Potty training 20 month old

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For a week now, We've been potty training our 19 month old daughter. She'll go sit on the little potty for fun for 10 seconds then get up without peeing. She holds in her pee and poop until.she has an accident.
When we initiate trying to get her to sit on he potty every two.hours she resists and cries.

What went wrong and how.do I fix it now?

I remember the first accident my son had around that age and how surprised he was to look down and see pee coming out of his baby bits. We cloth diaper and he still didn't make the connection between releasing the urine and it actually coming out. 19 month olds will take way longer to train that the 3 days you keep hearing about for the 2.5 years and older crowd. I still think it is worth training a toddler because you can avoid the battle of the wills of the preschooler. In the end I think it is less effort to clean up accidents than battle a kid who can train but chooses not to

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For a week now, We've been potty training our 19 month old daughter. She'll go sit on the little potty for fun for 10 seconds then get up without peeing. She holds in her pee and poop until.she has an accident.
When we initiate trying to get her to sit on he potty every two.hours she resists and cries.

What went wrong and how.do I fix it now?

Try front loading potty time by giving her soup and water. Watch very carefully for signs of needing to go, and be ready with the potty. Other good times are putting her on right after a long nap or first thing in the morning. When it happens or when she tries, lavish praise.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For a week now, We've been potty training our 19 month old daughter. She'll go sit on the little potty for fun for 10 seconds then get up without peeing. She holds in her pee and poop until.she has an accident.
When we initiate trying to get her to sit on he potty every two.hours she resists and cries.

What went wrong and how.do I fix it now?

She has no idea what she's supposed to do. Just wait a few months-you are going to stress you and her out by making her resist and cry. Her little body needs to mature.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For a week now, We've been potty training our 19 month old daughter. She'll go sit on the little potty for fun for 10 seconds then get up without peeing. She holds in her pee and poop until.she has an accident.
When we initiate trying to get her to sit on he potty every two.hours she resists and cries.

What went wrong and how.do I fix it now?

She has no idea what she's supposed to do. Just wait a few months-you are going to stress you and her out by making her resist and cry. Her little body needs to mature.

Not true. It has zero to do with her body maturing. Just follow Oh Crap and stop making her sit on the potty.

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A lot of people act like you should just forge ahead no matter what but if it's not working, take a break. If the kid is crying and upset during potty time you might create a literally anal retentive kid. 19 months is under the age range of typical readiness anyway.

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I don't think you need a method. Mine were potty trained at 2yo but they they got familiar with the potty way before that. We didn't have a plan or method and I think it helped them find their own interest in sitting of the potty or the big toilet (that was around 18 months) with no expectation from us. One day they peed in the potty while sitting there for fun and saw it made us happy and proud. We never pushed. it worked out perfectly well for our kids, but they are all different of course.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For a week now, We've been potty training our 19 month old daughter. She'll go sit on the little potty for fun for 10 seconds then get up without peeing. She holds in her pee and poop until.she has an accident.
When we initiate trying to get her to sit on he potty every two.hours she resists and cries.

What went wrong and how.do I fix it now?

She has no idea what she's supposed to do. Just wait a few months-you are going to stress you and her out by making her resist and cry. Her little body needs to mature.

Not true. It has zero to do with her body maturing. Just follow Oh Crap and stop making her sit on the potty.

Of course it does, obviously If she was ACTUALLY ready, there would not be all the drama.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For a week now, We've been potty training our 19 month old daughter. She'll go sit on the little potty for fun for 10 seconds then get up without peeing. She holds in her pee and poop until.she has an accident.
When we initiate trying to get her to sit on he potty every two.hours she resists and cries.

What went wrong and how.do I fix it now?

She has no idea what she's supposed to do. Just wait a few months-you are going to stress you and her out by making her resist and cry. Her little body needs to mature.

This. You potty trained her too early. I hate the O Crap book with a passion. I used it with DD when she was 26 months. She wasn’t ready. Her teachers told us she wasn’t ready and we went on and forged ahead. She basically held her pee all day in daycare from 9 am to 5 pm. Refused to drink anything. Didn’t have an accident. This went on for a week and a half. After that she started developing constipation issues as well. I was so desperate I actually paid for one of Oh Crap’s “potty consultants” (I think that’s what they are called). She had no idea what she was doing and actually kept telling me she’ll get back to me. Apparently there is some message board she would keep going to to ask questions. There was a Facebook group too. One of the moms had trouble with her daughter who was refusing to poop. Her doctor said to give the daughter miralax. The Oh Crap consultant insisted that she doesn’t and give her daughter a suppository instead. Mom said daughter would be screaming while being given a suppository but oh crap consultant kept insisting that she continue. It was painful to read their conversation. We finally went to our pediatrician who said they deal with a lot of issues from kids who were potty trained too early. He told us to just put her back in diapers and to not worry. Told us to give her miralax for the constipation. Eventually she relaxed and was fine. We are still dealing with constipation issues today and she’s seeing a GI at Children’s. We were very relaxed during the entire potty training period. We didn’t yell at her once, didn’t hover etc but we still dealt with issues. With my second we waited until she was ready. Like really ready. She kept sitting on the potty before her second birthday and we encouraged her but didn’t actually potty train her. When she was two and three months she kept peeing in the potty so we her preschool told us to put her in pull ups. We would praise her and encourage her when she used the potty and change her whenever she peed in her pull ups. After maybe three weeks preschool told us she was dry all day and using potty so to put her in underwear. We did. She had a couple of accidents. Worse were the poop accidents but then the accidents went away and she was fully trained. I didn’t night train either of my girls (oh crap recommends night training but says for some parents it’s too much so they can deal with night training later). Well we didn’t night train at all. Put them in pull ups and kept them in pull ups even when they were mostly dry. Took away the pull ups at around 4, maybe younger.

OP I would talk to your pediatrician and see what he/she recommends re the holding. Dont punish her. Don’t force her. The holding with only get worse. You can always put her in diapers and try again later when she’s older. Good luck!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Buy oh crap book and just do it! I completely agree that there is no "readiness" cue. The only cue you need is that your kid wants to please you. 2 and 3 year olds don't want to please you the way 1.5 year olds do, so I think the earlier the better. Historically kids trained a lot sooner than 3, which is when my mom was told to train when we were little. I think the longer you wait, the more issues that can happen like constipation.

Also, just want to say that the first day is always hard. Lots of accidents. Luckily the weather is so fab- have your kid run around naked on the deck with a potty out there.

Completely the opposite re constipation. Earlier training leads to constipation. Cant compare to back in the day - kids weren’t in a daycare all day, were playing outside all day, etc They were more relaxed in general. Also mothers potty trained gradually. Didnt use the oh crap method.

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Anecdotally my brother tried with my nephew at 20 months, it was a disaster. They tried again 6 months later and it was easy.

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“Readiness” in toilet training is total bullsh*t. All developmentally normal children can easily toilet-train by two-years-old.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Buy oh crap book and just do it! I completely agree that there is no "readiness" cue. The only cue you need is that your kid wants to please you. 2 and 3 year olds don't want to please you the way 1.5 year olds do, so I think the earlier the better. Historically kids trained a lot sooner than 3, which is when my mom was told to train when we were little. I think the longer you wait, the more issues that can happen like constipation.

Also, just want to say that the first day is always hard. Lots of accidents. Luckily the weather is so fab- have your kid run around naked on the deck with a potty out there.

Completely the opposite re constipation. Earlier training leads to constipation. Cant compare to back in the day - kids weren’t in a daycare all day, were playing outside all day, etc They were more relaxed in general. Also mothers potty trained gradually. Didnt use the oh crap method.

No, you’re wrong, PP. According to the specialists at Hopkins, sitting to defecate straighten the descending colon while standing (as most toddlers do in diapers) adds to constipation issues

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:“Readiness” in toilet training is total bullsh*t. All developmentally normal children can easily toilet-train by two-years-old.

That is literally not true. Really, you just made that up. From the Mayo Clinic

Many children show signs of being ready for potty training between ages 18 and 24 months. However, others might not be ready until they're 3 years old. There's no rush. If you start too early, it might take longer to train your child.

But Oh Crap says so, so it must be so

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:“Readiness” in toilet training is total bullsh*t. All developmentally normal children can easily toilet-train by two-years-old.

That is literally not true. Really, you just made that up. From the Mayo Clinic

Many children show signs of being ready for potty training between ages 18 and 24 months. However, others might not be ready until they're 3 years old. There's no rush. If you start too early, it might take longer to train your child.

But Oh Crap says so, so it must be so

History says it is so. Do you think bladders and bowels have suddenly become harder for children to control since at disposable diaper was invented?

NP here and the “signs of readiness” were written by an internist sponsored by the disposable diaper industry.

Normally developed children are able at two.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:“Readiness” in toilet training is total bullsh*t. All developmentally normal children can easily toilet-train by two-years-old.

That is literally not true. Really, you just made that up. From the Mayo Clinic

Many children show signs of being ready for potty training between ages 18 and 24 months. However, others might not be ready until they're 3 years old. There's no rush. If you start too early, it might take longer to train your child.

But Oh Crap says so, so it must be so

History says it is so. Do you think bladders and bowels have suddenly become harder for children to control since at disposable diaper was invented?

NP here and the “signs of readiness” were written by an internist sponsored by the disposable diaper industry.

Normally developed children are able at two.

Um, ok, that doesn't sound nuts or anything...so you think the renowned Mayo Clinic is misleading parents of toilet training kids, because of one random internist that was supposedly sponsored by the disposable diaper industry? The AAP says essentially the same thing-are they in cahoots too? Golly, it sounds like a conspiracy