Child refusing to participate in virtual

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am in MCPS. My kid signs in for four hours a week - one hour a day but not at all on Wednesday. He is in K and ahead academically

We have not done a single HW assignment.

I have yet to hear boo about it, and we have been doing it all year. You can do a lot less and it will be fine. (We are white and UMC. Conceding that may unfairly play a role.)

Same but in FCPS.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's kindergarten. Let it go. Tell your kid she can take a break for a few days.

Thank you. I think this is what we need to do. Do I leave her logged in to listen or let it go altogether? Seems like a few days off would be completely signed out.

Just leave her logged in but don't force it.

[Anonymous]

I withdrew my kid and homeschooled. It's not developmentally appropriate for them and I need my job.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I disagree with these posters. It's school, and it's not optional. Rewards, punishments (hopefully not so she doesn't see school as a chore), whatever it takes. yes, it SUCKS, but it'll be a life lesson for them all.
- mom of wild 1st and 4th grade boys forcing them to learn however is available

Except it's not school. Particularly when we're talking about a kindergarten class.

The teachers are literally phoning it in. Schools are giving you 50% grades for simply breathing, even if you plagiarize your work or don't bother doing it. There's no reason to take this seriously.

I really don't understand why anyone would subject a kindergartener to this. You can get a kindergarten waiver if you send them to daycare. Or just say you're homeschooling.

[Anonymous]

You are allowing the child to choose doing other things vs. school. Sit down and help with the assignments and not allow it to be an option.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I disagree with these posters. It's school, and it's not optional. Rewards, punishments (hopefully not so she doesn't see school as a chore), whatever it takes. yes, it SUCKS, but it'll be a life lesson for them all.
- mom of wild 1st and 4th grade boys forcing them to learn however is available

Except it's not school. Particularly when we're talking about a kindergarten class.

The teachers are literally phoning it in. Schools are giving you 50% grades for simply breathing, even if you plagiarize your work or don't bother doing it. There's no reason to take this seriously.

I really don't understand why anyone would subject a kindergartener to this. You can get a kindergarten waiver if you send them to daycare. Or just say you're homeschooling.

Our teachers are actually very good and engaged.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are allowing the child to choose doing other things vs. school. Sit down and help with the assignments and not allow it to be an option.

I do this. It’s not working. Do you currently have a five year old?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I disagree with these posters. It's school, and it's not optional. Rewards, punishments (hopefully not so she doesn't see school as a chore), whatever it takes. yes, it SUCKS, but it'll be a life lesson for them all.
- mom of wild 1st and 4th grade boys forcing them to learn however is available

Except it's not school. Particularly when we're talking about a kindergarten class.

The teachers are literally phoning it in. Schools are giving you 50% grades for simply breathing, even if you plagiarize your work or don't bother doing it. There's no reason to take this seriously.

I really don't understand why anyone would subject a kindergartener to this. You can get a kindergarten waiver if you send them to daycare. Or just say you're homeschooling.

Our teachers are actually very good and engaged.

Teacher quality is not the issue. Stop pretending that distance learning as a concept is anything more than the disaster it is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I disagree with these posters. It's school, and it's not optional. Rewards, punishments (hopefully not so she doesn't see school as a chore), whatever it takes. yes, it SUCKS, but it'll be a life lesson for them all.
- mom of wild 1st and 4th grade boys forcing them to learn however is available

Except it's not school. Particularly when we're talking about a kindergarten class.

The teachers are literally phoning it in. Schools are giving you 50% grades for simply breathing, even if you plagiarize your work or don't bother doing it. There's no reason to take this seriously.

I really don't understand why anyone would subject a kindergartener to this. You can get a kindergarten waiver if you send them to daycare. Or just say you're homeschooling.

Our teachers are actually very good and engaged.

Teacher quality is not the issue. Stop pretending that distance learning as a concept is anything more than the disaster it is.

I’m not pretending anything. I am the OP though and I find your entire approach really negative and dismissive. The situation is messed up, our teachers are not the problem.

[Anonymous]

My PK and 1st kids are in private school that is mostly in person, but was DL from Thanksgiving until last week. Both my kids were doing school from 8:45 to 11:30 (with half hour break in the middle), the lunch and closing meeting. After 1 they had specials, but I did not require them to do it... it was up to them and to the nanny because I had to work.

It was a non-negotiable in our house. The older one was amazing, but the you get one had her moments... still kept it up. I think it was great also because it gave purpose to the days when it was cold and nanny was with the baby. My kids learned a lot and it was good.
Maybe offer rewards for paying attention?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You are allowing the child to choose doing other things vs. school. Sit down and help with the assignments and not allow it to be an option.

I do this. It’s not working. Do you currently have a five year old?

I agree with this poster. I have a 5 year old in PK and that is what I do when she is in DL...

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I disagree with these posters. It's school, and it's not optional. Rewards, punishments (hopefully not so she doesn't see school as a chore), whatever it takes. yes, it SUCKS, but it'll be a life lesson for them all.
- mom of wild 1st and 4th grade boys forcing them to learn however is available

Except it's not school. Particularly when we're talking about a kindergarten class.

The teachers are literally phoning it in. Schools are giving you 50% grades for simply breathing, even if you plagiarize your work or don't bother doing it. There's no reason to take this seriously.

I really don't understand why anyone would subject a kindergartener to this. You can get a kindergarten waiver if you send them to daycare. Or just say you're homeschooling.

Our teachers are actually very good and engaged.

Teacher quality is not the issue. Stop pretending that distance learning as a concept is anything more than the disaster it is.

I’m not pretending anything. I am the OP though and I find your entire approach really negative and dismissive. The situation is messed up, our teachers are not the problem.

DP. You're right- the teacher isn't the problem. It's the virtual model that's a problem. It's not effective for young kids. The teacher being great doesn't change that. And you seem to be starting to see that with your daughter.

You can try to force the issue, but that just seems cruel.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How are you managing when child won’t stay in class? Today I’m requiring iPad be on, so they can at least hear class. Kid is in K and keeping up academically on skills, but missing assignments. I’m weary of the meltdowns. I don’t know what to do. Have spoken to teacher, they’re being amazing, but kid just won’t stay in class. Lots of anxiety with doing things “wrong”, even though we tell them mistakes are ok and how we learn. Today their playing, reading, coloring. Which seems ok to to me, but I’m afraid I’m being a bad parent by not pressing school. She’s just hysterical and punchy all day lately.

We’re fried. And I’m missing so much work trying to navigate this. Homeschooling is not something other parent sees as viable, is entirely off table. What’s the minimum required for virtual right now?

If your kid is keeping up academically let it go. I would be more concerned about making her hate school than towing the line for virtual school. Playing, reading, and coloring is far more developmentally appropriate. Encourage her participation but don't force it.

[Anonymous]

I can't blame him for not wanting to participate. Sitting in front of a screen all day isn't normal, even for adults, and we're trying to normalize it because we're told there's no other choice. If it weren't for the internet all of these kids would be at school wearing masks, or they would just be home going feral.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I disagree with these posters. It's school, and it's not optional. Rewards, punishments (hopefully not so she doesn't see school as a chore), whatever it takes. yes, it SUCKS, but it'll be a life lesson for them all.
- mom of wild 1st and 4th grade boys forcing them to learn however is available

You can’t force them to learn.