spouse cooking food from your heritage

[Anonymous]

I don't care what my husband makes, as long as it tastes good. When I cook, I have made things from his country of origin, but they never come out that great, so I don't try to make them that often. He is appreciative of all the food I cook, whatever it is, so I don't think it matters to him.

[Anonymous]

What is the problem? Are they messing up what you view as “traditional” foods from your culture? Or do you just want them to make a different cuisine?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you are in an inter racial marriage (both grew up in the US) and your spouse chose to always cook food from your family of origin, would you like this? This is the situation I'm in and wondering if anyone else can relate?

Always might be a bit much unless there was also a religious issue.

[Anonymous]

I don’t get the question. What could even theoreticall be the problem?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you are in an inter racial marriage (both grew up in the US) and your spouse chose to always cook food from your family of origin, would you like this? This is the situation I'm in and wondering if anyone else can relate?

My SO is Mexican and we'll cook Mexican food together a couple times a week. It's fun.

But if I decided we would ONLY cook Mexican food, yea, that'd be weird.

[Anonymous]

I am not sure what the question is but here is what happens in my household. DH is a white guy born and raised here and I am an immigrant from an Asian country who moved here as a young adult. He rarely ever ate food of my country before he met me. But now he loves it and mastered a few dishes. I think that is awesome and I take time to make the super complicated dishes we all enjoy. It is all good!

[Anonymous]

I don't see the problem unless he's trying to "improve" it in ways you don't like.

Once at work we were asked to bring dishes from our cultural heritage for a multi-cultural tasting. I brought a noodle kugel, which is sweet, but eaten as a side dish and not a dessert. The (non-Jewish) organizers insisted to me it was a dessert. I actually had an argument with them about it. I won, but it was a near thing. If my spouse did stuff like that it would piss me off.

[Anonymous]

My husband is Lebanese and my family is Norwegian. I cook Lebanese food regularly. I don’t think I’ve ever cooked a Scandinavian dinner in my life. Baked goods yes. But not main courses. Lebanese is much better in my opinion. We also cook food from other ethnicities as well though because we are not weirdos.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes my husband is a very good cook and makes fantastic versions of my people’s food (Chinese). I also leave his ethnic food to him (Ashkenazi Jewish food).

I think I might know you. Hi! Long time no see. I’m jealous of your husband being a good cook.

[Anonymous]

My ex-wife is Indian. I learned to make lots of different Indian foods. Now that I am single I impress my dates with my Indian cooking skills.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes my husband is a very good cook and makes fantastic versions of my people’s food (Chinese). I also leave his ethnic food to him (Ashkenazi Jewish food).

I understood Judaism to be a religion, not ethnicity

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes my husband is a very good cook and makes fantastic versions of my people’s food (Chinese). I also leave his ethnic food to him (Ashkenazi Jewish food).

I understood Judaism to be a religion, not ethnicity

OP said 'heritage' and 'family of origin'. My family of origin is Jewish and it is also part of my heritage.

My DH does most of the cooking and he makes matzo ball soup and latkes, among other things. He's also a fan of the Shaya cookbook, who is Israeli, although I am not Israeli so that is not food of my family of origin.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes my husband is a very good cook and makes fantastic versions of my people’s food (Chinese). I also leave his ethnic food to him (Ashkenazi Jewish food).

I understood Judaism to be a religion, not ethnicity

It's primarily religion but has a strong cultural and ethnic component. Definitely has specific cultural cuisines -- primarily Ashkenazi, which is Eastern European; Sephardic, which is Spanish and African; and Israeli, which is similar to foods eaten in other Middle Eastern countries. Most American Jews are of Ashkenazi heritage. That's the bagels and lox, chopped liver, blintze crowd.

[Anonymous]

Cultural appropriation!!!!

Just kidding.

[Anonymous]

We each cook food from our own culture, but at a pinch, we could make a couple of dishes from each other's country of origin (my MIL taught me a particularly good one). It's just that since we're both at home and we like to cook, we usually don't switch like that.