“I’m glad you finally found the time to call.”
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Anonymous
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CALL YOUR MOTHER PEOPLE!
They were bending backwards for 18 years for you. Yes you call your parent. This is not about equality or justice. It is you calling your mom showing that you care and giving back. Call her, soon she will be gone, you will be glad you did. Don't listen to all those DCUM regular mother bashers. They never had kids, they were never mothers. They have no idea how it feels. Once you will feel your call to be a gift to your mom, you will feel different. Truly, your mother gave you enough.. give back a little. Once you will be a mother you will know how it feels. Parents often don't call because younger people have tons of things to do and after calling few times at the wrong time they feel like it is so much easier for you to pick the time and call when you feel like it. Isn't it a gift that you can still call your mom, you still have her and you can pick your time to call when you are rested, and have a good mental moment? For once.. GIVE without being so greedy and so whinny.. Next time you are near cemetery, stop by, walk around the grave, one of them will be your mom soon... good luck calling then. |
Anonymous
Calm your tits. I call my mother every 2-4 days, at least. I prioritize her and care for her in many ways. That's why I put up with zero guilt trips or unfair comments: because I am a good daughter and I don't deserve unfair treatment. |
Anonymous
| I was the only family member that regularly visited my grandma, went almost every week for an hour. If I missed I’d hear, “I thought you had forgotten where I lived” or some such. So tiring when you are trying. But I went for me, because she needed me even if she wouldn’t admit it. When she passed I was relieved so no good advice here. You can’t change anyone but yourself! |
Anonymous
This odd rant that is not very responsive to any of the comments that have come before gave me an entrepreneurial idea based on my interactions with my college-aged kids. What if Call Your Mother bagels had a pop up called Text Your Mother? Where I live (Bannockburn neighborhood in Bethesda) some kind person or people arranged to have food trucks come to the Bannockburn Pool parking lot most days of the pandemic to sell food, which you pre-order. I would totally stop by to get bagel sandwiches. (As it is, I recommend that everyone try Shouk). |
Anonymous
| How old are your kids? By age 5, mine knew grandma’s number and would call to talk her ear off about a picture they drew or what the dog did or whatever. They can put it on speaker and I can be “on” with them while I’m cooking dinner or cleaning up the family room. Sadly, they are starting to age out of this. I also often just have it on with earbuds while I’m cleaning and I can say “uh huh” while she tells me what so-and-so said about whatever. It’s pretty easy. |
Anonymous
CYM does have a food truck. It is parked at old Georgetown and greentree in Bethesda and serving bagels every day until 2. |
Anonymous
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For the last several years of my MIL’s life we drove 1.5 hours RT to visit her weekly in person and care for her in her home. We drove her to medical appointments (lots of them), saw her on every holiday - even when it was my family’s “turn.” On a regular basis, she would say things like, “let me hear from you,” or, “call me,” etc. which drove me bananas since we spent so much time on her and with her at the expense of our own children, relationship, and home life. I just found it *so* selfish, but I ignored it and left that to my husband to handle.
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Anonymous
Wow! Thank you—I had no idea. I love that place. I would still like for the lite version to be called “Text Your Mother” though. |
Anonymous
| One advice for you all: enjoy your mother. I miss mine. |
Anonymous
I miss mine too, every day for the last five years, but I will never, ever criticize a person for talking about what a complete PITA a beloved mother can be. |
Anonymous
My mom is the same way and I used to play this waiting game and see how long we'd go without talking. Then when a coworker/friend hadn't heard from her dad for awhile and ended up finding him dead on the floor in his house, I decided I didn't want my relationship with my mom to end without contact due to me playing games and just started calling. She's 78 and relatively healthy but she's about the only family I have left and who knows how much time I have with her. Just call her and be glad you can. Sure wish I had the choice to call my dad. |
Anonymous
| Haha. My grandma was famous for picking up the phone when my dad called and saying: Who’s this? I have a son? I though in I longer had a son because you never call. It was insane, really, and I’m pretty sure he did call. We had Sunday night dinner with her once a week growing up so he’d do more than call. My dads no saint but this was... a lot of crazy. |
Anonymous
| Next time you end a call say "Tag - You're it! You call me next time!" and then start counting days. If she doesn't call in whatever the usual duration is you call and repeat one of her lines back to her. If she doesn't like it, you can remind her that you don't like being belittled either. |
Anonymous
| OP, how often do you call her? If you're not calling once a week, I think you need to change that. |
Anonymous
| Awwww. I’m sure she misses you. My mom is old school (she’s 83) and believes it’s the child’s responsibility to call the mom. I talk to her every day just to check in, and my brothers have standing weekly calls with her. My sister rarely calls, and it upsets my mom. I know my sister hears the same sort of thing you describe, OP, and she deals with it—if she wanted it to change, she’d initiate calls more often. |