What else besides monthly child support can a court order a non-custodial parent to pay?

[Anonymous]

Humm. That seems fair. He pays child support and half of all expenses. You pay your half out of his child support. So, basically, he is paying 100% of everything. What exactly are you willing to pay? Child support is supposed to cover the child's needs when in your home. He still has expenses when the cild is in his home in less he doesn't want visitation or you refuse to allow him visitation

[Anonymous]

Call the Women's Center in Vienna. They have a list of lawyers that will consult with you for free.

[Anonymous]

My daughter is two, and my income is about $2K less than that of my ex. We're in VA. When we did the child support calculation, we took into account the following: full-time daycare (which includes summers) and the cost of health insurance. There is a clause in our agreement that if I pay more than $250 out of pocket for health-related stuff (not including health insurance premiums), my ex has to pay half of the excess, but we haven't had that situation arise. We each have life insurance and we each have 529 plans.

I pay for everything except the meals she eats at his house, or whatever he chooses to buy her - toys, etc. I buy her clothes and send outfits with her when she stays with him. She takes classes through the county, and I pay for those. His support is pretty generous - it comes to almost exactly what we pay for daycare - so I don't expect him to pay for anything beyond that. Health insurance and daycare both increased this year but I didn't ask him for more money, as I can cover it. If his income or mine went up by a lot, we'd redo the calculations. When our daughter's in public school, we'll figure out the cost of after-school care, plus summer camps and other classes and re-do the calculations. His support will probably drop once she's in school. (we're both looking forward to replacing our cars then!)

You should put together a spreadsheet of all your anticipated child-related expenses for the coming year. Include projected increases for inflation. Compare it to what he's paying, and if your incomes are similar and he's paying for more than half, you should probably leave it alone. If you make a lot less than he does, he should shoulder more of the total cost. You may be able to get him to pay more without a lawyer if you make a logical case.

[Anonymous]

In our case, things like medical and education expenses are divided according to income., using a percentage that is calculated yearly (since incomes change). that is separate from child support, which covers other expenses.