If you were the other woman or woman who dated a man after he cheated on someone why?

[Anonymous]

Drunk. Young. Convenient.
When a woman wants sex with no strings, she’s a whore or a slut. Single men brag about sleeping with her, and a reputation follows. Married man? He’s not telling anyone. Her secret is safe. She just wants non-committed sex without being slut-shamed.
Men can sleep around and it only helps their reputation. How about we stop with slut shaming women?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was young and stupid, with low self esteem.

+1

fell for the love-bombing. biggest mistake of my life.

[Anonymous]

He was honest about it and his lack of ability to be monogamous and I wasn’t looking for anything serious

[Anonymous]

DW cheated on her ex with me. It was sexless and failing she claimed. Either way 16 years and two kids and things are going great.

[Anonymous]

Let me guess, OP. We should be with the nice guy who’s been there for us through all the ups and downs, but we always thought of as only a friend.

Someday, mom is going to kick you out of the basement.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why give a cheater or ex cheater a chance when there are so many other men?

Because I sincerely don't care where my partner sticks his dick. I'm not insecure or jealous in that way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was young and stupid, with low self esteem.

+1

fell for the love-bombing. biggest mistake of my life.

This is one category, and the other category is the other woman who is also married and has what the cheater thinks is a mutual incentive to keep it hidden.

[Anonymous]

I only knew he was a cheater when he cheated on me...it's not like guys broadcast that about themselves.

[Anonymous]

OP, I say the same with racists. Honestly, a high percent of cheating in the DMV is from traveling men. Also, there are so many micro-social circles. It’s hard to know if someone is telling the truth when you meet them.

[Anonymous]

Single men are needy and want a relationship. Married men are just there “for a good time” as am I. The wife will handle everything else for them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We made an arrangement which worked for us both. We traveled together, went out to local restaurants, had dinner with friends his wife knew. Master of manipulation, never marry a lobbyist ladies. Went on for almost a year, cut things off after I stated a normal relationship. I'm certain her had other women on the side as well. It's never one one women when men cheat.

But why did you do this when there are plenty of single men? Also why would you knowingly go to dinner with friends that know the wive? Did you enjoy the feeling of knowing you were with another woman's husband? Is it a power thing? (not OP)

The men I have dated did not check all the boxes the way this man had. It was nothing to do with her but how I felt with him. The friends were his (along with his wife) but they were unware of exactly who I was to him during the time. The breaking point was when we were out one night on the town, met another couple talking casually and he introduces me as his wife. The sinking gut feeling hit me at that moment. He spoke about her freely, openly complained. Sent me pictures while they traveled together. The relationship dynamic became more of a close friendship with benefits.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We made an arrangement which worked for us both. We traveled together, went out to local restaurants, had dinner with friends his wife knew. Master of manipulation, never marry a lobbyist ladies. Went on for almost a year, cut things off after I stated a normal relationship. I'm certain her had other women on the side as well. It's never one one women when men cheat.

But why did you do this when there are plenty of single men? Also why would you knowingly go to dinner with friends that know the wive? Did you enjoy the feeling of knowing you were with another woman's husband? Is it a power thing? (not OP)

The men I have dated did not check all the boxes the way this man had. It was nothing to do with her but how I felt with him. The friends were his (along with his wife) but they were unware of exactly who I was to him during the time. The breaking point was when we were out one night on the town, met another couple talking casually and he introduces me as his wife. The sinking gut feeling hit me at that moment. He spoke about her freely, openly complained. Sent me pictures while they traveled together. The relationship dynamic became more of a close friendship with benefits.

Didn't you feel like a big, dirty sleezeball?? I never would date/screw a married guy--and man was I propositioned all of the time in my 20s (still am decades later). I was hot enough to get successful, single men---not somebody else's sloppy seconds.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We made an arrangement which worked for us both. We traveled together, went out to local restaurants, had dinner with friends his wife knew. Master of manipulation, never marry a lobbyist ladies. Went on for almost a year, cut things off after I stated a normal relationship. I'm certain her had other women on the side as well. It's never one one women when men cheat.

But why did you do this when there are plenty of single men? Also why would you knowingly go to dinner with friends that know the wive? Did you enjoy the feeling of knowing you were with another woman's husband? Is it a power thing? (not OP)

The men I have dated did not check all the boxes the way this man had. It was nothing to do with her but how I felt with him. The friends were his (along with his wife) but they were unware of exactly who I was to him during the time. The breaking point was when we were out one night on the town, met another couple talking casually and he introduces me as his wife. The sinking gut feeling hit me at that moment. He spoke about her freely, openly complained. Sent me pictures while they traveled together. The relationship dynamic became more of a close friendship with benefits.

Didn't you feel like a big, dirty sleezeball?? I never would date/screw a married guy--and man was I propositioned all of the time in my 20s (still am decades later). I was hot enough to get successful, single men---not somebody else's sloppy seconds.

I would have also thought HE was a dirty sleezeball for doing that to his wife and family (and in such a flagrant manner).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was young and stupid, with low self esteem.

+1

fell for the love-bombing. biggest mistake of my life.

This is one category, and the other category is the other woman who is also married and has what the cheater thinks is a mutual incentive to keep it hidden.

PP. you replied to. Neither of us were married but we were both in committed relationships (no kids). We left our SOs, got married a couple years later, had kids. Lasted 12 years before he repeated the pattern all over again. Joke's on me!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was young and stupid, with low self esteem.

+1

fell for the love-bombing. biggest mistake of my life.

This is one category, and the other category is the other woman who is also married and has what the cheater thinks is a mutual incentive to keep it hidden.

PP. you replied to. Neither of us were married but we were both in committed relationships (no kids). We left our SOs, got married a couple years later, had kids. Lasted 12 years before he repeated the pattern all over again. Joke's on me!

No matter how many times a women knows that story, she always thinks she's special and he'll never do it to her. The only time that works is when he finally is old and marries her very late in life when his testosterone levels are cashed. If they didn't do any work for their cheating ways, they aren't going to be any different the 2nd time around. The 'wife' (or 'husband' for women cheaters) will always be the problem in their eyes--not them.