Nine Months Pregnant...Ten Year High School Reunion?

[Anonymous]

Does your DW even feel up to going? Especially after a long car ride (don't forget to allow for extra stops for stretching).

[Anonymous]

4.5 hours by car 3 weeks before her due date? I'd totally do it. You only get one chance to do a 10 year reunion, and if she really wants to do it, she should do it. The odds of going into labor that early are very small, especially with a first baby. And we're not talking about a dangerous situation, just the very small chance that she goes into labor and you either have to drive home in a hurry (labor takes a long time and if it's going slowly, that could be a totally viable option), or deliver at a hospital down there -- not ideal logistically, but not dangerous to mom or baby.

I say this as someone who drove 6 hours to a wedding at 36 weeks (no problems, felt great, had fun) and then flew 3000 miles with a 2.5-month-old to go to my 10 year reunion!

Trust me on this one -- don't judge her or tell her what to do. It will come off as pushy and patronizing. And you both have months of limited social activity ahead as you get through the newborn stage. If she wants to go and have fun while she can, go with her and grin. Look up where the closest hospital to the reunion site is, if that makes you feel better.

[Anonymous]

I would just play it by ear, depending on how she ends up feeling. It is not unheard of to deliver at 37 weeks (full term) but she might be feeling totally fine and get her OB's blessing. No need to figure it out completely now, right?

[Anonymous]

OP here. We have a few months before the reunions. I was trying to make a decision now because we have to send in the money/ RSVP for whichever we are going to attend. At this point I don't think we're going to NC. She's getting to the point where she doesn't even want to sit on the couch for an hour straight. I seriously doubt that we'll make it down there. We will skip both and just enjoy our last few days as a couple before we become a trio.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. We have a few months before the reunions. I was trying to make a decision now because we have to send in the money/ RSVP for whichever we are going to attend. At this point I don't think we're going to NC. She's getting to the point where she doesn't even want to sit on the couch for an hour straight. I seriously doubt that we'll make it down there. We will skip both and just enjoy our last few days as a couple before we become a trio.

I think that's totally reasonable. If she still feels ambivalent about not going, maybe call whoever is organizing it and explain the situation and see if they'd refund your money or give you the option of paying in person if you can make it after all? That might be one way to keep your options open until you get closer to the day.