The daycare illnesses are making me nuts. Just commiserating

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Anonymous wrote:OP here, thank you for the commiseration! I think because every illness is at least a week out and all of my friends do nannies or have kept their kids at home, it seems like a bigger deal than it is. It just seems like we clear one and then get another one immediately but it's actually every 2 to 4 weeks.

There were also no illnesses at all last summer, which I thought was seasonal but was probably due more to everything else being locked down. I was so naive!!!! 😆

Another mom here whose kids were constantly sick during those years when they were in daycare. It was so difficult, so I feel your pain. I have no idea whether it is related or not, but once they started school, they were never sick. My DS who just graduated from high school had not missed a day of school since 4th grade - he just doesn't get sick for some reason.

OP here. Thank you. It really makes me reconsider daycare sometimes but I don't see safer options during the pandemic. Contrary to what a mommy-shaming PP posted a few posts up, I don't drug and drop off my kid or (intentionally) torture her with illness. We love her school and she thrives there in all ways, germs aside. It's just hard, and it's harder during a pandemic, and I had a false sense of security after last summer where we had months with nothing.

PP you responded to. There are benefits of having a nanny, and I thought long and hard about that too during those days of daycare illness. One point I wanted to add is that even though it was tough with illness, my kids stayed the the same group in daycare for many years. Those kids are still friends to this day as high school students, even though they don't all go to the same school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here, thank you for the commiseration! I think because every illness is at least a week out and all of my friends do nannies or have kept their kids at home, it seems like a bigger deal than it is. It just seems like we clear one and then get another one immediately but it's actually every 2 to 4 weeks.

There were also no illnesses at all last summer, which I thought was seasonal but was probably due more to everything else being locked down. I was so naive!!!! 😆

Another mom here whose kids were constantly sick during those years when they were in daycare. It was so difficult, so I feel your pain. I have no idea whether it is related or not, but once they started school, they were never sick. My DS who just graduated from high school had not missed a day of school since 4th grade - he just doesn't get sick for some reason.

OP here. Thank you. It really makes me reconsider daycare sometimes but I don't see safer options during the pandemic. Contrary to what a mommy-shaming PP posted a few posts up, I don't drug and drop off my kid or (intentionally) torture her with illness. We love her school and she thrives there in all ways, germs aside. It's just hard, and it's harder during a pandemic, and I had a false sense of security after last summer where we had months with nothing.

PP you responded to. There are benefits of having a nanny, and I thought long and hard about that too during those days of daycare illness. One point I wanted to add is that even though it was tough with illness, my kids stayed the the same group in daycare for many years. Those kids are still friends to this day as high school students, even though they don't all go to the same school.

Thank you, PP for your words of encouragement! I hadn't even thought that far ahead, but that would be wonderful!!

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Anonymous wrote:Even with all the illness protocols, DD has had a nasty non-Covid virus once a month like clockwork and is out 7 to 10 days.

Where are the viruses coming from????

I actually think illnesses will circulate a lot with people taking uncacvinated kids everywhere. Like normal time I guess.

I really wonder if a nanny is the way to go. Even though we never wanted one it seems SO MUCH EASIER.

SIGH.

If you are going to shame me for using daycare during a pandemic don't bother I already question it daily

Nannies are difficult for other reasons.

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One of my friends had to pull her oldest child out of a larger daycare,pre Covid, for this very reason. After he had to get tubes in his ears for repeated infections, the doctor told her to get him out and into a small at home setting. She found a very small babysitting at home daycare with just a coupe other kids, and he started to improve.

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Anonymous wrote:My DS was like this - nonstop sick from six months to 3.5 years old. Now he’s 7 and I can’t even remember the last time he was sick. Never misses a single day of school. Just keep thinking about the strong immune system you are building!

My kid was the opposite. He did not go to daycare and stayed home. Not even a sniffle for the first 2 years of life. Very mild diarrhea once or twice after vaccinations.

Did not fall ill in school because I would make him stay back home if I felt that he was coming down with something. Most of the time he would recover at home in a day or two if he rested and had chicken soup. I marvel at his immune system. No need to torture a child with sickness in the name of building immunity. A small amount of exposure is enough for the body to create antibodies. Keep the viral load low. Of course, many working parents will dose their children with medicines and send them to school because they do not have daycare. That is the reality of having inflexible workplaces and lack of support for many people.

There’s always one of these, isn’t there?

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My kids rarely got sick in daycare.

Maybe they will outgrow it.

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If you follow dcum health forum, you know that man of us had a super nasty cold and some are still having it. I was sick from Wednesday till Sunday! Nasty mucus congestion, weak, sinus, cold, sneezing, the works!
I will tell you this though, when I worked in a daycare, I was never 100% fine! Never, in my group of 12 toddlers, one or more were always having something.

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Next year will be especially hard if daycares are required to continue with strict sickness policies. Many people will be back in their offices and may have to take off a lot more to care for their sick children. This year sick kids simply stay home while their parents work, as tough as that is, next year will be worse.

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Anonymous wrote:If these illnesses are not Covid then it doesn't matter if they are not vaccinated for Covid.

Wel, it matters in that I am a vaccinated and run around confidently with the sniffles. If my unvaccinated kid gets the sniffles, he has to stay home because I don’t know if it’s COVID.

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Anonymous wrote:Next year will be especially hard if daycares are required to continue with strict sickness policies. Many people will be back in their offices and may have to take off a lot more to care for their sick children. This year sick kids simply stay home while their parents work, as tough as that is, next year will be worse.

OP here, I 100% agree and don't think people realize what a shit storm the fall and winter will be with viruses circulating, people getting sick for the first time in years, variants.

DD has had some nasty virus every month since March and now it's more like every two to four weeks as things open up.

It's a week out, at minimum, and it SUCKS. A privileged problem but it SUCKS