Is this too large of an age gap?

[Anonymous]

Are you in love? I would not go down this road unless I was absolutely smitten. My stepmom is 11 years younger than my dad, who has parkinson's and has been completely disabled for a couple years now. She is in pretty good health and her life is a living hell caring for my dad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Also, one thing to consider is how will you feel when you are 50, and he is 70. You will still be in the prime of your life, and he may be slowing down. How do you feel about potentially being a caretaker for your spouse when you are still young?

No judgement- but a friend's situation made me reevaluate larger age gaps.

We have neighbors, he is 70 and she is 35. He could pass for 55, very athlethic condition. I do wonder how long before he starts to show his age while she's still active.

[Anonymous]

I don’t think it’s creepy or anything but I wouldn’t like that big of an age gap, personally. I want to grow old *with* someone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Also, one thing to consider is how will you feel when you are 50, and he is 70. You will still be in the prime of your life, and he may be slowing down. How do you feel about potentially being a caretaker for your spouse when you are still young?

No judgement- but a friend's situation made me reevaluate larger age gaps.

We have neighbors, he is 70 and she is 35. He could pass for 55, very athlethic condition. I do wonder how long before he starts to show his age while she's still active.

It happens overnight.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are young enough to get a guy without baggage.

There is a reason he is divorced.

He may seem wonderful and he may blame the divorce on his wife.

2nd marriages have a 65-70% chance of divorce and you are starting with step kids.

33 is young. Find a guy that’s never been married.

This. What happened with his first marriage? Was he a cheater? Was he verbally abusive?

You are not going to get a straight story from him. I would not have wanted a 50-year old divorced dad with 2 kids when I was 33 and single.

We have a large group of friends that were all married in our late 20s/early 30s. If one of us brought 'dad' out for a night to the bars/dancing--it would be weird.

[Anonymous]

If he is youthful looking now, and in good shape, he will be at 77!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can't even imagine being 53, still active and possibly at the peak of my career, married to a 70 yr old who needs to be thinking about transitioning into assisted living in the next few years.

Even Melanie is having an affair with a security officer of Trump properties. About the same age difference. I’m her age and Trump is older than my dad. Gross.

Source?

[Anonymous]

I have written replies that were harsh about certain types of age gap relationships. But I don't think the ultra patriarchal ones are more likely to lead to divorce. If the guy is wealthy and she is completely dependent and willing to serve - what is to break up? Especially if they are themselves thrilled with the "exchange." Seems like a lasting set up. Not an admirable one, but not unstable.

[Anonymous]

We have the exact same age difference. He has 2x the energy I do and passes for much younger. It works just fine for us but I would be lying if I said I didn’t have concerns about 20/30 years from now.

[Anonymous]

The formula is this: Divide the man's age by 2 and add 10. So you're well within the range.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have written replies that were harsh about certain types of age gap relationships. But I don't think the ultra patriarchal ones are more likely to lead to divorce. If the guy is wealthy and she is completely dependent and willing to serve - what is to break up? Especially if they are themselves thrilled with the "exchange." Seems like a lasting set up. Not an admirable one, but not unstable.

If his marriage collapsed due to cheating...the next one will suffer the same fate unless age causes ED—which leads to do you want a celibate marriage?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:At 33- I was going to all night clubs in Europe with my 32-year old husband, living life to the hilt. I wouldn’t want an old dude.

Gross. Saggy balls are in your future

Do you just not want to work?

Unless you get a divorce and marry younger I hate to tell you that saggy balls are in your future too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can't even imagine being 53, still active and possibly at the peak of my career, married to a 70 yr old who needs to be thinking about transitioning into assisted living in the next few years.

Even Melanie is having an affair with a security officer of Trump properties. About the same age difference. I’m her age and Trump is older than my dad. Gross.

Source?

. Who is Melanie?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you in love? I would not go down this road unless I was absolutely smitten. My stepmom is 11 years younger than my dad, who has parkinson's and has been completely disabled for a couple years now. She is in pretty good health and her life is a living hell caring for my dad.

If she were the same age as him would he not have Parkinson's? Or would care be easier if she were the same age?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:At 33- I was going to all night clubs in Europe with my 32-year old husband, living life to the hilt. I wouldn’t want an old dude.

Gross. Saggy balls are in your future

Do you just not want to work?

Unless you get a divorce and marry younger I hate to tell you that saggy balls are in your future too.

But not until I have saggy tits myself.

I don’t need to be smacked with them in my 30s.