Should I give nanny a holiday check this year?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:YOU gave her the time off. SHE DID NOT ASK FOR IT SO YOU
SHOULD GIVE CHRISTMAS BONUS IF YOU WANT HER TO STAY.

Yes, I screamed because cheap people need to listen

[Anonymous]

Don't be a scrooge at Christmas - give her what you would usually give her.

[Anonymous]

Treat her like you would like to be treated.

She didn't ask for that time off and time off doesn't equal a holiday gift.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Treat her like you would like to be treated.

She didn't ask for that time off and time off doesn't equal a holiday gift.

+1. If you can swing it, do it. She didn't ask to take time off, you asked her not to work. it sucks, but I think building a good relationship with your nanny and making her feel appreciated goes a long way. (I'm a mom now but used to be a nanny)

[Anonymous]

Be generous. It will repay you in the long run.

[Anonymous]

Think if she’d ignored the precautions to safeguard pay. Of course you give her bonus-and make it as generous as you can. Not the same but I gave my hairdresser same bonus as I always have (1.5 x a normal visit) even though I haven’t seen her since February (so maybe twice in 2020?) I know she’s back to seeing clients but I’m just not ready to risk it but I’m rewarding all the goodwill/flexibility/care she’s shown me over the years in preserving our relationship. MY income was reduced significantly this year but I hope the darkness is lifting.

[Anonymous]

Is this a serious question? If you value her at all, give her the usual amount. She didn't ask for the pandemic.

[Anonymous]

Logic is not your forte, OP.

Cheapness, however, is.

[Anonymous]

I didn’t get one and I’ve worked so hard for the past 9 months in lockdown. Even when I wasn’t allowed to work, I still went during shelter in place. I called my agency today on the way home from work. I’m a former teacher and they told me I’ll be snapped up in no time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If she's worked for a third of a year, I'd give a third of a week's pay to her.

+1

At only 4 months on the job this is reasonable.

[Anonymous]

Yes. You want the person who you trust with your child to feel valued and appreciated. You also want the person that you trust with your child to observe health protocols. The time off was not of her choosing and was beneficial to your family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We’ve had a nanny for four months. Under normal circumstances, I’d give her a nice holiday gift (money). But this year, we have given her a ton of time off for covid reasons/our vacation time. For example, a few weeks ago we gave her three days off because we had a worker in our house who had covid, and now she’s off a whole week because she also may have been exposed to a worker in her own home with covid. Given that we’re essentially giving her three straight weeks off in December due to that exposure and holidays. I want to be generous, but it also seems hard to swallow giving her a 500 dollar check when there’s so much paid time off. What’s appropriate here DCUM?

Well, it appears we have found ",Covid Mary"! None of these were her fault and you would have had a fit if she had come to work after being exposed to Covid by worker in her house. Yes, you give her the $500 bonus. You are so cheap it is pathetic.