Do you personally fawn over exceptionally attractive people?

[Anonymous]

But in middle and high school — sure.

[Anonymous]

I am more likely to be drawn to someone who looks pulled together, or someone who presents themselves in an original way. They may or may not be the most attractive. For instance one of my best friends is very pretty, but I met her just after both our first children were born and the reason I was drawn to her is that she was wearing a pair of neon yellow leggings and a fluffy pink hat, and in my post partum haze, I thought “I need some of the color and energy this woman has in my life.” I only realized later how stunning she is.

And I don’t fawn over anyone. At least not an adult. People, me included, tend to fawn over cute kids. It’s hard not to. But it’s not like I do it so they’ll pay attention to me. They are just very delightful and it’s hard not to want to be close to that cuteness.

[Anonymous]

I don't fawn over or anyone. That seems kind of sad and insecure to me. Not being snarky, it's legit sad to me that people view friendships or their own worth in a relationship that way

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I do. Regardless of their sex.

Why?
Age? Married? Are you M or F?

I'm male and married. I'm not saying I want to have sex with them. But, sure, I appreciate being around hot people of either sex, just like I appreciate being in beautiful locales and nice houses. Who doesn't?

I also like self-confident people, and most really good looking people are self-confident. Do you think it's an accident that the best looking players in the NFL are the quarterbacks?

That's what I was thinking!!!

Oh no, I’m sorry, but the best looking men in the NFL are wide receivers. Also the best butts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:FWIW, mostly everyone is well out together, well groomed, in decent shape, stylish. This is an upper class area. This particular person just has the look of someone who was the popular cheerleader in HS. Bleach blonde, gets some minor treatments done, in shape... the stereotypical popular girl. There are just as attractive people that don’t get fawned over for their looks but they might not be so “obvious” if that makes sense. And there are also women who are more beautiful, but again, not as obvious. I just noticed the fawning over the stereotypical look. We are in our late 30’s-40’s so I find this odd to be honest. I wouldn’t favor someone just due to their looks.

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There are women who stand out, but the ones who think they are beautiful are not them. The former have great, shining personalities, and the latter are just shallow and stunted, so no thanks.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:FWIW, mostly everyone is well out together, well groomed, in decent shape, stylish. This is an upper class area. This particular person just has the look of someone who was the popular cheerleader in HS. Bleach blonde, gets some minor treatments done, in shape... the stereotypical popular girl. There are just as attractive people that don’t get fawned over for their looks but they might not be so “obvious” if that makes sense. And there are also women who are more beautiful, but again, not as obvious. I just noticed the fawning over the stereotypical look. We are in our late 30’s-40’s so I find this odd to be honest. I wouldn’t favor someone just due to their looks.

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There are women who stand out, but the ones who think they are beautiful are not them. The former have great, shining personalities, and the latter are just shallow and stunted, so no thanks.

As for the men - the ones with big, beautiful hair stick out to me, people think their wives are beards. They are probably right.

[Anonymous]

I'm usually intimidated by truly attractive people. If they're down to earth and we have a connection, great. But more often than not beautiful people know they're beautiful, and act as such and it becomes a turnoff.

[Anonymous]

No, I find a lot of super attractive people to be a-holes. They've been attractive their whole lives and haven't needed to develop otherwise. Other than being super-confident, like a PP suggested, they can also be super shallow and boring.

[Anonymous]

never.

[Anonymous]

I remember walking down the college path with a striking, hot, tall and Midwestern looking dude of the opposite sex who was my acquaintance. Just me and him chatting. I’m in my 40s and I still remember how great it felt in that moment. Why? Argh! It’s so silly.

[Anonymous]

No, but I'm usually the coolest person in the room who is a great conversationalist and can pretty much talk to anyone about anything in any situation. People tend to be drawn to me. I'm nice (haha truly despite how that first sentence sounds but this is an anon board after all) and as such, I tend to not give direct attention to anyone screaming for it because they think they deserve it (for their looks or otherwise). Those people tend to also be drawn to me for this reason.

[Anonymous]

No, but I do notice and admire physical beauty. I've known one man and one woman who were truly stunning. I was happy just looking at them (discreetly).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do you find yourself wanting to be friends or in the same circle with someone because they are physically attractive? Not based on personality really, just looks. Assuming you are in your 30’s.

Only if the person is the Duke of Hastings from Bridgerton. LOL

In real life, no.

[Anonymous]

My husband is stop in your tracks hot and so no I don’t fawn over attractive people. I don’t notice it usually unless the second or third time unless it’s a striking feature like really thick eyelashes or great hair or super bright colored eyes.

People do dote on my kids though. Looks fade so I hope it doesn’t affect them.

Fawning makes me uncomfortable but I don’t judge people who do it, it’s innate in human nature.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't fawn over or anyone. That seems kind of sad and insecure to me. Not being snarky, it's legit sad to me that people view friendships or their own worth in a relationship that way

Same. I fawn over cute dogs.