When your DH perks up a bit at attractive women

[Anonymous]

Document his pupil dilation and confront him when he tries to gaslight you.

[Anonymous]

DH caught me checking out a guy at the store the other day, he just laughed.

[Anonymous]

A few days ago my wife met a golf buddy of mine and she said “he’s really good looking!”. He is so what’s the problem? I perk up at attractive women so why can’t she?

[Anonymous]

Nope wouldn't bother me because I"m pretty sure I do the same around an attractive guy. Don't really care so long as its not an obvious flirtation or inappropriate

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He has a wandering eye...

There are glasses you can get that will fix that. It takes a while but eventually they will both be straight.

[Anonymous]

He's perking up b/c she is going to respond differently. Up your game in the looks/bod/clothes/sex areas and start responding to him--laugh at his jokes, listen to his stories, do things he likes...you need to stay engaged.

[Anonymous]

Maybe you need to polish up a little to keep him interested in you.

[Anonymous]

Sounds normal to me. But the fact that you can't have that sort of normal interaction with men, that raises red flags for me. What is actually going on here?

[Anonymous]

Yes, this bothers me. It feels disrespectful. If it’s obvious to me then it’s obvious to others. It makes DH look like a stupid guy. Like he suddenly becomes weak around a beautiful woman. I don’t change when I’m around an attractive man. I think is because i recognize men twenty years younger than me are not interested. For some reason, DH, and men in general, think these women even notice them. They don’t. Which is part of the reason why DH looks so stupid.

[Anonymous]

I perk up a bit when I meet an attractive guy even when I’m with my husband. It happened a week ago when I met one of his golfing buddies and when he left I told my husband “that’s a good looking guy”. I wasn’t expressing an interest in the guy I was just making an observation. My husband will sometimes say the the same thing about an attractive woman. We have been happily married a long time and we are very secure in our relationship so I think that really helps.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, this bothers me. It feels disrespectful. If it’s obvious to me then it’s obvious to others. It makes DH look like a stupid guy. Like he suddenly becomes weak around a beautiful woman. I don’t change when I’m around an attractive man. I think is because i recognize men twenty years younger than me are not interested. For some reason, DH, and men in general, think these women even notice them. They don’t. Which is part of the reason why DH looks so stupid.

He looks stupid and weak when he “perks up” at an attractive woman? We’re not talking about Ray Barone here, tripping over himself and generally making an idiot out of himself when a pretty woman smiles at him. Men (and women) notice attractive people. It’s not a character flaw FFS. If he DOES start walking into things and stuttering and generally being an idiot, then sure, you have a problem.

[Anonymous]

Let's see.... So you're upset that he speaks more friendly to attractive women? He's not doing anything else.... and you're there with him.... and it "bugs" you. Jesus, grow up and get perspective.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, this bothers me. It feels disrespectful. If it’s obvious to me then it’s obvious to others. It makes DH look like a stupid guy. Like he suddenly becomes weak around a beautiful woman. I don’t change when I’m around an attractive man. I think is because i recognize men twenty years younger than me are not interested. For some reason, DH, and men in general, think these women even notice them. They don’t. Which is part of the reason why DH looks so stupid.

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Let him worry about "looking stupid". You do you. Sounds like your DH is old, unattractive and that you have nothing to worry about. Congrats.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you smile a little deeper, make longer eye contact, etc. with a handsome man? Sounds normal/harmless.

Actually, no. I'm a mom and I find that I can't really be seen in a public space smiling deeply with a man because of how it can be percieved in my community.

Amish? Mennonite? Live on a compound with your sister wives?

[Anonymous]

This is great it means he is still alive in there.