Potty training may be a fail

[Anonymous]

It’s ok, our day one was horrid but it got much better after a few days. Age 2. 3 sounds like hit or miss, can be great or totally terrible.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s ok, our day one was horrid but it got much better after a few days. Age 2. 3 sounds like hit or miss, can be great or totally terrible.

Yeah my friends that trained at 3 either had great stories or horrible horrible nightmare stories. Like hospital visits for constipation and addictions to miralax.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:At 3 it gets done in a day or two

Not my oldest. We started at 3 and it went on until he was almost 4 (needing a diaper to poop). My two younger boys trained before two in a couple days. I’m so sorry I waited for that “readiness bullsh*t” with my oldest.

Plus why have your child sit in urine and poop for a full year longer than he has to?

OP - keep going. Read Oh Crap online tonight.

I don't know if anyone told you, but you are supposed to change the diaper sometimes.

OP, your little one is young. I'd probably try again in a few weeks or month. She may not be ready yet physically. Many kids are not ready before 24 months.

I've trained several kids and in my experience, when they are ready, they train easily, and train for day and night at the same time. For the kids I've trained, this occured between 24-30ish months.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It’s ok, our day one was horrid but it got much better after a few days. Age 2. 3 sounds like hit or miss, can be great or totally terrible.

Yeah my friends that trained at 3 either had great stories or horrible horrible nightmare stories. Like hospital visits for constipation and addictions to miralax.

It's not because they trained at 3-for kids with chronic constipation, that can cause delay in potty training (due to the physical effects of constipation), it's not the potty training causing it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:At 3 it gets done in a day or two

Not my oldest. We started at 3 and it went on until he was almost 4 (needing a diaper to poop). My two younger boys trained before two in a couple days. I’m so sorry I waited for that “readiness bullsh*t” with my oldest.

Plus why have your child sit in urine and poop for a full year longer than he has to?

OP - keep going. Read Oh Crap online tonight.

I don't know if anyone told you, but you are supposed to change the diaper sometimes.

OP, your little one is young. I'd probably try again in a few weeks or month. She may not be ready yet physically. Many kids are not ready before 24 months.

I've trained several kids and in my experience, when they are ready, they train easily, and train for day and night at the same time. For the kids I've trained, this occured between 24-30ish months.

I think there is one specific poster who is obsessed with the idea that if your child isn't fully trained by age 2, they will spend the rest of childhood sitting in their own excrement. I see this exact comment in every potty training thread on DCUM, and it confuses me every time. Not only do most parents change their kids diapers, but also most kids do not night train until older (3, 4, even 5 or 6 sometimes) because they physically cannot wake up to urinate. Which means it is extremely common for kids to sit in wet diapers overnight, but since diapers are pretty good and absorbent these days, no one makes a big deal about it at all.

Anyway, I agree that OP's kid is pretty young, but I'd still give it 3 days if they can stand it. Pretty much everyone in my DD's mom group cohort did a similar attempt around the age of 2 (some a little earlier, some a little older, but within 4-5 months of each other). About half trained this way and the other half didn't. We didn't, and had to take a break and come back. But it's worth trying for the full three days in case you're in the group that trains! That's the dream. But if it doesn't work, you aren't doing anything wrong, you're kid just isn't ready. It's okay, take a few months off and try again. It will work eventually (it only feels like eternity).

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s ok, our day one was horrid but it got much better after a few days. Age 2. 3 sounds like hit or miss, can be great or totally terrible.

Yeah my friends that trained at 3 either had great stories or horrible horrible nightmare stories. Like hospital visits for constipation and addictions to miralax.

It's not because they trained at 3-for kids with chronic constipation, that can cause delay in potty training (due to the physical effects of constipation), it's not the potty training causing it.

Yup. Constipation can make it really difficult for kids to recognize their cues for using the potty. And it's not always a diet issue -- some kids are just prone to it. I have friends who just have to give their kids a prune every morning with breakfast or she will never, ever poop and they will wind up in the ER. She has a wonderful, varied diet. She's just prone to constipation.

[Anonymous]

Day 1 is supposed to be like that. Stop putting her on the potty. No pressure. Just keep reminding her low-key and then catch the pee when it’s time. That’s what’s so exhausting, you have to watch them like a hawk and then celebrate. Day two will be so much better.

We potty trained at 22 months and first day he peed all over the place, not once in the potty. Day two I caught some pee and made huge deal out of it with stickers and candy. Then he peed on potty by himself two more times that day. Still had three more accidents on day 2.

Day 3 no accidents and it was done.

It will get much better, don’t give up after one day!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Day 1 is supposed to be like that. Stop putting her on the potty. No pressure. Just keep reminding her low-key and then catch the pee when it’s time. That’s what’s so exhausting, you have to watch them like a hawk and then celebrate. Day two will be so much better.

We potty trained at 22 months and first day he peed all over the place, not once in the potty. Day two I caught some pee and made huge deal out of it with stickers and candy. Then he peed on potty by himself two more times that day. Still had three more accidents on day 2.

Day 3 no accidents and it was done.

It will get much better, don’t give up after one day!

We had the exact same experience at 28 months. The first couple days were hard, but it got so much easier. Of course my kid is older than yours, OP, but in hindsight we could’ve trained months and months ago with success I am sure. Don’t give up!!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:22 months is pretty young. While it’s possible, I personally would wait. Why the rush?

NP here. I’ve potty trained my three kids plus five others when I was a nanny. Younger, under two, is easier and less stressful for the child.

OP, keep going. Stop putting her on the potty and you catch one pee - then give praise and rewards. Keep reminding her that pee and poop go in the potty.

I wouldn’t wait until 3 if she’s interested but I see no harm in waiting a couple of months given the verbal / language explosion around 24 mos. much easier to understand what is going on

[Anonymous]

This is totally normal in a kid that young. Like others said, you need to take her to the potty or put the potty under her when she starts to pee. She is not going to get it in one day. She needs to first learn that she is peeing - she has been going in a diaper so she doesn't understand the sensation! Once she understands she's peeing, then she will start to make the connection that the pee goes in the potty. If it's been 3-4 days and she still doesn't realize she's peeing, THEN you can conclude she's not ready.