Am I a Helicopter Mom?

[Anonymous]

I’m anti helicoptering and I’d be there- you’re doing the absolute right thing in my opinion. I appreciate parents like you

[Anonymous]

There are weird people at hotel's You do not know what anyone's agenda is who might be around your child or the other children. All it takes is one to lure them upstairs and it is over. There are so many places to disappear at in a hotel. Not a helicopter Mom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There are weird people at hotel's You do not know what anyone's agenda is who might be around your child or the other children. All it takes is one to lure them upstairs and it is over. There are so many places to disappear at in a hotel. Not a helicopter Mom.

+1

[Anonymous]

Weird to leave them alone in a hotel pool. It's not like at home where the parents would be nearby or at least within earshot.

Unless they're 15+. Maybe 14.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would not let my kid go alone. If they do something stupid, you could get thrown out. I just take a book and hang out in the hot tub, or sneak a coffee cup of wine in and sit on a deck chair.

+1

That's what I would be more concerned with. Teenage boys rough house and can be loud and honestly obnoxious to other adults. I am sure they would be better behaved with you there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm kind of in the in between on these replies so far and need more details. How old are the kids and maybe one parent should be there but then I waffle back to let kids be kids.

I would be a little nervous but at some point you have to let kids be kids. My kids are young 3,5 so no chance they are hanging at the pool by themselves but by 10-12 I am totally cool with him and her doing their thing at the hotel pool alone.

You have preschoolers and you think you know what you would do if they were 10-12? Lol.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How old are these kids? 13 is different than 17 or 18. And honestly, I would let a small group of 13 yo go alone as long as it wasn’t against hotel rules. 8 together could mean trouble and I wouldn’t want them disrupting others at the hotel.

This. Totally depends on the age. I’m less worried about drowning than them being boorish a-holes yelling and disrupting other guests. 13 year olds, yes. 16 year olds? Of course not!

[Anonymous]

Too much potential for creepers. I am not sure hotel pools are well maintained or watched by staff either. Remember news stories about kids getting suctioned into pool drains? I probably would hang around reading my book. My presence is for emergencies.

[Anonymous]

You are not. I wouldn't let them go alone younger than 16 and even then it would depend on the group. Some things are based on individuals vs age. But I'd go for 15 and younger no matter what.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would not let my kid go alone. If they do something stupid, you could get thrown out. I just take a book and hang out in the hot tub, or sneak a coffee cup of wine in and sit on a deck chair.

+1

That's what I would be more concerned with. Teenage boys rough house and can be loud and honestly obnoxious to other adults. I am sure they would be better behaved with you there.

Yes, with 8 boys, I’d be worried about chicken and other dumb games.

[Anonymous]

Need more info.

How old are they.

What are hotel rules.

It’s likely against the rules to have kids under a certain age unsupervised.

[Anonymous]

Not enough data— age of kids, do they know each other, rules of the hotel, etc.

[Anonymous]

No, they other parents are neglectful and they allow it because they know you are there supervising their kids. I would never let my child or anyone swim alone as the risk of drowning is very high.

However, I do think its wrong to be in a hotel/pool during covid especially with kids.

[Anonymous]

So you guys would have freaked out when we went to rock quarries when we were kids.

You're all helicoptery.

Let your kids grow up. You can't save them from everything.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So you guys would have freaked out when we went to rock quarries when we were kids.

You're all helicoptery.

Let your kids grow up. You can't save them from everything.

Rock quarries are dangerous Gramps. You have no idea what is underneath, large logs, debris, etc.

OP- my kids play travel sports and so the hotels often have pools. Parents take turns supervising/making sure the kids are being jerks to other families.