Do MS need parents to be awake before heading off to school?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Uhhh the kid is inMS not college. They still need their parents.

-ms teacher

I wish you could explain that to DH.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husband feels the same way. I get up with my MS kid and we have breakfast together and hang out a little. It’s nice to have some time with just him.

I work with them so that they don’t rely on me. They were able to take care of themselves by 2nd grade on the few occasions I had an appointments and had to leave 15-30 minutes before they headed off to school. I think what you’re doing is very nice, but agree with others it isn’t necessary. It can help deepen bonds though.

The above compliment was from me, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Uhhh the kid is inMS not college. They still need their parents.

-ms teacher

This. Of course.

[Anonymous]

Just get up on the first day to make your favorite kid a fancy breakfast. The other kids can get their own cereal or yogurt. But this is just the first day. After that stay in bed and just listen that they’re awake and moving on time , then go back to sleep.

[Anonymous]

Is he preventing you from getting up? Just get up but I wouldn’t expect or insist that husband gets up too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DH doesn’t think anyone but the MS kid in the house need to get up even the first day and week of school. Are most people like this?? This is abnormal to me.

Why have kids if you're just going to ignore them, and threat 13 yos like adults ("You" meaning the collective)? Good lord, no wonder our kids are a mess. Get up, get them out the door and go back to sleep.

MS kids often lack the skills to deal with going from a highly structured ES situation to a more free MS situation. And many suffer (grades, missing things) the first quarter or more of the school year. This is your chance to help them establish a routine and show them what that looks like. That's not "helicoptering", that's teaching.

[Anonymous]

I get up with DH if he has an early flight just so we can have a few minutes before he leaves. I’d absolutely get up to say goodbye to my kid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is he preventing you from getting up? Just get up but I wouldn’t expect or insist that husband gets up too.

Of course I can get up. I just wish he’d invest some emotional capital in the kids once in awhile. He only gets involved and shows up when they play his favorite sport. Otherwise he only comes down and engages with anyone at home is when he gets dinner (even if I’m not home).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DH doesn’t think anyone but the MS kid in the house need to get up even the first day and week of school. Are most people like this?? This is abnormal to me.

Why have kids if you're just going to ignore them, and threat 13 yos like adults ("You" meaning the collective)? Good lord, no wonder our kids are a mess. Get up, get them out the door and go back to sleep.

MS kids often lack the skills to deal with going from a highly structured ES situation to a more free MS situation. And many suffer (grades, missing things) the first quarter or more of the school year. This is your chance to help them establish a routine and show them what that looks like. That's not "helicoptering", that's teaching.

I agree. DH would not. -OP

[Anonymous]

I always get up with my kids and they are in high school. I just like to see them before they are off to school!

[Anonymous]

I agree with you, OP. That is abnormal.

[Anonymous]

My kids are both in college and I got up with them every day they went to school. There are a finite number of times you will need to do this. It is nice to have someone care about you and wish you a nice day. The point of having and being a family is to support and enjoy each other.

[Anonymous]

I can't imagine sleeping through their morning routine.

[Anonymous]

Seriously?!!! YES. Dang, how sad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My MSer would feel hurt and lonely if someone didn't get up with him, especially on the first day.

Does your husband interact with/provide for your child's emotional needs in other ways?

No.

That's the bigger problem, not what he chooses to do on this one particular day.