eat every 1.5 hours round the clock for nearly their entire 1st year. I slept in 30 minute bursts every few hours when my mind could calm down enough to let me. I often felt like I needed to try and sleep ASAP once the babies were asleep, making me feel stressed, and feeding the cycle of not getting any sleep. Glad OP is feeling better.

I agree about our society treating new mothers terribly. I was so not ready to return to work at 12 weeks - wasn't getting hardly any sleep, baby was still nursing constantly around the clock. Spouse had no paternity leave. The expectation once I returned to work was that I would be refreshed and ready to rock! I... wasn't. Wish I could have stayed home longer, but was worried about a resume gap and not being able to get back on the career ladder. Just endured, but man, some more humane policies would have made things better - longer materinity leave, leave for partners, support from a night nurse or doula.

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Did you have a c section or any post partum opioid? Every time I've had surgery I've felt like I had bugs crawling in my brain. My brain hates opioids.