Does anyone else get FOMO for things they naturally would not be included in?

[Anonymous]

No.

I am not on social media at all and I don't follow people, so I have no clue what is happening in their lives. I was once a part of a hectic social life and it was very boring after some time. I prefer the company of my husband and kids, and some close friends. I am very happy to meet people once every two months or so and have a real heart to heart connection or share a new experience. If I meet them very often, I want to shoot myself in the head because there is nothing worthwhile to share with most people. I do have a handful of friends I love to share my interests and hobbies with and I feel great talking to them.

No, not FOMO at all.

[Anonymous]

WTF is FOMO?

[Anonymous]

Some from social media. But mostly in conversation. Finding out after. So post event fomo?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:WTF is FOMO?

Fear
Of
Missing
Out

[Anonymous]

Yes, but I think it's because I have Social Anxiety.

[Anonymous]

I'll get annoyed when people are rude about it. Like if someone goes around inviting people to something in front of me and then just passes me over. It's better etiquette to avoid discussing parties, special brunches, etc in front of people who weren't invited.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes I’ve experienced this many times. Getting off social media helps but doesn’t eliminate it. I think I just have this base worry that people don’t like me or that I don’t fit in. So seeing or hearing about others getting together triggers that, even if it’s not something I would enjoy. I will even think “what’s wrong with me that I don’t enjoy stuff like that?” It’s really hard.

1000 percent me. I have an anxiety disorder too. I hate this about me and am trying to change it.

[Anonymous]

Same

[Anonymous]

Yes I had a group of friends in college and regularly get excluded from some events with them. It sucks, but you can't force people to invite you
.

[Anonymous]

I almost never take it personal when I’m not invited to certain things so I don’t experience FOMO in that way, but have friends who do and they complain to me about it, especially if I’m part of the included group. Can anyone suggest what I can say when they complain to me about being ‘excluded’? I try to empathize but still feel like a bit of a jerk because I can’t completely relate.

[Anonymous]

I have a friend who is in strict quarantine. Out friends circle is back to meeting once a week for dinner and do other stuff. Plus a lot of family stuff (such as top gold with another family) . She gets soooo pissed off. She so bitter. Nobody will now hang with her with this is all over.

Don't be her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a friend who is in strict quarantine. Out friends circle is back to meeting once a week for dinner and do other stuff. Plus a lot of family stuff (such as top gold with another family) . She gets soooo pissed off. She so bitter. Nobody will now hang with her with this is all over.

Don't be her.

Do you tell your friend who is in quarantine that you are going out to dinner with the other friends in your circle and that you are doing all this family stuff? If so, why are you even telling her?
I can imagine being in strict quarantine must be very isolating for your friend.

[Anonymous]

Yes! My best friend in the neighborhood has another friend (who is also my friend but less close) and they always work out together, with another woman in our larger group. All three of them have kids the exact same age and I get why they hang out and have known each other since daycare, but sometimes I wish they'd invite me to work out with them! It's dumb and I could probably just ask but feel shy about it. It makes no sense but I get it.