DD and her friends say I have “bi vibes”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
1. There is no such thing as vibes.

2. Sexuality exists on a spectrum, like do many other traits, and each of us are somewhere on it. Perhaps this changes over time as well.

3. The kids ate also being ridiculous and attach way too much importance to all of this.

there are totally such a thing as vibes. How do you think gay folks sometimes identify each other?

- a longtime lesbian

I have a trans brother (initially lesbian until really identified with gender ID) and a homosexual brother.
I joke that I have a gaydar. Growing up around it I became more in tune with the vibes people give off.

[Anonymous]

Funny! I am actually bi and I have no idea what bi vibes are supposed to be. I am and present very femme but my ex girlfriend (lesbian, not bi) used to say there every now and then I had some attitude or stance or mannerism that was a little gayish. 🤷🏻‍♀️

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:my trans daughter has told me the same. And I *am* bi, but when she said it I hadn't come out to her (I'm in a committed relationship with her stepdad for life, so it was beside the point until she told me she was trans and we had a big heart to heart). There are such things as vibes, particularly for queer folk in identifying each other. Overall, your DD is likely saying you are cool, accepting of her queer identity, and dress in a way that doesn't embarass her. It's a compliment.

That is super funny! To me. How did you feel about it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:my trans daughter has told me the same. And I *am* bi, but when she said it I hadn't come out to her (I'm in a committed relationship with her stepdad for life, so it was beside the point until she told me she was trans and we had a big heart to heart). There are such things as vibes, particularly for queer folk in identifying each other. Overall, your DD is likely saying you are cool, accepting of her queer identity, and dress in a way that doesn't embarass her. It's a compliment.

That is super funny! To me. How did you feel about it?

I was shocked she had picked up on it somehow, but I mean, I have tattoos. Honestly, I think I'm just cool in contrast with her dad (my ex husband), so I benefit greatly from that comparison. LOL. A couple of days after that convo, I was helping her do some stuff in her room (redecorating) and I noticed her door was a little wiggly in the jamb and needed the hinges tightened against the wall, so I popped upstairs, grabbed my toolbox, and came back with my 12.5volt DeWalt screwgun and squatted, widelegged, to fix it and she looked at e and was like "Yeah.....you're definitely not straight, mom." LOL

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ha I forgot I posted this!

I asked again and she said that a lot of it is my mannerisms. Unless I’m in a professional environment I act a lot younger. She said that nobody would guess I’m almost 40. I also dress young. I don’t like to think much about casual clothes so I just wear jeans (not skinny jeans) and t shirts.

I don’t love hearing that I act like “the cool mom” around her friends (I’ve seen mean girls and I know how not to be!) but I take heart in the fact that I’m very strict with bedtime and chores and homework and such.

cool story, bro

[Anonymous]

A number of scientific studies have been conducted to test whether gaydar is real or just a popular myth. Perhaps the earliest study[5] asked people to judge sexual orientation from video clips, with results concluding that it was a myth. A later study in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology showed that people could judge sexual orientation more accurately than chance.[6] This study asked people to indicate their sexual orientation using the Kinsey scale and then had others view very brief silent clips of the people talking using thin-slicing. The viewers rated their sexual orientations on the same scale and the researchers found a significant correlation between where the people said they were on the scale and where they were perceived to be on the scale. Later studies have repeated this finding[7] and have even shown that home videos of children can be used to judge accurately their sexual orientation later in life.[8]

Later studies found that gaydar was also accurate at rates greater than chance for judgments just from the face. Study participants use gendered facial cues and stereotypes of gay people to make their judgments, but reliably misjudge sexual orientation for people countering stereotypes.[9] The race, ethnicity, and nationality of neither the person making the judgment nor the person they are judging seems to make a difference when making judgments from faces.[10][11][12] Even individual facial features (just the eyes) can sometimes give enough information to tell whether a man or woman is gay, straight, or lesbian.[13][14] One study showed that judgments of men's[15] and women's[14] faces for about 1/25 of a second was enough time to tell whether they were gay, straight, or lesbian. People's judgments were no more accurate when they had more time to make their judgments. Follow-up work to this suggested that gaydar happens automatically when someone sees another person and that seeing someone’s face automatically activates stereotypes about gays and straights.[16] People seem not to know that they have gaydar, though.[13] Gay men have more accurate gaydar than straight men,[17] and women have more accurate gaydar when they are ovulating.[18] One study hypothesized that this might be because homosexual people are more attentive to detail than heterosexual people are, apparently as an adopted perceptual style aiding in the recognition of other homosexual people.[19

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gaydar

[Anonymous]

This is either a great troll or really gross.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I looked at DD’s text messages and apparently she and all her friends agree about the vibes I give off.

I sort of get “bi vibes” but now I want to know what I do that gives off said vibes. Is it the vans? How, specifically, does one give off bi vibes? DD (who is gay) said she didn’t know how to explain it but I just do.

I’m not offended and I know kids these days are a little too plugged into the whole sorting of people based sexuality, but I wear makeup, I have long hair, I don’t cuff my jeans, etc.

Misery loves company. My idiot sister says the same things to me. It’s about her trying to invent people in the family who share her alternative sexuality so that she doesn’t feel like an aberration.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:my trans daughter has told me the same. And I *am* bi, but when she said it I hadn't come out to her (I'm in a committed relationship with her stepdad for life, so it was beside the point until she told me she was trans and we had a big heart to heart). There are such things as vibes, particularly for queer folk in identifying each other. Overall, your DD is likely saying you are cool, accepting of her queer identity, and dress in a way that doesn't embarass her. It's a compliment.

That is super funny! To me. How did you feel about it?

I was shocked she had picked up on it somehow, but I mean, I have tattoos. Honestly, I think I'm just cool in contrast with her dad (my ex husband), so I benefit greatly from that comparison. LOL. A couple of days after that convo, I was helping her do some stuff in her room (redecorating) and I noticed her door was a little wiggly in the jamb and needed the hinges tightened against the wall, so I popped upstairs, grabbed my toolbox, and came back with my 12.5volt DeWalt screwgun and squatted, widelegged, to fix it and she looked at e and was like "Yeah.....you're definitely not straight, mom." LOL

I think it’s telling that your trans daughter thoroughly buys into sexist stereotypes of women.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:my trans daughter has told me the same. And I *am* bi, but when she said it I hadn't come out to her (I'm in a committed relationship with her stepdad for life, so it was beside the point until she told me she was trans and we had a big heart to heart). There are such things as vibes, particularly for queer folk in identifying each other. Overall, your DD is likely saying you are cool, accepting of her queer identity, and dress in a way that doesn't embarass her. It's a compliment.

That is super funny! To me. How did you feel about it?

I was shocked she had picked up on it somehow, but I mean, I have tattoos. Honestly, I think I'm just cool in contrast with her dad (my ex husband), so I benefit greatly from that comparison. LOL. A couple of days after that convo, I was helping her do some stuff in her room (redecorating) and I noticed her door was a little wiggly in the jamb and needed the hinges tightened against the wall, so I popped upstairs, grabbed my toolbox, and came back with my 12.5volt DeWalt screwgun and squatted, widelegged, to fix it and she looked at e and was like "Yeah.....you're definitely not straight, mom." LOL

I think it’s telling that your trans daughter thoroughly buys into sexist stereotypes of women.

+1000

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:my trans daughter has told me the same. And I *am* bi, but when she said it I hadn't come out to her (I'm in a committed relationship with her stepdad for life, so it was beside the point until she told me she was trans and we had a big heart to heart). There are such things as vibes, particularly for queer folk in identifying each other. Overall, your DD is likely saying you are cool, accepting of her queer identity, and dress in a way that doesn't embarass her. It's a compliment.

That is super funny! To me. How did you feel about it?

I was shocked she had picked up on it somehow, but I mean, I have tattoos. Honestly, I think I'm just cool in contrast with her dad (my ex husband), so I benefit greatly from that comparison. LOL. A couple of days after that convo, I was helping her do some stuff in her room (redecorating) and I noticed her door was a little wiggly in the jamb and needed the hinges tightened against the wall, so I popped upstairs, grabbed my toolbox, and came back with my 12.5volt DeWalt screwgun and squatted, widelegged, to fix it and she looked at e and was like "Yeah.....you're definitely not straight, mom." LOL

I think it’s telling that your trans daughter thoroughly buys into sexist stereotypes of women.

+1000

Also, shame on PP for not correcting her child’s misogyny. Your formerly male child is insulting you and all women to your face and you think it’s funny. Complete disgrace.