Husband's younger sister thinks I showed her up

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Leave it to your husband. I have a SIL who is very similar (right down to the 10 year age difference) and oddly co-dependent with my in-laws (like at age 35, her 75 year old parents drove 8 hours to help her move into a new apartment) and I can totally see something like this happening with her. I basically leave all tending to her to my husband.

Me again, actually I think you all should just ignore the text. If DH talks to mom about these things, he could bring it up with her. Sometimes my husband will tell his parents about weird things his sister said/did and his parents will talk to her about it. It's ridiculous because she is treated like a child, but we just roll with it. What sucks is that DH has a similar crazy aunt that his mom is basically stuck taking care of in old age and we know that's going to be us in the future, stuck taking care of his crazy unmarried sister.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just ignore Op. I feel for you - sometimes you can’t win as a SIL no matter how much you try. My kids are on Instagram and I am not. They saw that their aunt posted she was really sick and mentioned it to me. I texted her to say that I hope she feels better. She called me and started screaming that it was none of my business (she has 1,000+ “friends” on fb so I assume she has at least that many on Instagram and I know some of them she has only met in passing). She yelled that my kids shouldn’t have told me (why). She was mad they didn’t contact her (fair) but I should stay out of her private business. If she had told one of my kids confidentially, I could see her point, but she put the info on the internet. Good luck op. There is likely something else going on as there usually is with mine.

She really hates you, doesn't she? What a nasty comment to something so nice. You can win with that person, right? SHe is mad your kids did not contact her! and she is crazy mad that you did! WTF!
I would totally go silent on her for years.

Eh. While I agree the SIL is a bit nutty, it takes two to tango. I am sure this is not a one sided issue.

Oh, it's you again! Must always put down any poster on dcum! We must always tear down a person writing and take the side of the other party? Did you crystal ball tell you what went down in some family you don't know? Or are you SIL in this instance?
No doubt, you were victim-blaming a victim of sexual abuse on the other thread. You are likely SIL in question, regardless of not being here. Only a person that recognizes such petty and insane behavior will post in defense of it. Enjoy being Cruella de Ville. You must kill puppies for fun and coats, too!

[Anonymous]

OP - you step back and let plenty of time pass

If it's never brought up again, you don't bring it up again. You do not let MIL remind everyone of your help. You choose to think the best - that SIL's outburst, though uncalled for, was just a human failing. Everyone deserves occasional grace when they show their @ss.

[Anonymous]

OP wore the dress for a reaction. She got one at the wedding and here. Its a bland black dress that looks like a young child would wear.

[Anonymous]

I suspect that you butt into other people's lives, without invitation, freuently. Why else would you be up at that hour.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP wore the dress for a reaction. She got one at the wedding and here. Its a bland black dress that looks like a young child would wear.

Wrong thread, pp.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No reply. Just send it to MIL.

No don't do this, you don't need to go running to mummy to make things better and get your SIL into trouble like a little child. As an adult I'm sure you and your DH are capable of handling your relationships like adults.

The text wasn't sent to you, it was sent to your DH so he should be the one to reply and tell her that he is happy that his mother has an appointment.

Unless SIL says something directly to you, ignore it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I suspect that you butt into other people's lives, without invitation, freuently. Why else would you be up at that hour.

Oh grow the hell up. She was up - like her DH and SIL - because they were all trying to book MIL an appointment. Just like my siblings and I all got up ridiculously early to try to help my dad get one. It’s what you do when appointments are released at ungodly hours. Either you’re a miserable person, or you’re an immature one (like OP’s SIL). Either way, grow up.

[Anonymous]

Your SIL was bitchy. Is she always like this?
I would ignore the text. But if you feel you have to respond, you could say “I’m sorry if this upset you. We are all on the same page in wanting her vaccinated ASAP. I just happened to get lucky and wasn’t trying to show you up. Have a good one.”
She will not be telling you to butt out when MIL needs medical care or other kinds of serious help.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No reply. Just send it to MIL.

No don't do this, you don't need to go running to mummy to make things better and get your SIL into trouble like a little child. As an adult I'm sure you and your DH are capable of handling your relationships like adults.

The text wasn't sent to you, it was sent to your DH so he should be the one to reply and tell her that he is happy that his mother has an appointment.

Unless SIL says something directly to you, ignore it.

OP here, she sent the text to DH and me. And to the weird poster who said I butt into people's lives: seriously? We were all frantically trying to land an appointment.

[Anonymous]

Any SIL claiming ownership of a vaccine appointments must be so much fun at family events.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like the SIL is very jealous of OP.

[jsmith123]

No clue what the history of the relationship is between the 2 of you but there's clearly some animosity coming from her side.

If you want to further infuriate your SIL, ignore her text. People like her, they want to start something. And once they've started it, it makes them crazy to be ignored.

If ignoring isn't an option, your DH needs to step in and call her BS out.

[Anonymous]

“You’re welcome!”

[Anonymous]

I want to know what your husband is going to do. Dafuc ??? How petty! Your husband needs to tell her to shut tf up and be glad there was another person helping, who cares who got it.

I detest my in laws but I helped my husband find an appt for his mom because she is old and needs the vaccine. It’s not a freaking contest.