Marriage and single parents

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DH and I live in Annandale and his kids live in Baltimore. On the weekends we have them, he drives up to Balt to get them and brings them back. If the kids have school activities in Balt he takes them. We have two young kids. We usually all have dinner together but the big kids and dad do age appropriate activities and I do the same with the little ones. If the kids have a basketball game, dance recital, orchestra performance DH leaves work early to be there on time. There are also the evenings when his ex is at wits end with their daughter and he has to go to Balt to either make peace between the two of them or bring her home to us to give them both time to cool off. The next day he’ll drive her to school in Bat and pick her if she and mom are still mad at each other.

What’s the child support situation like?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DH and I live in Annandale and his kids live in Baltimore. On the weekends we have them, he drives up to Balt to get them and brings them back. If the kids have school activities in Balt he takes them. We have two young kids. We usually all have dinner together but the big kids and dad do age appropriate activities and I do the same with the little ones. If the kids have a basketball game, dance recital, orchestra performance DH leaves work early to be there on time. There are also the evenings when his ex is at wits end with their daughter and he has to go to Balt to either make peace between the two of them or bring her home to us to give them both time to cool off. The next day he’ll drive her to school in Bat and pick her if she and mom are still mad at each other.

What’s the child support situation like?

He pays the mortgage on the house they bought together, the kids school tuition—Balt Catholic, and her Obama care premium since her job doesn’t offer insurance. Kids are on his policy. Then she gets $2000 per month for support.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Parent relocation of that distance generally means forfeiting 50/50 custody in favor of the every other weekend and holidays model.

Parent relocation is contemplated in the UCCJEA followed by most states, with some modifications.

Since your kids are school age they obviously can’t attend two different districts week on week off. An hour long commute to and from school would be unreasonable and I can’t imagine your spouse could work that around his work schedule anyway. So unless he plans to challenge you for primary custody, he’ll likely have to relinquish his half time in favor of the weekends/holidays model. Unless she is free to move to where he lives.

THIS. This is the correct answer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DH and I live in Annandale and his kids live in Baltimore. On the weekends we have them, he drives up to Balt to get them and brings them back. If the kids have school activities in Balt he takes them. We have two young kids. We usually all have dinner together but the big kids and dad do age appropriate activities and I do the same with the little ones. If the kids have a basketball game, dance recital, orchestra performance DH leaves work early to be there on time. There are also the evenings when his ex is at wits end with their daughter and he has to go to Balt to either make peace between the two of them or bring her home to us to give them both time to cool off. The next day he’ll drive her to school in Bat and pick her if she and mom are still mad at each other.

What’s the child support situation like?

He pays the mortgage on the house they bought together, the kids school tuition—Balt Catholic, and her Obama care premium since her job doesn’t offer insurance. Kids are on his policy. Then she gets $2000 per month for support.

Damn! Can he adopt me?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DH and I live in Annandale and his kids live in Baltimore. On the weekends we have them, he drives up to Balt to get them and brings them back. If the kids have school activities in Balt he takes them. We have two young kids. We usually all have dinner together but the big kids and dad do age appropriate activities and I do the same with the little ones. If the kids have a basketball game, dance recital, orchestra performance DH leaves work early to be there on time. There are also the evenings when his ex is at wits end with their daughter and he has to go to Balt to either make peace between the two of them or bring her home to us to give them both time to cool off. The next day he’ll drive her to school in Bat and pick her if she and mom are still mad at each other.

What’s the child support situation like?

He pays the mortgage on the house they bought together, the kids school tuition—Balt Catholic, and her Obama care premium since her job doesn’t offer insurance. Kids are on his policy. Then she gets $2000 per month for support.

Damn! Can he adopt me?

Hope he spends more on your family PP.

[Anonymous]

This is a huge red flag and will not work. Imagine how he'd treat your kids.

[Anonymous]

He shouldnt be allowed to move per the terms of your agreement. My ex did the abandonment thing so my kids just see him a few times a year on his schedule.

[Anonymous]

I’m praying she has the ability to move closer OP. Do you know how involved her ex is?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m praying she has the ability to move closer OP. Do you know how involved her ex is?

He’s not, but her job is stuck and she can’t relocate.

[Anonymous]

NP here. Honestly, if she wouldn't move to be closer to your kid, it says alot about what their future marriage would be like. And, what he thinks about your kid. Just something to chew on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:NP here. Honestly, if she wouldn't move to be closer to your kid, it says alot about what their future marriage would be like. And, what he thinks about your kid. Just something to chew on.

Why are you putting it on the woman to sacrifice?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:NP here. Honestly, if she wouldn't move to be closer to your kid, it says alot about what their future marriage would be like. And, what he thinks about your kid. Just something to chew on.

Why are you putting it on the woman to sacrifice?

So, you're saying she should just live her life where she is and expect your XH to move and give up time with your kid, or start a custody war?

[Anonymous]

How far, in terms of driving time beoore and after school hours, is too far, too long to expect ex husband to drive from his house to school in my neighborhood? What do y’all think? What’s the tipping point for time spent commuting from dads house to school three days a week?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How far, in terms of driving time beoore and after school hours, is too far, too long to expect ex husband to drive from his house to school in my neighborhood? What do y’all think? What’s the tipping point for time spent commuting from dads house to school three days a week?

It depends. Does it mean the kids have to drop out of their activities?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How far, in terms of driving time beoore and after school hours, is too far, too long to expect ex husband to drive from his house to school in my neighborhood? What do y’all think? What’s the tipping point for time spent commuting from dads house to school three days a week?

2 hours