Husband is depressed and I feel like I’m suffocating

[Anonymous]

I can somewhat relate. My husband hasn’t been diagnosed with anything as he’s never met with a therapist but he has been so overwhelmed with stress and frustration over work. He wakes up everyday feeling down and he’s not taking care of himself and it is just so miserable most of the day every day. I miss having fun together and I just miss him. I try to take time to create joy for myself (exercising, relaxing bath etc) but this coupled with Covid has been so hard.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sorry, OP. It’s hard. I was recently diagnosed with major depression and I found these articles were helpful in that they hit very close to home. My spouse thinks depression is “shameful” so I am trying to come out of this alone. Can your DH take some time off of work?

https://www.storiedmind.com/relationship/11-relationship-traps-of-depression/

https://www.solutionstoallyourproblems.com/marriage-and-mental-health/

thank you for this

[Anonymous]

I think of it as brain flu. And the flu has his sleeping and crying and then he has moments of clarity and I relish those. The problem is he needs to work during those but he also wants to spend time with the family and its all frantic for us because we have "normal".

see the doctor, get your meds checked needs to be my priority when he's not crying or sleeping

[Anonymous]

Is your husband receiving treatment from a professional at this time?

If not - I would encourage him to do so.
The right medication(s) can make a huge difference in both of your lives.

I see this as the only option where you can both co-exist together.

Wishing you the best. 😀