Catholic godparent question

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Can you choose two godparents that are the same sex?


OP here, priest got back to me and apparently the answer is no. I have to say I think this is ridiculous rule.

THIS is the ridiculous rule that bothers you about Catholicism? Oh honey.

OP here,

That Catholic church has other rules that I have deep disagreement with, and that I think are wrong. At this point, DH and I have chosen to stay in the faith and advocate for change within. I wouldn't call a rule like denying sacramental marriage to same sex couples "ridiculous'. I'd call it wrong.

This rule, is just stupid. It's not evil. It's not something I am going to waste my time advocating against. It's just a dumb rule. If the rule was that every kid has to have a god parent parent of each gender? Yeah, maybe i could understand that, although I'd disagree. But you can have just one, so that's not it. Someone suggested it's because they think of the godparents as a "couple", but I know plenty of kids whose godparents are siblings to each other, and the church didn't blink at that.

So, yes, this is a ridiculous rule.

Um your church is actively fighting against the expansion of lgbt protections in Italy. I find nothing redeeming in you staying to “advocate for change from within”. Do better.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Can you choose two godparents that are the same sex?


OP here, priest got back to me and apparently the answer is no. I have to say I think this is ridiculous rule.

THIS is the ridiculous rule that bothers you about Catholicism? Oh honey.

OP here,

That Catholic church has other rules that I have deep disagreement with, and that I think are wrong. At this point, DH and I have chosen to stay in the faith and advocate for change within. I wouldn't call a rule like denying sacramental marriage to same sex couples "ridiculous'. I'd call it wrong.

This rule, is just stupid. It's not evil. It's not something I am going to waste my time advocating against. It's just a dumb rule. If the rule was that every kid has to have a god parent parent of each gender? Yeah, maybe i could understand that, although I'd disagree. But you can have just one, so that's not it. Someone suggested it's because they think of the godparents as a "couple", but I know plenty of kids whose godparents are siblings to each other, and the church didn't blink at that.

So, yes, this is a ridiculous rule.

Um your church is actively fighting against the expansion of lgbt protections in Italy. I find nothing redeeming in you staying to “advocate for change from within”. Do better.

Are you saying that your advocating from without is more successful? I mean, if it was so easy to change it from outside, you'd have done it by now right?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Can you choose two godparents that are the same sex?


OP here, priest got back to me and apparently the answer is no. I have to say I think this is ridiculous rule.

THIS is the ridiculous rule that bothers you about Catholicism? Oh honey.

OP here,

That Catholic church has other rules that I have deep disagreement with, and that I think are wrong. At this point, DH and I have chosen to stay in the faith and advocate for change within. I wouldn't call a rule like denying sacramental marriage to same sex couples "ridiculous'. I'd call it wrong.

This rule, is just stupid. It's not evil. It's not something I am going to waste my time advocating against. It's just a dumb rule. If the rule was that every kid has to have a god parent parent of each gender? Yeah, maybe i could understand that, although I'd disagree. But you can have just one, so that's not it. Someone suggested it's because they think of the godparents as a "couple", but I know plenty of kids whose godparents are siblings to each other, and the church didn't blink at that.

So, yes, this is a ridiculous rule.

Um your church is actively fighting against the expansion of lgbt protections in Italy. I find nothing redeeming in you staying to “advocate for change from within”. Do better.

Are you saying that your advocating from without is more successful? I mean, if it was so easy to change it from outside, you'd have done it by now right?

Just saying that you sound like you’re bragging and making sure others are aware of your church’s current doctrine. Don’t get offended when people point out the contradiction and possible hypocrisy in your association. You can do better.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Can you choose two godparents that are the same sex?


OP here, priest got back to me and apparently the answer is no. I have to say I think this is ridiculous rule.

THIS is the ridiculous rule that bothers you about Catholicism? Oh honey.

OP here,

That Catholic church has other rules that I have deep disagreement with, and that I think are wrong. At this point, DH and I have chosen to stay in the faith and advocate for change within. I wouldn't call a rule like denying sacramental marriage to same sex couples "ridiculous'. I'd call it wrong.

This rule, is just stupid. It's not evil. It's not something I am going to waste my time advocating against. It's just a dumb rule. If the rule was that every kid has to have a god parent parent of each gender? Yeah, maybe i could understand that, although I'd disagree. But you can have just one, so that's not it. Someone suggested it's because they think of the godparents as a "couple", but I know plenty of kids whose godparents are siblings to each other, and the church didn't blink at that.

So, yes, this is a ridiculous rule.

Um your church is actively fighting against the expansion of lgbt protections in Italy. I find nothing redeeming in you staying to “advocate for change from within”. Do better.

Are you saying that your advocating from without is more successful? I mean, if it was so easy to change it from outside, you'd have done it by now right?

Just saying that you sound like you’re bragging and making sure others are aware of your church’s current doctrine. Don’t get offended when people point out the contradiction and possible hypocrisy in your association. You can do better.

Huh?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Can you choose two godparents that are the same sex?


OP here, priest got back to me and apparently the answer is no. I have to say I think this is ridiculous rule.

THIS is the ridiculous rule that bothers you about Catholicism? Oh honey.

OP here,

That Catholic church has other rules that I have deep disagreement with, and that I think are wrong. At this point, DH and I have chosen to stay in the faith and advocate for change within. I wouldn't call a rule like denying sacramental marriage to same sex couples "ridiculous'. I'd call it wrong.

This rule, is just stupid. It's not evil. It's not something I am going to waste my time advocating against. It's just a dumb rule. If the rule was that every kid has to have a god parent parent of each gender? Yeah, maybe i could understand that, although I'd disagree. But you can have just one, so that's not it. Someone suggested it's because they think of the godparents as a "couple", but I know plenty of kids whose godparents are siblings to each other, and the church didn't blink at that.

So, yes, this is a ridiculous rule.

Um your church is actively fighting against the expansion of lgbt protections in Italy. I find nothing redeeming in you staying to “advocate for change from within”. Do better.

Are you saying that your advocating from without is more successful? I mean, if it was so easy to change it from outside, you'd have done it by now right?

Just saying that you sound like you’re bragging and making sure others are aware of your church’s current doctrine. Don’t get offended when people point out the contradiction and possible hypocrisy in your association. You can do better.

Huh?

You’re not being doing anything positive by maintaining your association with your church. At best it’s contradictory at worst it’s hypocrisy. Or maybe you do really just accept the doctrine and use the qualifying trope “working for change from within” to provide cover. No one is impressed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My BFF follows the eastern rite church, and she had a male godfather for her ds, and two female godmothers. Perhaps see if they will let you have two godmothers in addition to The Godfather. It would probably have to be ceremonial (ie, not on the paperwork), but it would be nice if she could stand there for the ceremony and be known in the family as the child’s godmother.

IN the Episcopal church, it's allowed, but not required, for a girl have 2 godmothers and 1 godfather and for a boy to have 2 godfathers and 1 godmother

[Anonymous]

One can be the Confirmation sponsor later.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:One can be the Confirmation sponsor later.

Unlike baptism, kids pick their own confirmation sponsor.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My BFF follows the eastern rite church, and she had a male godfather for her ds, and two female godmothers. Perhaps see if they will let you have two godmothers in addition to The Godfather. It would probably have to be ceremonial (ie, not on the paperwork), but it would be nice if she could stand there for the ceremony and be known in the family as the child’s godmother.

This is probably the best option. One can be officially listed as a "Christian witness."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My BFF follows the eastern rite church, and she had a male godfather for her ds, and two female godmothers. Perhaps see if they will let you have two godmothers in addition to The Godfather. It would probably have to be ceremonial (ie, not on the paperwork), but it would be nice if she could stand there for the ceremony and be known in the family as the child’s godmother.

This is probably the best option. One can be officially listed as a "Christian witness."

PP. Or they might not be listed. But you can ask the priest if one can be a Christian witness but not an official godmother.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My BFF follows the eastern rite church, and she had a male godfather for her ds, and two female godmothers. Perhaps see if they will let you have two godmothers in addition to The Godfather. It would probably have to be ceremonial (ie, not on the paperwork), but it would be nice if she could stand there for the ceremony and be known in the family as the child’s godmother.

This is probably the best option. One can be officially listed as a "Christian witness."

PP. Or they might not be listed. But you can ask the priest if one can be a Christian witness but not an official godmother.

The 2 women could even draw straws to determine who would be the "Christian Witness" and who would be the Godmother, so one would not feel slighted and the child would never have to know.

Besides, by the time the child grows up, the church may have changed its rules to allow two godparents of the same gender.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:One can be the Confirmation sponsor later.

Unlike baptism, kids pick their own confirmation sponsor.

Yes but presumably this family chooses these roles as honors to the family so it shouldn't be hard for OP to push one of her kids to pick the leftover aunt. Plus the child should be choosing a person who is a model of faith which is the same criteria for godparent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:One can be the Confirmation sponsor later.

Unlike baptism, kids pick their own confirmation sponsor.

Yes but presumably this family chooses these roles as honors to the family so it shouldn't be hard for OP to push one of her kids to pick the leftover aunt. Plus the child should be choosing a person who is a model of faith which is the same criteria for godparent.

The whole point of confirmation is becoming a "soldier of Christ" -- an adult. And adults make choices for themselves, like who will be their sponsor. I've never heard of someone being pushed on a confirmee.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:One can be the Confirmation sponsor later.

Unlike baptism, kids pick their own confirmation sponsor.

Yes but presumably this family chooses these roles as honors to the family so it shouldn't be hard for OP to push one of her kids to pick the leftover aunt. Plus the child should be choosing a person who is a model of faith which is the same criteria for godparent.

The whole point of confirmation is becoming a "soldier of Christ" -- an adult. And adults make choices for themselves, like who will be their sponsor. I've never heard of someone being pushed on a confirmee.

The “Catholic Bar Mitzvah” view of Confirmation, while widespread, is erroneous. Confirmation is one of the Sacraments of Initiation. It can be received at any age, and the Orthodox perform it along with Baptism.

Confirmation sponsors need to meet the same requirements as Baptismal sponsors.

[Anonymous]

They probably won´t let an actual Catholic be a Christian witness!

I was so thankful because my sister-in-law was baptised catholic, but didn't have any of the other sacraments and was married, but not in the church, so because she was baptized catholic she technically is not allowed to be a Christian witness. However, they let her and I was surprised/happy. My brother was the actual godparent, but no one knew anything looking at them.

Good LUck OP - this does seem like a dumb rule.