Is it rude to tell your neighbor to wash their dirty car?

[Anonymous]

Honestly, sounds like small talk...and even maybe an "fyi"-thing. He assumed you'd want to wash and take care of your car and mentioning XYZ Car Wash has a good deal was his way of being helpful.

You're bothered by it bc you know he's right.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Humm.. good for him. You are seriously taking a ski-trip during a pandemic and don't think your tone-death and yet complaining about a tone-death neighbor?

How is skiing a a disease vector?

You’re more than 6 feet away from other people 99% of the time.

Right, there is no covid at ski resorts. I don't get people traveling and cannot stay home during a pandemic.

https://www.cnn.com/2021/02/12/us/colorado-ski-covid-19-outbreak-trnd/index.html

109 employees just tested positive for covid at a ski resort. Clearly it happens. If you are going to do it, at least don't brag about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here, thank you guys and I was probably being too sensitive after a long trip. He could just trying to be friendly and helpful...need to think better of other people

Agree OP. Salt is damaging to cars. He may not have been thinking in terms of aesthetics at all. Also, people get excited about places they patronize and during COVID times, any friendly talk of a local business is positive and uplifting.

[Anonymous]

The rain won’t get the salt off bottom of car. A car wash does that

[Anonymous]

Haha this reminds me of something my dad would have done. He was always reminding us to make sure to get the salt and wintry mix of sludge off our cars, especially underneath.

He was also the guy who would bring a fire extinguisher and high tech flashlight to a Yankee swap party.

I doubt he was trying to be rude. He probably thought he was being helpful since salt, sand, etc really isn't good for a car.

[Anonymous]

It was rude, but probably not intentionally.

[Anonymous]

“Good to know. Do you ski?”

[Anonymous]

You were definitely being too sensitive, but next time he says something just throw him the keys and tell him not to get a scratch on it when he's at the car wash.

[Anonymous]

When did he tell you to wash your dirty car? That’s kind of a stretch, no?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Humm.. good for him. You are seriously taking a ski-trip during a pandemic and don't think your tone-death and yet complaining about a tone-death neighbor?

What the heck is "tone-death"? Is that a Covid-play on "tone deaf"?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would not worry. Maybe he just mentioned it to be nice? Life is too short to think the worst of everyone.

This 1000%. I can’t believe you’ve focused on this exchange enough to write about it here. Let.it.go!!!!

[Anonymous]

Neighbor sounds like he thought he was being helpful. Give him the benefit of the doubt and let it go.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Honestly, sounds like small talk...and even maybe an "fyi"-thing. He assumed you'd want to wash and take care of your car and mentioning XYZ Car Wash has a good deal was his way of being helpful.

You're bothered by it bc you know he's right.

Exactly, the neighbor just wanted to walk over and make conversation and the dirty car was the "in." He didn't expect you to be hurt, he expected you to continue the conversation by telling him about the ski trip.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You sound overly sensitive- neighbor was trying to be helpful

this

[Anonymous]

It was being friendly. Not about the dirt; the salt.