What's the norm in VA when divorcing - equal custody, or some other arrangement?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why are you asking? Standard should be 50/50 except with documented cases of abuse.

I'm trying to wrap my head around what life might look like if we divorce.

Ideally it should be 50/50. Kids need both parents as active and equal parents.

Well that would certainly prevent half of all divorces...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why are you asking? Standard should be 50/50 except with documented cases of abuse.

I'm trying to wrap my head around what life might look like if we divorce.

Ideally it should be 50/50. Kids need both parents as active and equal parents.

Well that would certainly prevent half of all divorces...

No, it would.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My friend’s children were 13/14 at the time of divorce, so the judge took their wishes into account. Mom has primary custody, dad invites kids to specific outings once in a while.

This, at those ages it’s often up to the kids to choose the arrangement.

You don't put kids in the middle of a divorce and make them pick parents.

[Anonymous]

50/50 is the norm. Some people have different arrangements based on their situation... maybe one parent travels a lot for work, has shift work, or an unpredictable work schedule. However, both parents should do everything within their power (meaning stay in the local school district, etc) to ensure kids have as close to 50/50 as possible.