Which nanny would you hire and why?

[Anonymous]

Look, lots of kids go to pre-school at 3. This is not a question of retention, it's just the families needs change, and even if they would need a part-time nanny for pick up, their nanny may not want part time job, so she goes to nanny for another family. It does not mean she was not a great nanny. Also, ask if the college kid lives with mom and if vaccinated.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’ll dissent. Both sound great (the “excellent references” part is what’s key to me) and $1 an hour, assuming she works 40 hour weeks, is over $2k a year. For me, at least, we’re really stretching to pay our nanny, so I’d go with the cheaper (but clearly still great) younger nanny.

Considering whether or not she may choose to have kids soon is illegal, unethical and immoral and I would NOT let that impact my decision.

Sorry but it definitely would impact my decision if given a choice! The maternity leave alone would cripple us.

Nanny 1, OP.

Are you legally required to give your nanny paid maternity leave??? Don’t they just quit once they get pregnant?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’ll dissent. Both sound great (the “excellent references” part is what’s key to me) and $1 an hour, assuming she works 40 hour weeks, is over $2k a year. For me, at least, we’re really stretching to pay our nanny, so I’d go with the cheaper (but clearly still great) younger nanny.

Considering whether or not she may choose to have kids soon is illegal, unethical and immoral and I would NOT let that impact my decision.

Sorry but it definitely would impact my decision if given a choice! The maternity leave alone would cripple us.

Nanny 1, OP.

Are you legally required to give your nanny paid maternity leave??? Don’t they just quit once they get pregnant?

No more than any other worker quits the instant when they get pregnant. Their financial needs don't all of sudden disappear when they have a baby.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’ll dissent. Both sound great (the “excellent references” part is what’s key to me) and $1 an hour, assuming she works 40 hour weeks, is over $2k a year. For me, at least, we’re really stretching to pay our nanny, so I’d go with the cheaper (but clearly still great) younger nanny.

Considering whether or not she may choose to have kids soon is illegal, unethical and immoral and I would NOT let that impact my decision.

Sorry but it definitely would impact my decision if given a choice! The maternity leave alone would cripple us.

Nanny 1, OP.

Are you legally required to give your nanny paid maternity leave??? Don’t they just quit once they get pregnant?

No and no. But you have to find a replacement nanny and give some sort of maternity leave if you want her to come back. No, they generally don’t quit. If they needed to work prior to pregnancy they need to work after.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Look, lots of kids go to pre-school at 3. This is not a question of retention, it's just the families needs change, and even if they would need a part-time nanny for pick up, their nanny may not want part time job, so she goes to nanny for another family. It does not mean she was not a great nanny. Also, ask if the college kid lives with mom and if vaccinated.

+1 especially if this in in DC. I frequently see people on local list serves posting glowing recommendations for their nannies who have been with them for only a year or two. I had a neighbor with an excellent nanny that they employed less than a year since the family unexpectedly moved out of state. I hardly think having three jobs in five years is a red flag.

[Anonymous]

Numero uno for sure‼️

She has raised three children already which is wonderful since a Nanny who is also a parent shows years of experience!
Through every stage of life x3.
Plus her kids are all grown so reliability will not be negatively impacted.

If you can afford her rate then definitely select her!!

[Anonymous]

Both sounds great. How long do you plan to keep her? What’s the base rate vs $1 more you’re considering? Have you factored in an annual bonus?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’ll dissent. Both sound great (the “excellent references” part is what’s key to me) and $1 an hour, assuming she works 40 hour weeks, is over $2k a year. For me, at least, we’re really stretching to pay our nanny, so I’d go with the cheaper (but clearly still great) younger nanny.

Considering whether or not she may choose to have kids soon is illegal, unethical and immoral and I would NOT let that impact my decision.

Sorry but it definitely would impact my decision if given a choice! The maternity leave alone would cripple us.

Nanny 1, OP.

Are you legally required to give your nanny paid maternity leave??? Don’t they just quit once they get pregnant?

No more than any other worker quits the instant when they get pregnant. Their financial needs don't all of sudden disappear when they have a baby.

Come on!

What’s the nanny supposed to do for childcare for her baby? Would she hire another nanny and use 100% of her earnings to pay her own nanny? You’re being ridiculous—of course nannies quit when they have kids of their own.

[Anonymous]

I love older nannies. I only made the mistake of hiring the young nanny once.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’ll dissent. Both sound great (the “excellent references” part is what’s key to me) and $1 an hour, assuming she works 40 hour weeks, is over $2k a year. For me, at least, we’re really stretching to pay our nanny, so I’d go with the cheaper (but clearly still great) younger nanny.

Considering whether or not she may choose to have kids soon is illegal, unethical and immoral and I would NOT let that impact my decision.

Sorry but it definitely would impact my decision if given a choice! The maternity leave alone would cripple us.

Nanny 1, OP.

Are you legally required to give your nanny paid maternity leave??? Don’t they just quit once they get pregnant?

No more than any other worker quits the instant when they get pregnant. Their financial needs don't all of sudden disappear when they have a baby.

Come on!

What’s the nanny supposed to do for childcare for her baby? Would she hire another nanny and use 100% of her earnings to pay her own nanny? You’re being ridiculous—of course nannies quit when they have kids of their own.

Daycare
Their mother/mil
Trade with someone else
Bring the baby

Most nannies don’t quit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We have narrowed it down torso nanny candidates who have many similarities but a few big differences. They both stood out from the others that we interviewed and both could be a good fit for our family, but we are having the hardest time choosing one vs the other.

Nanny 1 is in her late 40s and has 3 adult kids (youngest in college). She has 15 years of experience and has had all long term 4+ year jobs. She was very chatty and energetic, and was also very confident in her abilities, saying kids love her and that she is a great nanny. She wants $1 more per hour than the other nanny, and says she isn’t negotiable on that.

Nanny 2 is 30 and doesn’t have kids (yet, she got married a year ago). She seemed very calm and cool in terms of demeanor. Seems like she genuinely loves kids and has about 5 years of experience but has been with 3 families who all let her go once the youngest was in preschool.

They both had excellent references, are willing to do the job duties we outlined, love to cook and do arts and crafts, know our specific neighborhood well, are good drivers, etc.

Any guidance for how to choose?

Without a question the younger one.

[Anonymous]

I would choose #2. Younger more energetic less set in her ways and kind of irritating the “not budging” on the salary. That’s a red flag to me- she thinks she’s doing you a favor she’s so great. The other one is perhaps so certain of her skills that she’s not going to listen to what you want (I know better..). The fact that 2 has had more gigs is not a red flag to me. She sounds like exactly what I’d choose. I always skewed younger with my nannies because then they’d do things exactly as I wanted (not what THEY think is best) and also they have more energy and fun. I didn’t want another parent, but a fantastic sitter. I don’t know if that helps, just my take.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We have narrowed it down torso nanny candidates who have many similarities but a few big differences. They both stood out from the others that we interviewed and both could be a good fit for our family, but we are having the hardest time choosing one vs the other.

Nanny 1 is in her late 40s and has 3 adult kids (youngest in college). She has 15 years of experience and has had all long term 4+ year jobs. She was very chatty and energetic, and was also very confident in her abilities, saying kids love her and that she is a great nanny. She wants $1 more per hour than the other nanny, and says she isn’t negotiable on that.

Nanny 2 is 30 and doesn’t have kids (yet, she got married a year ago). She seemed very calm and cool in terms of demeanor. Seems like she genuinely loves kids and has about 5 years of experience but has been with 3 families who all let her go once the youngest was in preschool.

They both had excellent references, are willing to do the job duties we outlined, love to cook and do arts and crafts, know our specific neighborhood well, are good drivers, etc.

Any guidance for how to choose?

Without a question the younger one.

you’re just being contrary.

[Anonymous]

A young calm one? Like- the best of both worlds! Good luck, Op. come back and tell us who you chose

[Anonymous]

Not being contrary. I had this same choice and chose the younger one and would do it again. I really dislike the know it all nannies we interviewed with my oldest who were going to tell me how to do things. I needed their help, but wanted to make my own decisions. I really had a negative impression of the career nannies I interviewed. The woman I hired was a preternaturally calm young woman with one child. We made it work when she had her second. Stopped care when my youngest went to preK. She’s still a close family friend and our kids are friends. She had the energy of someone ten Tess younger than me, but the calm head of a 60 year old! I am not being contrary- just would def def choose the younger one.