Dad is mad I asked him to get tested

[Anonymous]

At least her is vaccinated. My mom got furious that asked her to please think it over and consider getting vaccinated. She threatened not to come over anymore. She’s almost 70 and obese. I’m worried for her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Rapid test results are not that accurate. High false negative rate

Yes they are if you have symptoms like he did.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Rapid test results are not that accurate. High false negative rate

Yes they are if you have symptoms like he did.

+1 from a Nurse

[Anonymous]

OP here. Thank you all for listening.

One other factor that’s bothering me—of his three kids, I’m the one who calls often, organizes trips, organizes joint birthday gifts with my siblings, etc. He calls me for advice and updates with the other kids don’t call or check in, etc.

So like, here’s this one thing he doesn’t like, and he’s freezing me out. And I’m feeling unappreciated. I make deposits, he makes withdrawals. And part of me feels like hey, if my efforts are unappreciated and taken for granted, they can certainly stop.

[Anonymous]

You did the right thing.

I am way more "casual" about Covid than most DCUMers (from what I can tell) but I would have also insisted on a test before visiting.

[Anonymous]

Your dad can fully understand why he had to get tested and be grumpy about the hassle at the same time. If I were you, I would thank him for driving an hour to get a test while he was not feeling well. Tell him he is a great grandpa and then move on.

[Anonymous]

He can remain sour - that's on him
Him having a bad cold -only- would have been justification enough for you not to visit, I think
But I think it happens to be junk that you think it was covid, and had him test. Dumb.

[Anonymous]

I don't believe you Op with your "break through" cases comment.

[Anonymous]

I would have insisted on a PCR test.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't believe you Op with your "break through" cases comment.

I have two workers who were vaccinated in February who both tested positive in the past two months. It’s an inconvenient truth that this is possible. Your disbelief changes nothing. I care not.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Called from hotel (en route of long travel) to tell Dad we’d arrive by lunch. He said he “has a bad cold and was up all night coughing and sneezing.” Um…what? My sisters family will also be there tomorrow. I called sister who agreed Dad must get a rapid test before any of us would arrive. So he left lake house to drive an hour back to his main house and get a rapid test. Very grumpy, mad and put out. Yes, he was vaccinated, but my sister and I personally know people with breakthrough cases.

He just got negative result, and will be here in the morning. But he is wounded and in a snit. He claims he understand we were trying to protect unvaccinated kids, but I think he’s going to stay sour.

Meanwhile, we have always—even before Covid—protected our parents and rescheduled things if anyone had a cold, etc. ugh. Just a bad day.

OP, I hear you but... please know the rapid test is not the gold standard at all on this. He really needs the PCR test that takes 2-3 days for results.

If everyone in my family was vaccinated, I wouldn't worry about it. With unvaccinated kids, I would not stay there until he has the other test.

I know many, many people who've had breakthrough cases, my husband and son included. Their symptoms were much like you described with your dad - like a "bad cold." That's because they are vaccinated - otherwise, would most likely have been much worse.

He does not. You are not ok posting this over and over and over again. Seek medical help.

What are you talking about? There is no "medical help" for Covid symptoms.

What? Pp needs help for her insane paranoia and parroting that rapid tests for people with symptoms are not accurate. She// you are on every thread where someone has a sniffle. There is help for clinical anxiety and paranoia.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your dad can fully understand why he had to get tested and be grumpy about the hassle at the same time. If I were you, I would thank him for driving an hour to get a test while he was not feeling well. Tell him he is a great grandpa and then move on.

This.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You can’t control how he feels. Don’t get yourself worked up into a snit to parallel his.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You can’t control how he feels. Don’t get yourself worked up into a snit to parallel his.

This. Do nice things for your dad. Tell him jokes, remind him of pleasant shared memories from you and sister's youth. Cook something good for him, dote on him a bit. Be glad he tested negative. Don't let this ruin your time with him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your dad can fully understand why he had to get tested and be grumpy about the hassle at the same time. If I were you, I would thank him for driving an hour to get a test while he was not feeling well. Tell him he is a great grandpa and then move on.

This. Op you are way to sensitive.

I would be grumpy also I your dad's shoes.