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Remind yourself also that whoever crossed over, did not want you to be in pain. It is important to grief and feel things and reflect and experience the loss but it is also important to remember that just like those ones that you lost, had others that they lost and had to live life and they focused on living because this is what living is for, you have only one life and you need to also enjoy it and experience it.
Grief is a part of life but should not replace it. Don't rush it but also be okay with it to get lighter and letting go.. sometimes we hold to it for comfort as this is the only thing that is left that connects us with the person who is gone but we also gradually can find new ways to connect thinking of them and seeing them in our mind happier and younger and settled there, with their family members who went before them and knowing they are there but also here and there is no more pain and suffering for them. Hugs. |
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I'm so sorry. Ride the wave!
Melancholia Grave of fireflies My neighbor Totoro Horror movies Stand up comedian sets |
OP, so sorry for your loss.. The way I look at the grief is: It does not get lighter but you get stronger to carry the weight so it seems lighter. Because the loss is always the same, the size of the empty cold hole in the soul that can not be patched, sealed or replaced. You will just find new ways to look at things and redirect your feelings and emotions and see things from different perspective, which helps a lot. But don't rush it.. there is a lot of processing to do and turning it off would only make it longer ..and more painful at the end. |
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Oldie bug goodie
Always (from 1989 with Holly Hunter) |
+1 It helped me manage the grief of too much loss, including the death of my father, this fall and winter. The story arc is beautiful and the episodes are a very manageable length. |
Tree of Life depresses me more. |