Anyone have a nanny who has young kids?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Damn people. How would you feel if your bosses at your fancy white-collar office jobs were saying this kinda stuff?

“Oh, I won’t hire women in their 30s or women with small children. I need some dependable and reliable. What happens when the kid is sick? It becomes my problem. Nah, better safe than sorry.”

How awful! Don’t you hear yourselves? You should be ashamed. It’s also vastly illegal AS IT SHOULD BE.

It’s not illegal. This is a private home, not a business.

[Anonymous]

If mom lives with her, AND can drive kids to appointments, might be a good fit. It's the doctor appointments that can be killer.

[Anonymous]

Like, imagine 1 a week.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Damn people. How would you feel if your bosses at your fancy white-collar office jobs were saying this kinda stuff?

“Oh, I won’t hire women in their 30s or women with small children. I need some dependable and reliable. What happens when the kid is sick? It becomes my problem. Nah, better safe than sorry.”

How awful! Don’t you hear yourselves? You should be ashamed. It’s also vastly illegal AS IT SHOULD BE.

It’s not illegal. This is a private home, not a business.

Wrong. While most states have minimum numbers of employees you must have before rules like this kick in, in DC, employers of any size are covered, which includes household employees.

https://archive.naplesnews.com/community/tough-interviews-questions-you-shouldnt-ask-a-prospective-nanny-ep-405235806-331360061.html/

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Damn people. How would you feel if your bosses at your fancy white-collar office jobs were saying this kinda stuff?

“Oh, I won’t hire women in their 30s or women with small children. I need some dependable and reliable. What happens when the kid is sick? It becomes my problem. Nah, better safe than sorry.”

How awful! Don’t you hear yourselves? You should be ashamed. It’s also vastly illegal AS IT SHOULD BE.

It’s not illegal. This is a private home, not a business.

Wrong. While most states have minimum numbers of employees you must have before rules like this kick in, in DC, employers of any size are covered, which includes household employees.

https://archive.naplesnews.com/community/tough-interviews-questions-you-shouldnt-ask-a-prospective-nanny-ep-405235806-331360061.html/

I’m not in DC.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Damn people. How would you feel if your bosses at your fancy white-collar office jobs were saying this kinda stuff?

“Oh, I won’t hire women in their 30s or women with small children. I need some dependable and reliable. What happens when the kid is sick? It becomes my problem. Nah, better safe than sorry.”

How awful! Don’t you hear yourselves? You should be ashamed. It’s also vastly illegal AS IT SHOULD BE.

It’s not illegal. This is a private home, not a business.

Wrong. While most states have minimum numbers of employees you must have before rules like this kick in, in DC, employers of any size are covered, which includes household employees.

https://archive.naplesnews.com/community/tough-interviews-questions-you-shouldnt-ask-a-prospective-nanny-ep-405235806-331360061.html/

I’m not in DC.

Meh. If someone passes on a nanny with young kids for that reason, they don't have to explain themselves as to why they decided not to go with said nanny.

[Anonymous]

Not the same situation at all but the best nanny we ever had for afterschool pickup, activities, dinner prep and homework was a nanny with a child the same age as my youngest and nanny had her daughter with her. The nanny was in school when the kids were in school but would cut for my kids illnesses or all the kids school holidays. And because she was picking up her own daughter too, she was never late. We had her for four years including summers (after camp). And because it was a sort of nanny share, she was unbelievably reasonable in price. When her DD was sick was the only problem. If it was just a cold, she’d leave her DD for those afterschool hours with her grandmother who they lived with. If it was more serious, nanny would miss work. But that really wasn’t that frequent.

[Anonymous]

Yes, but older and just one child who was 9 when nanny started with us. And nanny had no back up care for her child and walked with my child 3 months to 3 years) to pick up nanny’s child at school.

It wasn’t a huge issue for us when nanny had to use PTO to care for her kid when sick. It happened maybe three times a year.

She was a wonderful, loving, brilliant and reliable nanny. We really miss her and have never found anyone as good.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Damn people. How would you feel if your bosses at your fancy white-collar office jobs were saying this kinda stuff?

“Oh, I won’t hire women in their 30s or women with small children. I need some dependable and reliable. What happens when the kid is sick? It becomes my problem. Nah, better safe than sorry.”

How awful! Don’t you hear yourselves? You should be ashamed. It’s also vastly illegal AS IT SHOULD BE.

I had the same thought and morally agree with you. From a practical standpoint, if I’m out sick or caring for my kids, my boss can still work (and I can make up work on nights / weekends if needed) which isn’t the case if childcare doesn’t work out. I’ve only ever used daycares, partly for this reason (ie need more predictably).

Except when you kid is sick, you miss work because daycare won’t take them (especially now) and a kid getting sick is always unpredictable! It’s why we pulled DC out of daycare and got a nanny who is sweet and comforting when the kids are sick and we go off to work.